"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Actually, I know I'm out of it. It wasn't hard really. I just stopped being so nice to her (AFC era of my life ended December last year) these past months. I don't sit and listen to all her problems unless I really do want to hear them (sometimes I think it's funny when she tells me about how this one boy is sending her mixed signals ROFL. I gotta give the guy mad propz. His tactics seem so familiar). NOTE: Whenever she brings up the subject of this guy, I don't let her talk to me about it. But sometimes I'm just interested in how her "love life" is going. Anyways, now when we talk, she's is saying that this guy is doing the exact same thing I'm doing. Wow.

I used to talk to her daily last year but now I call her like once a week (if that). I really got her missing me now. When I finally saw her Wednesday (after about 2-3 weeks) she came and stood beside me and hugged me (never does she do this) and she puts my arm around her (of course I don't keep it there, I wasn't gonna give her the impression that I was actually still falling for her). We talk a bit throughout the rehearsal, but I give her little attention. At one time, I tell her to sit beside me and she does. She then tries to start up her little game again and starts talking to another guy (trying to make my jealous). Well I just get up and walk away and sat and flirted with another gurl the rest of the time. She was kinda like "Wtf just happened?" After the rehearsal, she looked kinda down also.

I see her tommorow and I'm wondering, what do I do next? I've gotten thru to her that she ain't the prize no more. Do I need to continue to give her little attention? Or tommorow should I try a little bit of my game and add a good bit of kino and such in there?

Forgive me if this post makes little sense.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How long have you known her for? If is not too long ago then you have to do the pull push technique. Give her some attention then pull away that should do the trick. If you have known her for a long time, then you might have to work a little harder. Btw don't listen to her when she talks about other guys she is testing you
 
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Hey! It sounds like you are doing the right things! Keep it up!
But...getting out of the friends zone is a VERY VERY hard thing to do.
I still maintain, and I don't mean to put you down, you're still in the friends zone until you get the lay. And even then, after being there for so long, she could rethink.
The best thing you can do is to develop your game for another reason than her. If you're learining this stuff to be with a particular girl, then who really has the power?
Good job man, keep it up.
 
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