OK to break up via text under some circumstances?

[joverby]

Some of you may know what has been going on w/ me, maybe not though.

The gist of it is, things haven't been going so well w/ me and my GF(only technically speaking) to put it lightly.

About 6 days ago she texted me she didnt know what the hell was going on and didn't know what kind of relationsihp involved peroids of not talking (I stopped initiating contact w/ her and it took her until the 3rd day to send me that, that was the only contact)

I waited until the next day and texted her, told her I just cut back because I noticed I was the only one doing it and I figured she would want to talk to me or ask to chill eventually.

She said that she had apparnetly texted me two days ago(at the time) and I didn't reply back so she thought I just didn't want to talk to her and got pissed about it. And she thought his whole fight was stupid. ( I thought OK cool! I know we're both stubborn people so hopefully we will just realize it's a simple misunderstanding)

So I text her I think it's stupid too and that I would never ignore her intentionally. She doesn't reply, I wait like an hour and a half. Call her, no answer. I see she updates her facebook and is commenting back and forth with peole like right after that (from her phone) So it was just blatant ignoring. I got pissed and sent her a text asking if she'd be able to put it past her because I deserved to know.(didn't word it the best but i was pissed and fed up) ........No response.

I called her a couple times since then (one time each day, last night was the latest) No response still.

I obviously know it's ****ed and has been....I just don't get why she's avoiding talking about it. It's like she knows why I'm calling and doesnt want to get it over with. Or even text back breaking up w/ me herself. Like wtf, why won't she just properly finish this.

Which is why I ask if it's alright to break up via text. Not like it really matters that much anyway, I'm just wondering if you would bother to keep trying to call her to do it, or just text her and tell her. Since I've tried a couple times now.

 

[cordoncordon]

You are going about this all wrong. I know this goes against every urge you have right now, but the BEST thing you could do is to "act as if". Act as if everything is great, that you don't have a care in the world. Don't call her. Don't text her. Don't do a thing with her. When she calls or texts (and she will) act as if you are the happiest guy in the world and you have been hella busy doing all kinds of fun things. Do NOT let her see that this is bothering or affecting you in a negative way. She will wonder to herself exactly why you are so happy and carefree. That will make her want you that much more, trust me. Then YOU can decide to stay with her or not. IF you do, sit down with her, have a very open and frank talk about how you want each of you to stop playing little games and to put your best efforts into the relationship. That way, if it fails after that, at least you know you both tried. And if you don't want to be with her? Sit her down and just tell her you care a great deal about her, but it just doesn't look like it is going to work.

Either way...you win.

 

[joverby]

You're right man, you always have solid insight. I actually have been good about being care free and not thinking about it lately. Which is why I've just called her a couple times in like 4 days because I really wasn't thinking about it as much(key word as much).

I'll heed your advice though and let her see if no way that anything she is doing is bothering me, that's where I keep ****ing up clearly. But you're right about if I decided I wanted to keep going out with her that a talk like that would be crucial. I won't hold me breath for that but good advice just incase.

Thanks.

 

[cordoncordon]

You're right man, you always have solid insight. I actually have been good about being care free and not thinking about it lately. Which is why I've just called her a couple times in like 4 days because I really wasn't thinking about it as much(key word as much).

I'll head your advice though and let her see if no way that anything she is doing is bothering me, that's where I keep ****ing up clearly. But you're right about if I decided I wanted to keep going out with her that a talk like that would be crucial. I won't hold me breath for that but good advice just incase.

Thanks.

No problem and best of luck. Just remember that no matter how down or low you feel because of this, it too shall pass. I look back at some of the times I was so bent out of shape over a gf and I just have to laugh. So useless to do.