"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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OK, it's time for a fresh start!

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Over the last couple of months, a major shift in my attitude has occured. I used to care so much about what people think of me. I was constantly trying to please people and would analyse many interactions I had with others to death. Strange eh? Anyway now I have come to the realisation that I only give a damn what my friends think of me, and what my family thinks of me. THAT'S IT. In light of this, I thought now is the time to finally get my last few insecurities out the way. The first two threads I have made at this place have been whiny, anxious etc. Once this post is out the way, there will be no more of that crap.

Three last insecurities to get out the way then - 1. Am I very ugly?

There is a video on YouTube of a piece of Film Studies coursework that I did, basically it's group work where we had to create a 3-5 min film sequence. I am tempted to post this to get an answer for no1. Only problems are that I'd rather not have hundreds of people see the video, and also I run like a complete retard towards the end of the video. Is there a trusted member around here that I could PM the video to and they could take a look? Cheers!

2. Analysing pupil size in girls WAAAAY too much. It gets me down that whenever I am talking to a girl, they seem to have those really small pupils that suggests that they don't like me (and this is in neutral light, not bright sunlight or anything). Does this necessarily mean that they are not into me at all?

3. Often when I talk to a girl, they look like they are on the verge of laughing, they possess this weird kind of smirk on their face. Does this mean they find me to be a complete joke, or is this a positive thing?

You can answer honestly to these questions!
Thanks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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1. Can't answer that without a pic (or that retarded video.)
2. Pupil size is a very poor indicator of attraction. Too many other factors affecting it.
3. Probably a good thing, really depends on how their other body language and their reactions to you are.
 

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1) I'm not a trusted member by any means (I haven't been here very long), but feel free to PM me with the URL. I wouldn't spread it on here, don't worry. Check out my post history if you want proof of my "kindness."

2) I've never really paid attention to pupil sizes. I don't like reading that far into things. But, maybe they're not attracted to you at that moment (you just met them), but would have been later on. However, since you got caught up on their small pupils, you lost confidence and they never became attracted to you.

3) Same answer as #2.
 
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