Ok, so I'm doing that "ignore her for a few days stuff"...and.....

[I Am Lost 18]

Today's the 3rd day.

We're great together, there is sexual tension (she says she gets very shy around me or when I give her compliments). KINO is great, she always makes excuses to touch me, run her hands over my shoulders, arm, back, etc.

We hug, I kiss her cheek everytime we meet, etc. All great.

So fast forward, I'm ignoring her right now, for a while, it's the 3rd day today. And she has sent me a number of texts and online messages, asking what happened, etc?

I couldn't stop myself from answering some, but I quickly regained and told her bye, leaving her shocked.

Now, DJs my question is, how do I ignore her texts/messages/calls without coming off as an a-hole?

Because she will ask me later what happened, why did I ignore her messages? I can't just say I'm busy, because last I recall, it doesn't take much time or effort to type out "Sry, busy".

??

 

[Blood Angel]

You can always just text "Sorry, busy." It's takes five seconds, ensures that you don't come off as a prick and is pretty much just as good as ignoring her.

 

[I Am Lost 18]

Yeah, thats what I said in my last 2 sentences.

Because she is very close to me emotionally and sexually, I dont want her to get the wrong ideas and end up losing her instead of pulling her towards me.

 

[Impecable]

Ignoring only works to a certain extent: ignore more than you should and she will lose interest.

 

[shaunuk]

This will (often) increase desire up to a point, but there does come a point that you have to realise that any more ignoring is counterproductive to your goal - i.e. you ARE actually trying to hook up with her.

She seems anxious about what's happened now so I'd say stop it for a bit (some would say push-pull)