"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Just after I came out of my marriage, I met a woman shortly after separating from my wife and we had a couple of dates ,she knew I was not quite single but she showed plenty of interest and we kept in touch,.
After my divorce was through I phoned her and we chatted and had a laugh but she called me her boomerang.
I texted her around 2 days later and told her I was her boomerang no more.

5 days after this occurred she texted me several times asking what I was up to etc I told her about some date I had been on and kept things short answering her other questions but only with short replies.
Now today this is now a week on from her last contact with me she texts me ..
This..

Just a quick ello and goodbye. I am having a spring clean of my phone contacts and I'm afraid your for the bin lol, nothing personal just deleting
people who I never see or speak to from my past. Hope you find your special lady be happy my little boomerang,maybe or paths will cross again one day who knows take care ...


I would like to see her again, one I was prob developing oneitis and she knew it hence the boomerang term.
But what is a good response.,Without losing face
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"I might be a boomerang, but i certainly wont be returning to you :)"


Sorry, couldnt resist...... :)
 

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So you originally asked you out and she turned you down? The boomerang thing....not sure what that was about....

Now you've shown you're not interested in her and she's trying to get you to ask her out again.....? Probably so she can turn you down again I'm assuming.

If she wants to go out with you she should ask you now, since she originally turned you down.

She's trying to get a reaction out of you so I'd ignore it. Then keep ignoring her until she says something meaningful like apologizing for her immature behavior.
 

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She's fishing for a reply of some sorts. I don't know why you didn't just set up a date already. Things don't look too keen at this point, so you may as well go down in flames. Wait a few days, and on Friday ask her to do something Saturday. Make sure it is something "you'll already be doing" so it doesn't seem like a loss on your part if she says no.

If she doesn't reply, gives a büllṣhit answer or whatever, who cares. Then you'll be certain she's just toying for your attention without a scope.
 

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Thanks for the replies , I already told her I'm no longer her boomerang, so I will give it one last shot and make it something real casual like Vlad suggests
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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So I have not made contact with her yet (by text or phone), but last night I noticed she has made a POF profile and visited my profile.
So I sent her a message saying I think she is weird for stalking me.
She replied pmsl after seeing you on here (we met through another dating site) trust you to see through my disguise
 
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