"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ok I got like 3 grls that I want to setup dates with next week?

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How do you guys do it lately I have had a few women flake on me and I just next them but how do I prevent flaking? I was gonna ask these 3 on sunday and see what nights they are free what do you ask them and how do you prevent them like day of ignoring you or them telling you wait I cant go?

I know you don't text a lot n stuff but if interest or none how do you get them to want to go or think about you etc..?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Cant prevent flaking much altho you can generally get an idea of interest level based on your previous interactions.. I would not ask what nights they are free simply say i wana go do xyz on wedsnesday you should come, etc. if they cant maybe theyll suggest another day, if they dont suggest another day probably not interested, wait a bit try again or just next. Keep conversation to a minimum between then and the date.
 

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The easiest way is to tell them you'll pick them up and to be ready at x-time. Then, at the very least, if they flake they have to call you up. It's harder when you have to meet them in public, but when you're going on a first date - especially if you're doing online dating - you typically end up doing just that.

Ultimately, you have to ask out girls that are highly interested. I know, I know, "but how can I tell if they're really interested or are just playing along but plan to flake?" This is why it's good to either ask her out via a phone call or in person - it's easier to LISTEN to her voice and/or SEE her reaction to you asking her. If she jumps at the idea or sounds really excited, she's most likely not going to flake; if she hesitates or says "oh, when am I free? Uh, hmmm..." chances are she's going to flake. You can also tell by if she says something like "oh, Thursday would be great, can you call that day to confirm?" or "Sure, that sounds good, I'll call you if my plans change last minute." If you hear these, you're better off planning another date, 'cause she's already figuring out how to cancel on you.
 
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