I really need to change. I am not happy at all with my current path,and it has been weighing down on me for some time. This was after last night,went out with some people from work and had a blast. I realized what I have been/am missing. Of course,alot of it relates to lack of women as well,which has me concerned about certain things in myself,but I realize,I lack confidence,I have to find a way to gain the right confidence that I want.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Ok,I have decided....
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
MikeYikes122
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Great man, good for you.
Now can you start pressing the space bar after commas. That has always drove me nuts in all of your posts.
Now can you start pressing the space bar after commas. That has always drove me nuts in all of your posts.
Heh, I will remember to do that from now on. I think my two main problems are, Fear/embarrasment due to say, certain inexperiences, and feeling like I am not where I want to be on all levels. Socially, educationally in particular. My routine is I usually get up midday, go to work till 11, and them come home, and on days off, I just sort of drift about.
I think I do have the problem of putting people on pedestals, and that causes anxiety. But I also want to not come off as weird or a creep. Something really bugging me as well is this feeling of lost time. Time that I could have been really doing what I need to do, but feeling so overwhelmed with this depression I guess. How does one get over that?
I think I do have the problem of putting people on pedestals, and that causes anxiety. But I also want to not come off as weird or a creep. Something really bugging me as well is this feeling of lost time. Time that I could have been really doing what I need to do, but feeling so overwhelmed with this depression I guess. How does one get over that?
guywhoneedshelp
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It sounds like you need a new group/hangout place.ItsOnNow said:Heh, I will remember to do that from now on. I think my two main problems are, Fear/embarrasment due to say, certain inexperiences, and feeling like I am not where I want to be on all levels. Socially, educationally in particular. My routine is I usually get up midday, go to work till 11, and them come home, and on days off, I just sort of drift about.
I think I do have the problem of putting people on pedestals, and that causes anxiety. But I also want to not come off as weird or a creep. Something really bugging me as well is this feeling of lost time. Time that I could have been really doing what I need to do, but feeling so overwhelmed with this depression I guess. How does one get over that?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Yeah, Have somewhat needed that for a while. I am tempted to just start going to bars and hanging out, which I feel I should have been doing. But how do you overcome the cliqueishness, I feel Like I know the answers, just lack the motivation.
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join social group...dance class...even you don't dance...they have pratice and get you approach women ...
Hit the gym. sport team..etc
For motivation...You have a boring life what do you expect ? Go out a create your life
Write down what you want and go out get it..step by step
Enough with loser attitude.
Good luck
Hit the gym. sport team..etc
For motivation...You have a boring life what do you expect ? Go out a create your life
Write down what you want and go out get it..step by step
Enough with loser attitude.
Good luck
That's part of my problem, a serious lack of motivation. I mean,seriously. It has affected many parts of my life. It's a depression. I am getting rather concerned about it for many reasons. There is also this feeling of lost time/missed opportunities. Esp. with people and women. I have just never been able to go for it,know what I mean? Why,I don't know. I mean,I feel behind everyone else, and there are all these tips on what to do, yet I don't follow them.
I do have a list of what I want, but I don't know, something is missing.
I do have a list of what I want, but I don't know, something is missing.
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If you want something, then just go for it. Really that's most of what the advice on this board boils down to.
I think it's the whole overthinking thing. Don't think, just do ya know. This has been a problem for me for a long time. I just don't see myself or find the time do do it, yet I wonder why I am here alone w/o an s.o. I have the problem of feeling, oh, a bit jealous at times.
But what is killing me is this feeling of lost time, missed opurtunities, mostly due to being at home all the time, work, home, whatever. For like years, early 20's sucked.
But what is killing me is this feeling of lost time, missed opurtunities, mostly due to being at home all the time, work, home, whatever. For like years, early 20's sucked.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Hey, IOS. Start by saying you are a happy person (whether you are or not). Say that you ARE confident. Don't concentrate on the fact that you aren't happy and confident anymore and watch your attitude and beliefs about yourself swiftly change.
It's what you tell yourself that is hurting you, and the more you tell yourself positive things, the more likely it will sink into your subconscious. I know you can do it.
It's what you tell yourself that is hurting you, and the more you tell yourself positive things, the more likely it will sink into your subconscious. I know you can do it.
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I was thinking about joining the co-ed volleyball league at Robert Moses Beach. They do it on Sunday nights, pretty convenient, and it's 6 on 6. Fun, not too competitive, and they form teams based on skill level.
I betcha if I join I can make new friends. See, it sounds kinda depressing, but that's the reality of the situation. Most of my friends are too busy doing stupid stuff to hang out with me anyway, hence, most of my friends have fallen from the waste-side. But that's the way life is.
