"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ok this has been bugging me. thoughts?

smoothtalker72

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i've been talking to this girl for a while now. we text here and there and talk a lot when in person. however lately when i've tried to call her she neither picks up nor does she call back and i did leave a voicemail message. today i tried texting her afterwards because there was a problem at one time where she had a hard time receiving phone calls because of phone issues. didnt get an answer there either. now i dunno what to do. i feel like i should just stop talking to her but i also feel like i should at least find out whether it was a phone problem or she was just ignoring me.

i need some help making a decision here guys help me out please. should i cut contact or try to contact her later today and see how that pans out?

note: we're both in high school (different schools) and i get the feeling that you have to handle these situations differently than you would with girls out of high school because they are just as new to this as most guys are.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Roy

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I would cut the attention with her for a bit, if shes still interested then she should contact you.
Maybe shes an afc and she is scared of talking to you on the phone?

I think that emotions cannot be seen through texts (unless you use smilies) whereas phone calls you can tell what she means and how she means it by the tone of her voice and the pauses she has between sentences. Especially if you make her think on the spot.

Personally i would try building some real life rapport with her first then i would go for the phone calls.
 

smoothtalker72

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i know her in real life. there was a time where we worked together, that was a while back tho. but yea, thats one for cutting contact. the other option for me is trying to contact her one last time tomorrow to maybe find out the situation like if she didnt have her phone or something. any more opinions?
 

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I say cut contact.

There's probably not a problem with her phone, and you constantly trying to get back to her just makes you look desperate. She'll come back to you if she's interested. Even IF there is something wrong with her phone, let her make the next contact.

Good luck
 

nicelife

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if she isnt replying to your txts n **** then hit her up in person and ask whats the deal.. if you keep trying to call/txt her you'll look desperate most likely..
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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intrextrovert

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Don't make a small thing a big deal dude...

Just ask her next time you see her why she isn't picking up her phone or something.
 

smoothtalker72

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turns out she didnt have her phone. (still doesnt) she told me via aim today. thanks for the advice guys
 
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