T Money
Senior Don Juan
I don't meet many women who I actually find strong attraction to mentally. But I've found this one and I want to tell her how I feel. But I want to do it in a way that won't put her in charge. Should I SHOW or TELL?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Ok, this has always been hard for me with women
- Thread starter T Money
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
dj ben2
Senior Don Juan
i cant tell you how exactly because im still learning but do not tell her. chances are she already knos but do it through body language and actions and dont buy gifts
T Money
Senior Don Juan
Gee thanks for the words of wisdom, I already knew that.
dj ben2
Senior Don Juan
lol i tried
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
you need to feel out what kinda girl she is. Easily split it into 2 types... if she is fake and shallow chances are when you are being real she will not like it... those girls like games... but if you feel she has a good mind on her, than she is obviously mature and I would try by giving not overly signals of your interest in her as more than a friend. You will see if she responds. In this case I don't recommend mind games because you feel the two of you see eye to eye and that will not help.
I would wait for the right time and maybe do a little kino (touch her in a way that she will know ur intersted a bit) and than make a funny joke or something, look at her in the eyes and dont look away and then with a smile perhaps semi-serious semi-joking say along the line of "i think im starting to be into you...." or whatever you need to do what is natural for you..
Last nite I talked with my friend (who is also a bigtime DJ its always 1 after another with this guy STR/LTR doesnt matter) and we came up with an idea for my current situation... sent her an SMS saying i miss her lips and skin blah blah and she responded laughing so I left it at that...
1 thing is for sure, you need to make the switch soon because you don't want to enter the just friends world!!!!!!
I would wait for the right time and maybe do a little kino (touch her in a way that she will know ur intersted a bit) and than make a funny joke or something, look at her in the eyes and dont look away and then with a smile perhaps semi-serious semi-joking say along the line of "i think im starting to be into you...." or whatever you need to do what is natural for you..
Last nite I talked with my friend (who is also a bigtime DJ its always 1 after another with this guy STR/LTR doesnt matter) and we came up with an idea for my current situation... sent her an SMS saying i miss her lips and skin blah blah and she responded laughing so I left it at that...
1 thing is for sure, you need to make the switch soon because you don't want to enter the just friends world!!!!!!
T Money
Senior Don Juan
Well I usually just surf through girls, not really caring about them and it works in getting laid, but I actually have chemistry with this girl. I'll just play it aloof that works most the time.
If I tell her then she'll have the 1UP on me, so i want to avoid that.
If I tell her then she'll have the 1UP on me, so i want to avoid that.
I-am-someone
Senior Don Juan
Good plan - playing aloof...
Just make sure to make a move sooner rather than later.
There's no better way to tell a girl how you feel, than to show it to her
Just make sure to make a move sooner rather than later.
There's no better way to tell a girl how you feel, than to show it to her