"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Okay- this is beginning to piss me off

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Well I mentioned in an earlier thread about this shy girl in my class that I sent a rose to.
She was nice at first but very soon I noticed she started to avoid me. I found out she friggin blocked me yesterday. That was all fine with me at first since I must be repeatedly doing something awful wrong cause it's happened to me with another girl and I am now pretty immune to it.
But I just happened to be partnered up with her in class today and she ****in swore at me under her breath and the teacher told her to take it easy on me, lol.
Whatever I am doing wrong, I am determined that this time, I will not, and I WILL NOT be insulted again. Three years ago this would've been a fatal stab to the heart, but today I feel like I was punched in the nose. I actually got sort of angry at being insulted for doing nothing to insult HER.
What confuses me is that there was another girl who did this to me and tore me apart years ago, and she was all physical appearance and was actually pretty *****y. This shy girl is probably the exact opposite of her (yes I changed my taste.) So I MUST be continuously doing something real wrong to repel girls off like that though I can't for the life of me figure out what it is.
And if she were to, say, unblock me, is it wise for me to say hi again? It MUST be my problem because she is probably one of the nicest people that I know of and EVERYONE who knows about this supports my interest in her. But as I said, I will not allow myself to be ripped apart again. Never. (I REALLY believe that I am a guy who is more attractive than the way I’m being treated right now, and I’m actually surprised at how blind she is. She really, really, really, has a beautiful personality and I couldn't imagine her swearing...)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Maybe you're ugly or somethin... hmm... sometimes you may think you're attractive... but sometimes that's not the case.. a picture of you would help..
 

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lol dude. i don't have a pic with me but yes I have bad skin. But **** that because the last time it happened to me my skin was pretty damn near perfect. But I barely have an acne on me now its just some scars so I'm pretty satisfied with my look and I have a STRONG body. Or are you just being sarcastic? Cmon, I need some decent advice. i can name one dude who is a total IDIOT and's got a gf now and he's like beginning to be attacked by pimples, and I can name another dude who is overweight, short, loud and annoying, and has a pretty decent lookin girl.
oh yes, and by attractive it's not all looks :)... it's my brain too.
 

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Hmm yeah I was bein sarcastic.. but hmm.. this is what I think.. Like you said.. she's shy.. she prolly doesn't have this happen to her a lot so it is something new to her..

She blocked you though.. which is a bad sign.. hmm.. She might not like you.. But no worries bro.. just move on.. there are tons of girls out in the world.. I wasn't successful with every girl I approached.. but I've had my share of success, just not 100%.. hehe.. Good luck bro!

EDIT: just thought of this.. maybe you're coming on too strong and scaring her off?
 

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yeah maybe i'm comin on too strong. but i hardly say a word to her in days and it almost seems as if she's ignoring me and she SWORE at me remember..... shiit now I'm beginning to get a little pissed again, I was in a real good mood for a while :D...but i've just began to learn the difference between a dj and a needy wussbag too, so as ACDC put it, i got the penis so i make the rules biotch- or at least that's what i'll try to do :cool:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Possible Analysis....

Is it possible by sending a rose to this chick you come off as a nice guy? Possibly she insults you because she thinks you can take **** from her.

Don't take her crap, stick-up for yourself. Don't appear as an AFC.
 

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Cross is right, go the fvck up to her and ask/say whatever you want to say.

I would recommend asking her why the @#$% she's muttering things under her breath
 

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yes i might seem like a nice guy by givin her a flower. is it possible she's EXPECTING me to just walk up to her and talk and because I haven't done that she thinks i'm a pvssy and decides to give me some sh!t and do a little test?
 
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