Ok, so I have officially hit a wall ...

[Firefly]

I am feeling so sick and tired of everything right now.

I have spent the last six years trying to make myself a better man. My achievements include:

* Getting into grad school at a top ten university.

* Establishing my own successful business (which I am now winding down to a part-time gig after a change of career)

* Becoming registered to become a health professional, and getting a position with one of the largest health providers in my country.

* Losing 30 kg (60 pounds) over the last couple of years. I am still heavy, but now people comment that I look muscular rather then fat.

* Getting a part-time position organising events for alumni and students at my university, where I get to meet a ton of gorgeous young women. I also have a ton of social proof - Because I have events which bring 100+ people to bars, many venues in my local area know me and the staff come out to say hello, offer me free drinks etc. I also get free invites to movie premieres, theatre openings, that sort of thing.

I know I should be happy with what I have achieved. But none of this seems to have made a bit of difference when it comes to romance or sex. In the last six years, I think I have had less then 30 one night stands and one f*ck buddy. Pretty much every one night stand I had seems to result in the woman never wanting to speak to me again. When I am interested in a relationship, the woman ends up running away when I express interest and f*cking some douche. Half the time when I talk to a woman, she loses interest in minutes and wanders off, or does not even want to meet up.

I am out of ideas. I don't know what else I can do. I want to just give up, stop meeting people, stop working out and just buy a g*damn XBOX and sit at home and play all day, which would probably have gotten me the same results over the last six years.

BUT I REFUSE TO F*CKING DO SO. I WILL NOT ALLOW MYSELF TO BECOME THE PATHETIC GUY I WAS BEFORE. JUST BECAUSE THIS ONE PART OF MY LIFE IS LACKING DOES NOT DIMINISH MY SUCCESS EVERY WHERE ELSE.

But I don't know what I can do to improve this one part of my life. I am willing to follow pretty much any suggestions you guys have right nowm because I have no f*cking idea.

 

[DonJuanit0]

1st) Location Location Location!!

Where do you meet those chicks? Chicks that you met and made out with from bars/night are not looking for LTR most of the times! Have you tried the day gaming? Looking for women in different places, cafeterias, restaurants, cinema, mall!!

2nd) Thinking!

You said that NONE OF THOSE ONE NIGHT STANDS has concluded in a LTR!
Maybe you're thinking, that if you f*ck her she will propably want a LTR, I'm sorry but you're wrong! Have you tried dating WITHOUT sex? Get to know each other and staff! The second date will incude sex BUT with a promising of a third date!

3rd) Your speach!

Maybe you are being too needy or too romantic or AFC or ANYTHING that can lead a woman to run away from you! Listen to yourself when you speak with them and try to understand where you're being mistaken!

All the best luck!

 

[Galactus]

There's so much information we don't have, it's hard to know what areas you need to improve in.

I think that, as time passes and you worry more and more about not getting laid, it starts to show in your actions, and in the things you say. Maybe you should shift your focus from trying to get some, to watching for signs that you are improving in other areas. You could be taking too much of a direct approach.

Take the focus off yourself. Instead of concentrating so much on how to get a girlfriend, concentrate on doing good things for others. I don't mean be a "nice guy", as in "sucker", but just be really social with everyone, not just fine women, and be the kind of guy that everyone would like to be.

That's what I'm concentrating on right now, and I think I'm seeing results. It takes time to shift focus like that. It won't happen overnight, but I think it's the right path. For me, at least.

Hope this helps.

 

[DonGorgon]

welcome to being a human make in 2010.. 99% of men have problems finding sex fbuddies and relationships.. males over population has given women alot of options and power and most women are not longer good for anything except a few Fs.. sad reality.. many successful men like you end up being a john and or a sugar daddy to some HB10

human nature is no toward monogamy so use your resources to F as many fine women as you can before you die..

 

[The Experience]

"Half the time when I talk to a woman, she loses interest in minutes and wanders off, or does not even want to meet up."

-What are you saying when they run off?

-I'm guessing you've already read most if not all of the stickies.