"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ok this has been bugging me. thoughts?

smoothtalker72

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i've been talking to this girl for a while now. we text here and there and talk a lot when in person. however lately when i've tried to call her she neither picks up nor does she call back and i did leave a voicemail message. today i tried texting her afterwards because there was a problem at one time where she had a hard time receiving phone calls because of phone issues. didnt get an answer there either. now i dunno what to do. i feel like i should just stop talking to her but i also feel like i should at least find out whether it was a phone problem or she was just ignoring me.

i need some help making a decision here guys help me out please. should i cut contact or try to contact her later today and see how that pans out?

note: we're both in high school (different schools) and i get the feeling that you have to handle these situations differently than you would with girls out of high school because they are just as new to this as most guys are.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Roy

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I would cut the attention with her for a bit, if shes still interested then she should contact you.
Maybe shes an afc and she is scared of talking to you on the phone?

I think that emotions cannot be seen through texts (unless you use smilies) whereas phone calls you can tell what she means and how she means it by the tone of her voice and the pauses she has between sentences. Especially if you make her think on the spot.

Personally i would try building some real life rapport with her first then i would go for the phone calls.
 

smoothtalker72

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i know her in real life. there was a time where we worked together, that was a while back tho. but yea, thats one for cutting contact. the other option for me is trying to contact her one last time tomorrow to maybe find out the situation like if she didnt have her phone or something. any more opinions?
 

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I say cut contact.

There's probably not a problem with her phone, and you constantly trying to get back to her just makes you look desperate. She'll come back to you if she's interested. Even IF there is something wrong with her phone, let her make the next contact.

Good luck
 

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if she isnt replying to your txts n **** then hit her up in person and ask whats the deal.. if you keep trying to call/txt her you'll look desperate most likely..
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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intrextrovert

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Don't make a small thing a big deal dude...

Just ask her next time you see her why she isn't picking up her phone or something.
 

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turns out she didnt have her phone. (still doesnt) she told me via aim today. thanks for the advice guys
 
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