Ok, im really frustrated..

[DJnoob]

well.. I just wanted to be friends with this HB8.5 at work.. I would say, we have had less than 30 minutes of conversation if you were to tally up all the time we spent talking to each other from day 1.

So, I asked her to go to the fair with us tomorrow with my friends. I called her up and left a nice message in her voice mail like one of those funny ones.

So far, i didnt receive a call back. I know for a fact she has a BF but i dont want to date her or anything.. I just need for for social proofing. Ive negged her many times and haven't hit on her or anything because she knows she's cute im sure at the age of 19.

I never chased her like other guys do and never acted needy or any of that stuff.

I wonder why she didnt call back? I'm not an ugly guy.. at least I dont think so cause women at work flirt with me.

For the love of god, i just wanted a HB friend, how hard is this.. less than 30 minutes of rapport not enough to be friends with co-workers?

 

[tmpgstx]

Hmmm, maybe, just maybe now, it could be because she has a bf?

Of course it is. She's just being friendly at work. If she were to initiate things that would be different.

Did she give you her number? Or did you get from work?

 

[DJnoob]

Hmmm, maybe, just maybe now, it could be because she has a bf?

Of course it is. She's just being friendly at work. If she were to initiate things that would be different.

Did she give you her number? Or did you get from work?

We worked in the coffee bar department together back in january. She worked there for a month with me until she trasnferred out. She has called me a "jerk" in a friendly way beacuse thats the kind of atittude I showed her. Days before she left, I asked for her number and told her that she and her friends should come join one of our parties that my friend throws. Im aware she has a BF and she told me she has a BF. Even the day after I asked for her number, she said "hi to me" and I nodded my head and tried not to sound too "EXCITED"

Remember this was back in january.. and I haven't called her since then.

6 MOnths later, she comes back... i work in a different department now and she still works in the same. I never bothered going to her department to buy coffee where she works to make it look like im not putting any effort or anything. But, I would run into her randomly in the store and chat for 1-2 minutes and i'd usually make fun of her and throw in some negs. And so, last week I ran into her again and we chatted for like 5 minutes. I negged her lightly, some fluff talk, little rapport. I thought that was the perfect opportunity to ask her to come with me and some buddies to this fair due to the fact that i didnt have to go ALL THE WAY to her department just to ask her if she wanted to go which wouldve seemed desperate.

DJNOOB: "Hey if you can come along next week with us, cool.. If not, thats cool too"

I did a great of talking to her and asking her out. Noone could have done it any better.

So.. im thinking in my head that there could be several factors.

A. Im not white, im asian but i dont look anything like chinese
B. She has work the next day so she just didnt bother calling cuz her answer wouldve been "NO" anyway
C. Not enough rapport between us
D. Not good looking enough?
E. Boyfriend (So, aren't chicks with BFs supposed to be more friendly or open to other men???)

What do you thinK? I'd like to know what your experiences are witht his so that way I can apply it to future events.

 

[DJnoob]

What did you mean by "she would initiate things"? Meaning, she would initiate being my friend?

 

[tmpgstx]

It really depends on the girl. Some girls are quite loyal to their current boyfriends and some aren't. Some are always shopping around for something better and some settle thinking they've got the best (or the best they may get).

Giving you her number though indicates to me that she is hashing over the possibility of getting to know you better. If my gf did this to a guy at work, i'd put my foot down to her. Maybe that's what this guy did. Gave her an ultimatum saying if "You go with this guy and his friends, i'm gone".

Stay in her loop and when things aren't going well with that bf, you'll be one of her first options.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

DJNoob:

Bro your insecure! Not to mention extremely weird for thinking that a HB with a bf will not think your trying to get with her by calling her up and asking her to hang out. I don't care how you asked her, she's not dumb, she knows you want her on some level.

There could be a million reasons why she's not interested but that's not for you to fret over and figure out. Your job is to move on and meet more girls.

End of story



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