"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ok, maybe I am not getting it...

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The last two nights we had cast parties after our school musical. One kid, who was annoying as hell was making out with a girl in the corner, while one of my AFC friends was macking a girl in other corner. Also, a bunch of other kids were dancing with girls for five songs in a row...

I was dancing also, but usually aftrer grinding for one song, I either leave for another girl, or they leave. Last night, they usually left so I tried to find another lady.

What am I missing here??? How are guys able to make out with girls who are not as good looking or as funny as me?? I am not getting it--it's like girs just like me as only friends and that will be it forever...I have no clue what to do. I am not gettiny anywhere past the friendzone in high school-imagine when I go to college in a few years. How do I plan on getting chicks there if I cannot even do it in high school...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Chicks Just Dig Me said:
How are guys able to make out with girls who are not as good looking or as funny as me??
don't worry... you'll be making out with plenty of guys... some girls are hot, like you, and still don't get attention...

maybe those guys are intimidated by you.
 
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lol, I am a guy! Haha, but anyways I just don't understand why this is becoming so hard for me. Seems like no one else is having trouble with this besides me. I mean, kids these days are having no trouble at all and I am missing out on my teenage opportunities because the girls are coming tough for me and I do not know how to do about it...
 

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ok it seems like ur really depending on ur "good looks, and being funny" to get a girl. those guys that are getting some that u think arn't as goodlooking or as funny dont have something that instantly makes girls attracted to them, no they make an attraction by the way they treat em or talk to em, or the way they use kino, theres many diffrent ways u can do to change ur success with women, u just got to find something that works.
 
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Well, I mean I am not the best, I am pretty average. I work out and take care of myself. But kids in my school are always hooking up with girls and my friends are getting the girls, but me I am having trouble. Seriously, I don't know why I make this so damn hard. I think my main problem is after we have been talking and laughing for a little while, I do not know what to do next. After meeting for a little while, I have no clue what I should do next. So I just keep on trying to make them laugh, which sometimes may get old. Also, sometimes I get really silent and do not know what to say next, which also hurts because in my mind, silence is not good. So after having a little fun for a little while, what is a good thing to do to escalate? And how should I do it??
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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ok i can tell u got ur conversation down, what ur missing is the courage to make a move. just kiss her thats it. words to live by "dont think just do". the more u think the more u convince urself not to do it, and the more u do that the more time u waste. you'll never know what she'll do til u do it so do it. or u can use a line to kiss her, what really works for me is, ME= do u like suprises. (odds are she'll say yes), when she does kiss her. She'll prolly be smiling if she likes it, if she does what i like to do is wait like 3-5 seconds and then kiss her again but this time even longer, keep it goin if she keeps it goin. hope this helps u out
 
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Okay, I see your point. So I need to just take chances instead of thinking too much. I just need to go out and so what needs to be done? I need to step up to the plate and just put myself out there and stop being a pansy about it--Okay got it.

But, another problem. Whenever there is a girl, and the guys are tryin to get her, it seems like I can never come in first with competition. I seem to always fall behind or even come in second. This one girl my 3 friends and I met, my friend is getting her, in which I came in second. But it doesn't matter what place you come in because if your not first, your last. :p

Any tips of being the alpha male of the group. How can I win these battles when there is competition??
 

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I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT IS GOING ON IN UR HEAD, and i no the SOLUTION

right now when ur convoing it up, ur in a secure place where both u and the girl are comfortable and like each other but ur afraid that if u make a move ul be entering uncharted territory and u might lose control and ul **** up and shel stop liking u. in order to escalate u have to be willing to GIVE UP ur current state with her. next time visualize u FAILING COMPLETLY with her, while taking note of how ur ego responds. visualize u being perfectly ok with her hating u. then making ur move will seem so much easier.

u arent afraid of ****ing up. ur afraid of breaking ur ego. alot of people are.

those afcs who get the girls. i bet they have ALOT less pride then u do. i no right now u whud HATE urself if u became a loser but u gotta be able to accept urself even if ur not cause thats the ONLY WAY UL BE ABLE TO RISK ANYTHING. those afcs dont care, they are just trying to have fun thats why there able to risk and escalate.

be willing to accept urself EVEN IF U FAIL, and ul be able to win.
 
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