"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Just after I came out of my marriage, I met a woman shortly after separating from my wife and we had a couple of dates ,she knew I was not quite single but she showed plenty of interest and we kept in touch,.
After my divorce was through I phoned her and we chatted and had a laugh but she called me her boomerang.
I texted her around 2 days later and told her I was her boomerang no more.

5 days after this occurred she texted me several times asking what I was up to etc I told her about some date I had been on and kept things short answering her other questions but only with short replies.
Now today this is now a week on from her last contact with me she texts me ..
This..

Just a quick ello and goodbye. I am having a spring clean of my phone contacts and I'm afraid your for the bin lol, nothing personal just deleting
people who I never see or speak to from my past. Hope you find your special lady be happy my little boomerang,maybe or paths will cross again one day who knows take care ...


I would like to see her again, one I was prob developing oneitis and she knew it hence the boomerang term.
But what is a good response.,Without losing face
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"I might be a boomerang, but i certainly wont be returning to you :)"


Sorry, couldnt resist...... :)
 

plate's_empty

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So you originally asked you out and she turned you down? The boomerang thing....not sure what that was about....

Now you've shown you're not interested in her and she's trying to get you to ask her out again.....? Probably so she can turn you down again I'm assuming.

If she wants to go out with you she should ask you now, since she originally turned you down.

She's trying to get a reaction out of you so I'd ignore it. Then keep ignoring her until she says something meaningful like apologizing for her immature behavior.
 

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She's fishing for a reply of some sorts. I don't know why you didn't just set up a date already. Things don't look too keen at this point, so you may as well go down in flames. Wait a few days, and on Friday ask her to do something Saturday. Make sure it is something "you'll already be doing" so it doesn't seem like a loss on your part if she says no.

If she doesn't reply, gives a büllṣhit answer or whatever, who cares. Then you'll be certain she's just toying for your attention without a scope.
 

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Thanks for the replies , I already told her I'm no longer her boomerang, so I will give it one last shot and make it something real casual like Vlad suggests
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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So I have not made contact with her yet (by text or phone), but last night I noticed she has made a POF profile and visited my profile.
So I sent her a message saying I think she is weird for stalking me.
She replied pmsl after seeing you on here (we met through another dating site) trust you to see through my disguise
 
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