"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I have read the bible over and over, however, I still have this one problem. BELIEVING IN MYSELF. You see, when I get rejected, it is usually, (I believe), due to a girls reconigizing my lack of confidence, by not taking control. There's times when I totally take control, like at a club, or alone with a girl, but most times, I don't. My goal is to keep the mind-set I have when I am taking control. I can't explain it, it's like a mind-set that is "above all the rest." I can't understand it, but if you guys can, please tell me three things: what it is, where it comes from, and how to keep it at all times...so I can truly be successful with women.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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There is no magic pill cure for lacking confidence.

What is it:

Simple answer, confidence is the lack of fear.

Where does it come from:

Experience.

How do I keep it at all times:

You don't.

-Al
 

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That makes sense.....the lack of fear, because sometimes I might really become fearful. But I m just so afraid to get a girlfriend, lose my confidence, and she leaves me. I am really a lamb on the inside instead of a lion, and I have to act like a lion to get her to fvck me, but can I keep doing that in a relationship, hell no.
 

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There are 3+ billion women in the world, so what if she leaves you, or you leave her for that matter. If **** works it works, if it doesn't move on.

Stop thinking of women as prospects for sex, think of them more like they're your guy friends. You don't have to be a lion to get them, you just need to stop trying so hard.

-Al
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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BUT listen man....in all honesty, I tried the hard to get **** but I am still horny, still aint gettin none, and still dont know how I can be the man today, and a chump tomorrow, when I m doing the same **** everyday. I NEED A GOD-DAMN GIRL!!! And if I can't look at hoes for prospects for sex, okay, then I'll look at my boys then! WHAT THE HELL MAN!! I JUST DONT GET THESE GIRLS...
 

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Also, most likely you've been on a success high or rush when you felt all jolly. I know I feel good when that happens. If this isn't your problem, then desperation is because your CAPS LOCK told me you were.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You can only be a failure with women if you give up and quit trying. Also, you have to remember that if you don't take care of yourself first, you really aren't worth a damn to anyone else. If you want to feel better about yourself and feel more confident you need to start doing more things that make you feel good and make you happy. I'd suggest putting a little more of your time and energy in self improvement/enrichment than you do on worrying about the opposite sex. Never give up, obviously...but sometimes putting more focus on other things can help clear your head and allow you to gain a better persepective on things.
 

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Originally posted by PVSSY-EATER
Thanks for the reply, but I have done all that and it still doesnt work all the time.
It doesn't work all the time because you put your happiness into the hands of women. You need to put your self in control of your happiness. Next time you 'screw up' with a girl, try your best to not feel bad about it and like Wild said, just keep trying. Also, put more effort and focus into yourself than women. I used to have oneitis and I guess I kinda still do, but my issue was I was always down because I always saw her with another guy or whatever. Now my happiness lies with my successes and myself so nothing can bring me down.
 

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Originally posted by PVSSY-EATER
BUT listen man....in all honesty, I tried the hard to get **** but I am still horny, still aint gettin none, and still dont know how I can be the man today, and a chump tomorrow, when I m doing the same **** everyday. I NEED A GOD-DAMN GIRL!!! And if I can't look at hoes for prospects for sex, okay, then I'll look at my boys then! WHAT THE HELL MAN!!
What the f<beep>k is it with these guys and instant gratification? Dude, repeat after me, "THERE IS NO F<beep>KING MAGIC PILL" It takes work. Until you stop begging for a magic pill and start realizing that it's going to take some seriously hard work you're never going to get a woman!

I JUST DONT GET THESE GIRLS...
No matter what you do, no matter how much you read, no matter how hard you try, you will NEVER get these girls. It's simply impossible because you're not a woman. Try to get yourself first, that may actually lead you toward enlightenment.

-Al
 

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Confidence comes from when you know you are good at something... you see it in musicians who only know how to make music, or kungfu experts who know they can beat anyones ass , or bouncers at a club who are good at crowd control, all display alot of confidence...

Be good at something that is highly regarded by chicks and your confidence will grow..
 

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Just approach girls...see what works, and what dosen't. It's a learning experience.

Rejection is better than regret.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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