"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ok wtf? 8pm and im left with my d1ck in my hand...

LoneWolf

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so i went out with girl 1 today (the one i went bonkers over) and we met up about 2pm, hung out and all that, went to see a movie at 4pm, came to my house about 7.30pm we get here. im a little pissed off because when we were going inside shes like "i cant stay long" so im like "oh you got work tomorrow?" shes like "no im going fishing on the boat with my dad tomorrow morning. gotta get up at 5am." - so we go inside and get into my room, i set the mood with my lamp and awesome music, she mentions "wow its almost 8pm." im like "is that bad?" shes like "yeah i gotta go soon, i cant stay long." obviously im thinking to myself, FUUUUUK, NO SEEEX!

we start making out and stuff. half way in shes like "we cant do anything tonight." im like "thats cool." i say "is it... that time of the month?" and she said "yeah" probably bullsh1t but whatever.

sh1t man she could of told me she had to get up early the next day then we could of came to mine earlier.

i wanted to get her top off, which she did but stopped at the bra. she kinda hesitated. she said "we can still make out though." we did but not for long and she had to leave. i led her to the door and i didnt walk her to the car this time, i was just a bit pissed off. here i am thinking all day/night im gonna get some but then this happens. so i kiss her goodbye and shes like "you wanna do something this weekend?" im like "umm ok, well ill call you or something during the week." and that was it. MOTHA FUkAaaaaaa!

now shes a nice girl and i really like her but you guys know how it is, when ur hard as a rock and then she leaves you hangin. just annoying. it wasnt just cause i didnt get any.. its more that we dont get to chill out at my house. every other time we just had sex and she would have to go cause it was like midnight and she has to get up 5am for work everyday.. im cool with that. the whole reason i wanted to see the movie early today was to come back at mine and chill for a while. geez, now its 8pm and im a bit dissapointed. i dont like the whole idea of just coming to my house after our dates, then having sex and she goes home. feels funny thats all. like we just in it for sex. i actually want to spend more time with her on our dates, alone. was the only time we were alone today, blahhhh. well at least im seeing another girl tomorrow and thursday another.

do you guys think she was lying? was it some kinda test? am i being a jerk for thinking this way?
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ease

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What a fag, 'i just want to spend time with her', 'she always leaves after sex'.
 

LoneWolf

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yeah yeah, real funny man. im fine with it. i just like hangin out at home with music on and stuff. guess it was bad timing :) i just had a hot shower and im feeling good now. some guys are just a little more affectionate bro, like me. its just who i am. but im playing the game as good as i can so i dont scare her off. lucky for me theres three other girls on my plate.
 

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I dont think it was a test purely because she counter offered a date for the weekend. Also If shes a nice girl and sees sex as a bigger thing unlike a party girl who wouldve just let u nail her real quick, then maybe shes not into 5 minute quickies. You shouldve thought about the time constraint and not even initiated anything. Power through denial of sex. Freeze outs when a girl denies sex i REALLY found to be the only thing that works. The good thing is she counter offered... You seem like a chilled out dude. I think i know what you mean.. if every date of mine could be girl coming over to my house sitting on the couch watching movies and stuffing our faces until we eventually gotn asty and she stayed over all night til morning were mornign sex ensued.. that'd be all I do... but dont get stuck in that... dont get boring
 

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LoneWolf said:
we start making out and stuff. half way in shes like "we cant do anything tonight." im like "thats cool." i say "is it... that time of the month?" and she said "yeah" probably bullsh1t but whatever.

You reacted the right way at first, but instead of saying "is it that time of the month", you should have kept kissing her, ignoring what she said (we can't do anything tonight).

so i kiss her goodbye and shes like "you wanna do something this weekend?" im like "umm ok, well ill call you or something during the week." and that was it. MOTHA FUkAaaaaaa!
I'd say that she wants you, she just isn't ready to bone you yet. You have other options, so this should not bother you in the slightest.

do you guys think she was lying? was it some kinda test? am i being a jerk
for thinking this way?
Who cares if she was lying, she has offered to see you again, so there will be another opportunity. As I said, you have other options, don't stress about one girl.
Reply in bold.

Also can you clarify if you've already banged her before?

every other time we just had sex and she would have to go cause it was like midnight and she has to get up 5am for work everyday.. im cool with that.
I can't tell if you are talking about this particular girl, or girls in general from your past.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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LoneWolf

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MikeBrown30 said:
Reply in bold.

Also can you clarify if you've already banged her before?



I can't tell if you are talking about this particular girl, or girls in general from your past.
oh, sorry. yeah we have "banged" twice so far. i know when i asked "is it that time of the month" that it was stupid. curiosity got the better of me and i just wanted to know why she said that. she agreed straight away so it kind of led me to believe it was a lie. who knows.
 

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LoneWolf said:
so i went out with girl 1 today (the one i went bonkers over) and we met up about 2pm, hung out and all that, went to see a movie at 4pm, came to my house about 7.30pm we get here. im a little pissed off because when we were going inside shes like "i cant stay long" so im like "oh you got work tomorrow?" shes like "no im going fishing on the boat with my dad tomorrow morning. gotta get up at 5am."
Instead of begging for sex (which you didn't get anyway), you should've come back with:

"Oh really! Well, we gotta get you home so that you get your zees, now don't we?"

Shittesting 101 my friend. ;)
 

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Yeah I would have to agree with the guy above me. First of all, I think the persistence rule mainly applies to girls that you havent banged yet. If you banged her twice and she is still seeing you, then she obviously is interested in you (even if it is only for sex) and you don't have to keep persisting so much if she says that she can't have sex right now (that doesn't mean stop being sexually aggressive). Secondly, denying a girl sex makes them go CRAZY (first hand experience). Basically you should have replied with what the guy above me said.
 

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Lonewolf, just something I picked up while reading through your post.

You're too outcome dependent. Too focused on the sex or lack thereof.

Women pick up on this and you will come across as desperate, etc.

If she leaves you with blue balls, usually the best approach is to act like it doesn't really matter at all - It sucks when it happens, but It lets the woman know that you're in control, which women really, really dig.

basically, be the bigger man.

Happy hunting!
 
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