ok DJ's, requesting help on one of those chick's who likes to play games

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bit of a read, i know... BTW, i have NEVER opened up to HER like this. i am always C&F, confident, throw negs, etc. thanks in advance for any help...

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me: i want to ask you about some stupid girl
koolChickFriend: oh
koolChickFriend: ok what?
me: i met some chick like 2 weeks and we've been talkin like everyday...
me: 2 weeks ago*
me: it's obvious to both of us that she likes me, and i like her
koolChickFriend: and?
koolChickFriend: do you want her as ur gf? or too soon to ask
me: i asked her if she's wana of those chicks who like to play games
me: well, i do like her a lot
koolChickFriend: like what kinda gmaes?
me: u kno.. "chick games"
koolChickFriend: games*
me: where girls test a guy
me: i guess that was a dumb question
me: bekuz i think most do
koolChickFriend: and ? her response?
koolChickFriend: depends on how the grls lifestyle is like
me: ok well besides that
me: i think she is ****ing with me
me: and i want to know if i'm thinkin irrationally
me: before i tell her to **** off
koolChickFriend: and if they jealous and always worried about themselves then yes they'll be

one of those chicks
me: maybe
koolChickFriend: well has she told you how she really feels
koolChickFriend: ?
me: i get all the signals
koolChickFriend: have u guys went out?
me: and yes... she asked me
me: yes.. we've gone out 5 times in 2 weeks
me: plus we talk everyday
me: txt msg and phone
me: i've met her brother and best friends
koolChickFriend: tell her what does she want?? if she's looking into a relationship or if she

just wants to see
koolChickFriend: really wow
me: see...
me: thats the thing
koolChickFriend: i dont think so
me: im pretty sure she is ****ing with me
koolChickFriend: i think she's fo reallz
koolChickFriend: no if she was why should she introduced u to her best friends n all
me: because she is tellin me she cant have a boyfriend kuz she works a lot
me: i know, but she is ****ING with my head
me: kuz she is one of those jealous chix proly
koolChickFriend: well what if she just cares that she doesnt want u to hate her or something
me: and if that's the case, i think i wana tell her that
me: yeah..
me: but check it...
koolChickFriend: well dont tell her to **** off
koolChickFriend: just wait another week
koolChickFriend: or 2 at most
me: "she cant have a boyfriend kuz she works a lot"
me: yet a lone all that...
me: she knows i dont want to be friends
me: we've said it
koolChickFriend: ask her is that the only reason why she cant have a bf
me: well i know she has time
koolChickFriend: meaning u want to be more than friends
me: example...
koolChickFriend: ..
me: i asked her if she wanted to go out last week... on the weekend
me: she told me she cant, shes going out of town
koolChickFriend: out of town for?
me: just vacation
koolChickFriend: has to be a good reason why
koolChickFriend: herself?
me: i know right...
me: well with her friends
me: but check this...
koolChickFriend: girlfriends or a bunch of guys or juss mixed pplz of grls n guys
koolChickFriend: ?
me: a girlfriend
me: but then...
koolChickFriend: ?
me: on sat. night she hits me up
me: asking if i'd meet her at a bar
koolChickFriend: and
me: where her brother was .. etc etc
koolChickFriend: did u?
me: i said id try and i made it for the last 30 min.
koolChickFriend: and then?
koolChickFriend: what happened during that nite>?
me: u kno we had a lil bond goin on and ****
koolChickFriend: wel ltahts good
me: but she was tipsy
koolChickFriend: was she like close to you the whole time?
koolChickFriend: remember tipsy tells the truth!
me: yeah pretty much... this is where it gets good
koolChickFriend: well have u guys been close ever since
me: we were sittin on a bench and i was looking at my phone and she was all pushing it away
me: kuz she thought i was checkin txt msgs from someone else
koolChickFriend: pushing what ur phone?
koolChickFriend: she's jealous
me: yeah, she wouldnt let me read it
me: i kno
koolChickFriend: she's diggin u man
me: but i wasnt even tho!
koolChickFriend: she wants u to herself =D
me: i was gona show her something
koolChickFriend: i know
me: OK THEN THIS IS WHY I DONT UNDERSTAND WOMEN!
me: ....CHECK IT
koolChickFriend: well did you tell her first that u anted to show ur something
koolChickFriend: her
koolChickFriend: *
me: no but whatever, i found out her jealousy
me: so i left it at that
me: then she started smacking me around when i was teasing her
me: and she gave me a kiss on the cheek before she left
koolChickFriend: aw
koolChickFriend: she likes u dood!!
me: i already know this...
me: but wait.
koolChickFriend: what about the nxt day
koolChickFriend: ?'
me: whenever i want to hang out, she always make some **** up
koolChickFriend: after that nite?'
me: NAH
me: even BEFORE
me: like valentines.. she told me...
me: (i asked her out for Vday)
me: and she says...
me: "aww man, i got talked into goin on a double date, but we can make it up tomorw? "
me: i said fine
koolChickFriend: i think that she's not ready for a realationship but she's like wanting to

