"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Ok...I tried the DJ Myspace Method

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So, I tried out the DJ Myspace method. I did a browse of women in my area & I picked 25 that I was attracted to & picked 25 randoms, just to see what would happen.

Along w/ a friend request, I sent a small note attached, that basically read..
" I like what you said in your "about me" & I couldn`t help but to send you message. btw, you really take very nice pictures. Hope we can be friends."

Mind you, the 25 I chose that I was attracted to, had alot of similar interests to me, so it just wasnt solely based on looks. &...I understand, my "line" wasnt exactly "original", but, Im just not the type of dude, who spews out bs lines, Im just naturally straight to the point w/ things.

I got 2 out of 50 & I basically feel like the f***ng ElephantMan about right now.:D
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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it sounds like your intro line is kinda generic, and also does not give them a reason to write back. It would seem to be better if you could engage them more, like ask a question. If what is written on this forum is to be believed, then the better looking ones are mostly probably really high on themselves, and have plenty of guys approaching them. If you don't say anything specific then you could easily be sending the same thing out to many ppl, and they will likely pick up on that. So don't take it personal if you don't get a lot of replies. I'm not a DJ, but I've had a lot of experience with scamming on the internet, and it always works better when I can make some kind of connection with them. So why not do that from the start.
 

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OTB said:
lol, Isn't feeling like the Elephant Man a really bad thing? :eek:
Dude, cmon.:crackup: 2 out 50 is PATHETIC. & like I said, 25 of em, were the kind of chixs, that I couldnt even imagine havin any guys hittin on them.
 

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Dude, cmon.:crackup: 2 out 50 is PATHETIC. & like I said, 25 of em, were the kind of chixs, that I couldnt even imagine havin any guys hittin on them.
Gratitude man. At least 2 responded. think of it as success. So next time try 100 that'll give you 6 friends. and then build from there. Then the networking should start making it easier.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Dude, cmon.:crackup: 2 out 50 is PATHETIC. & like I said, 25 of em, were the kind of chixs, that I couldnt even imagine havin any guys hittin on them.
Honestly, 2/50 isn't as bad as it seems. I think the guys who actually have gotten laid from myspace sent out literally hundreds of e-mails per day and usually get nothing back. Now you just have to make something happen with one, or both of them.
 

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Both of you are right, though..truly, in the grand scheme of things. Still though, it tends to whack the s**t out of my confidence. Seriously, as men, doesnt it make ya feel kinda worm-ish that YOU have to do all the approaching & that literally no woman finds you remotely interesting enough, to wanna approach you first.
 

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yeah I hear ya, but if it wasn't for that the balance would be off and women would have all the power. It's something that keeps them in check less they all start going on a slvt rampage and leaving a trail of devasted afc's in thier wake.
 

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Zappati said:
Both of you are right, though..truly, in the grand scheme of things. Still though, it tends to whack the s**t out of my confidence. Seriously, as men, doesnt it make ya feel kinda worm-ish that YOU have to do all the approaching & that literally no woman finds you remotely interesting enough, to wanna approach you first.
Haha,I think that worm-ish feeling you are talking about is the reason for this site and every dating book ever created. Women are just condition into thinking guys should always approach them, and since we do, they become used to it and really can't even imagine it the other way around.
 

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Haha,I think that worm-ish feeling you are talking about is the reason for this site and every dating book ever created. Women are just condition into thinking guys should always approach them, and since we do, they become used to it and really can't even imagine it the other way around.
Good point.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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elephantman? wtf?

Ok i agree with what somebody else said, you didn't give them a reason to write back. Basically you said, i want you to be my friend so answer me dammit. Give them a reason to.

I hate myspace, but i did come across one hottie on there i didn't know. I sent her a message that said "Nice profile song, I never knew girls could like classic rock too."

and well we ended up getting into a conversation about music and shlt, and then i hit her with a, let's hang out line. I believe on something like myspace or something, girls will have their guards up much more, due to the horrible social stigma of meeting people online.

So i believe to get a date, just make it sound like her profile had something that caught ur eye, you wanted to comment about it, then keep the conversation going long enough to build some comfort, then ask her to hang out with you.

After that, you can be flirty and come on stronger in person.
 

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Danny....I grew up 20 mins from Belle Vernon in Carmichaels. Small world.;)
 

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So, I tried out the DJ Myspace method.

You didn't try my method.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=128126


Myspace works, but there is a lot to it. I'm just guessing, but I bet you have "dating & relationships" in your 'here for' section, hardly any friends, a profile about nothing, and pictures of you alone and looking creepy. I don't mean this as a slight against you, it is simply how most guys on sosuave approach myspace. Then when it does not work for them, they dismiss myspace as a complete waste of time, which it is if done poorly.

Just like real life, don't tell a hot girl she's hot, and make her wonder a little if you are hitting on her or not. Make a page that is designed to express your main interests and hobbies. Put up pictures of you out having fun in public with other people. The shirtless bedroom self-pic that I see over and over again is a cliche' of creepiness. Do not act like you need myspace to get girls. Compliments get you nowhere with hot girls; you have to act like you don't notice that she is hot. For example, if a girl were to post a pic of herself in a bikini and a cowboy hat, 99% of guys would leave comments telling her she looks hot and had a nice body. Be that one guy who teases her about her goofy hat, and she will not ignore you like she does all the other guys. Be different, and you will get different results.
 

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yea this is basically a numbers game. You need to just keep sending them out and eventually some will respond. 2 out of 50 aint bad. And trust me, these girls are literally getting hundreds of emails a day. I went to lunch the other day with an HB 8 and she said she gets hundreds of emails a day, she doesn't even have time to read them so she just deletes most of them. She said something really has to stand out if she's going to open one up. (i know, all these damn AFC's are messing things up)

That being said, you may wanna try a new opener, something less original and definitely something that will catch her attention.
 

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Sandow...Im in Redondo, bro. Small world..AGAIN. Hundreds of emails a day...wow, that s**t just blows my mind. I would have never guessed that on there. Dude, the guy 2 chik ratio just has to atmospherically high on there. damn.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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