I betcha if I join I can make new friends. See, it sounds kinda depressing, but that's the reality of the situation. Most of my friends are too busy doing stupid stuff to hang out with me anyway, hence, most of my friends have fallen from the waste-side. But that's the way life is.
ready123
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WoOhOOOO!!!!!
I see you haven't started.ItsOnNow said:I know about the whole positive thinking thing, but I feel so locked into this negativwe thinking, it is hard for me to break out of it.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Furyguy
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That's how life goes. You waste a lot of time doing **** the wrong way before you figure out the right way. That's just part of the learning process that everyone has to go through.ItsOnNow said:But what is killing me is this feeling of lost time, missed opurtunities, mostly due to being at home all the time, work, home, whatever. For like years, early 20's sucked.
At least now you realize that you have to change. Get started, it's a slow process.
And start lifting weights. It'll give you something to do, and it makes you feel great mentally, physically, and emotionally.
You ask for motivation? I give you the greatest motivation of all times that almost everyone fails to understand: DEATH!
Death, truly, is the ultimate motivator. Do this little exercise for me. Look up crime reports and news stories. Look up poverty issues and hunger struggles in third world nations where people are dying left and right, moment by moment. Look up support websites for the terminally ill patients. Go read their forums and some patient profiles. Go watch couple of good war movies and understand the character development of the soldiers and their ultimate, untimely death.
Do all of those things. What you will come to realize is that your existence, your health, and your life is temporary. You could wake up tomorrow with a terminally ill disease OR you couldn't wake up at all tomorrow. If this were to happen to you, then ask yourself these questions.
How will you feel when you're lying there at your deathbed KNOWING that you didn't live the life YOU'VE wanted? How will you come to a closure with yourself while the sword of regrets and missed opportunities dances above your head? How will you be able to utter these words that could not be farther from the truth, "My life has been a complete waste"? How will you be able to DEPART from this world when your physical, mental, and spiritual self is filled with anger, resentment, fear, regrets, mistakes, and failures?
Can you truly die a happy man?
Figure this you, and things will become a whole lot easier.
Death, truly, is the ultimate motivator. Do this little exercise for me. Look up crime reports and news stories. Look up poverty issues and hunger struggles in third world nations where people are dying left and right, moment by moment. Look up support websites for the terminally ill patients. Go read their forums and some patient profiles. Go watch couple of good war movies and understand the character development of the soldiers and their ultimate, untimely death.
Do all of those things. What you will come to realize is that your existence, your health, and your life is temporary. You could wake up tomorrow with a terminally ill disease OR you couldn't wake up at all tomorrow. If this were to happen to you, then ask yourself these questions.
How will you feel when you're lying there at your deathbed KNOWING that you didn't live the life YOU'VE wanted? How will you come to a closure with yourself while the sword of regrets and missed opportunities dances above your head? How will you be able to utter these words that could not be farther from the truth, "My life has been a complete waste"? How will you be able to DEPART from this world when your physical, mental, and spiritual self is filled with anger, resentment, fear, regrets, mistakes, and failures?
Can you truly die a happy man?
Figure this you, and things will become a whole lot easier.
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To the OP:
Yeah, you can start going to bars and stuff, but I think there are two other things you should do as well, maybe even before you hit the nightlife in your town.
You need to make sure you get your look and your style right. How do you dress? Do you know style? How do you look? Are you in shape? Maybe you should start going to the gym or running, and maybe you should post some pics as well so we can help you get your look right.
I also think you should join a volunteer club to get to know some people. Join Big Brothers Big Sisters if you're living in the states and you have a stable job/career. My friend met tons of people through doing that.
Yeah, you can start going to bars and stuff, but I think there are two other things you should do as well, maybe even before you hit the nightlife in your town.
You need to make sure you get your look and your style right. How do you dress? Do you know style? How do you look? Are you in shape? Maybe you should start going to the gym or running, and maybe you should post some pics as well so we can help you get your look right.
I also think you should join a volunteer club to get to know some people. Join Big Brothers Big Sisters if you're living in the states and you have a stable job/career. My friend met tons of people through doing that.
Well, to the last two posts, the whole regret feeling/not dying happy, being filled with regret, etc, is a feeling I have felt for a long time. So I know the feeling.
How Do I Dress,eh, I like to think I have my own style, heh heh. No. I am not in shape, and have not been for a while, that's another thing killing me. I could have gotten into shape before, but didn't. I mean, do slightly fat guys have a chance? Part of my problem is this self realization of how have not taking action before is affecting me now. Get What I mean?
How Do I Dress,eh, I like to think I have my own style, heh heh. No. I am not in shape, and have not been for a while, that's another thing killing me. I could have gotten into shape before, but didn't. I mean, do slightly fat guys have a chance? Part of my problem is this self realization of how have not taking action before is affecting me now. Get What I mean?