"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ok, how do you make new guy friends?

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Yes little curve from the normal topics on here but, every one of my friends is in a committed relationship thus meaning they're 99% of the time busy doing relationship stuff and I've been finding myself filling free time with random girls.

That's all fun and all but lets face it most of them I don't want to see on a regular basis and some I'd rather never see again.

I realized I don't necessarily know how to just make guy friends at this point? I'm so used to gaming I don't want to just walk up to random fellas and use pick up routines lol

Plus I'm not a club/bar person so how and where would I even find single cool guys that could potentially become good close friends?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I am finding myself in the same boat. I'm watching this thread to get some insight myself. It was a lot easier before marriage, children, divorce, etc..
My day is filled most of the time and when I do get some down time, I just want to rest. I was never one that had dozens of friends. I usually had just a few close friends. Also, being in a small town doesn't help. I wasn't born here and it's one of those places that even if I lived here another 20 years, I'd still be a "stranger". Odd place to be at my age.
 
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Spend time with guys doing things and don't be too obnoxious or weird.

Usually I am pretty verbose but that's really all you need to know. Spend time with dudes at dude places (gym, bar, basketball court, shooting range, ren faires, Civil War Reenactments what have you) or work. If you are more or less cool and normal you will make at least one or two friends to spend time with.
 
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tryst type said:
Yes little curve from the normal topics on here but, every one of my friends is in a committed relationship thus meaning they're 99% of the time busy doing relationship stuff and I've been finding myself filling free time with random girls.

That's all fun and all but lets face it most of them I don't want to see on a regular basis and some I'd rather never see again.

I realized I don't necessarily know how to just make guy friends at this point? I'm so used to gaming I don't want to just walk up to random fellas and use pick up routines lol

Plus I'm not a club/bar person so how and where would I even find single cool guys that could potentially become good close friends?
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Form new guy habits and run into new guy friends.

Friendships tend to develop organically as a result of what and where you're doing what it is you like - not as a result of you making a deliberate effort to 'find a friend'.
 
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FairShake said:
Spend time with guys doing things and don't be too obnoxious or weird.

Usually I am pretty verbose but that's really all you need to know. Spend time with dudes at dude places (gym, bar, basketball court...
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I agree.

Take classes for anything and chat people up, volunteering is always good.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Most of my close guy friends are meat heads... So I met them at the gym. I think one the keys to having good guy friends is mutual interest, and healthy respect for each other. Meat heads don't respect you if you're pu$$y pencil neck dude who curls and benches for his entire work out.
 
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