see where u guys were headed.
koolChickFriend: double date
koolChickFriend: wtf
koolChickFriend: nahh..
koolChickFriend: she's fishing
me: this was like after knowin her 4 days
koolChickFriend: i say.. just b there but dont be there be there u kno?
me: the next day, she tells me she didnt go
me: this is before
me: playin games
me: im sure
koolChickFriend: well dont be so serious with her now then juss chill
me: well i wana tell her
me: how i feel
koolChickFriend: just see if she wants you she'll go for you
me: about her ****ing with me
me: dood i know this...
me: she WILL
me: but i dont like playing these BS games
koolChickFriend: she's not really ****ing with u
me: i like you, she likes me
me: dood.
me: she tells me she is going out of town?!
me: and she calls me Sat nite?!
me: wtf is that
koolChickFriend: true
me: saying she cant hang out on sat. before
koolChickFriend: dont be that serious dood
me: then on sat. nite ...
me: i say we goin out on tue. nite
koolChickFriend: i'm watching out for you b.c ur homie
koolChickFriend: and she bails huh?
me: monday nite i get a txt, wana hang out at my friends work.. blah blah
me: so i say koo, il go after im done with my work
me: thats where i met her best friends
koolChickFriend: well i think she's not that serious with u
me: why
koolChickFriend: yet
me: nah dood
me: it cant be
koolChickFriend: she just wants to know if u can hang
me: it's possible
me: but the way i talk to her...
koolChickFriend: if your jealous
me: she is ****ing with me though!!
koolChickFriend: well dont like baby her or something juss talk to her as "friends"
koolChickFriend: well dont take it to the head yet
me: hey.. remember yesterday
me: tue
me: we were suppose to hang out?
me: well she ended up working double shift at work
me: so i was like koo whatever
koolChickFriend: if she goes all out telling u how she feels and she wants to be more than

friends with u then make the move
koolChickFriend: well dont keep ur hopes up too much
koolChickFriend: its bad
me: exactly
koolChickFriend: it makes u worried like rai now
me: which is why i say she is ****ing with me
me: today after work i hit her up, she said she had today off
koolChickFriend: so dont be serious yet juss see if she's on you..
koolChickFriend: and?
me: im like oh u wana chill
me: she asks about my work, this and that
me: and then she says she goin to a movie with her friend
koolChickFriend: a girlfriend or guy friend?
me: who the hell knows, im not gona get jealous tryin to ask her.
me: well WHAT THE HELL! we were suppose to hang last nite
koolChickFriend: goo0d!
me: wouldnt she think of ME

 

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koolChickFriend: true
me: today!
me: im tellin u
me: she is ****ING with me
me: and i dont like u
koolChickFriend: i say dont ask her to chill.. let her ask you to chill u kno?
me: oops i dont like HER
me: doin that
koolChickFriend: dont say that.. then she wont talk to you ever
me: i kno
me: but i wana tell her that i kno
me: she is ****ign with me
me: and i cant do that ****
koolChickFriend: yea so does everyone else . but just be wise and let her want u
koolChickFriend: not u want her
me: i do, but not if she is gona play games with me
koolChickFriend: well then let her call u... let her ask you out.. let her do it.. not u
me: i kno for a fact she will
me: but i dont like that ****
me: when i wana chill she never does
me: but if she does, then it's like **** u kno
koolChickFriend: i know. its called attention
koolChickFriend: yeah i kn0 s0n
koolChickFriend: so juss do what u do chill
koolChickFriend: not be serious juss yet
koolChickFriend: ur moving urself a step forward
koolChickFriend: shoot!
me: foo
me: listen to me!
me: im koo with that
koolChickFriend: i kno
me: but why is she playin the game...
me: do u know what game i am talking about?
me: thats everything ive been typing
koolChickFriend: because she wants to know if u can handle "her"
koolChickFriend: i know man i know!
me: ur rite
me: i can handle it, i can give her space, **** i have a lot to do
me: but be straight with me
me: dont toy me around
koolChickFriend: i know shoot u guys arent even together so wth
me: yeah
me: i know she digs me
me: thats why she is ****ing with me
me: do u agree?
koolChickFriend: well dont say that that.. juss say it in some kinda way she understands
koolChickFriend: yep
me: if she is gona do that ****, then i cant let it happen
me: i need to back out right now
me: thats why i havent had a gf in like 3 years
koolChickFriend: if she keeps doing it then dont talk to her
me: well i wana let her know
koolChickFriend: well then shoot there's soooOoO many chicks out there man
me: exactly!
koolChickFriend: then let her know exactly how you feel then s0n
me: pretty much i wana tell her everything i told you, but in a calm smooth way
me: friendly way
me: kuz again, i like her
me: just dont like her game
koolChickFriend: u can do it s0n
me: and i kno this chicks a liar so i already kno we're gona have problems
me: she told a straight white lie in front of me
me: to her mom
koolChickFriend: yep then get out of it while u can

 

[banGbro]

We dont need all this chic talk, why dont you go back and edit your post, and put the important things in bald. I read half of first post, and Im bored.

 

[Raikojo17]

... it makes u worried like rai now

huh?

 

[Thomas94305]

At the end of 2 weeks, to be calling a gal every day.. that's just too much into a person, when you know nothing about her. We all have a need for love, but you're saying "I really don't know you, but here's keys to my kingdom".. WTF??? There's no substitute for time getting to know a person.

If I were in your place, I'd say to her, "you know what? people all over the place rush into a relationship, and ruin what could be a great thing. I like time with you, but I don't want to screw things up here by getting ahead of ourselves." Or, something to that effect. Then, I'd see and call her a bit less. If she's not your gf, then you don't have to see her all the time. Use the extra time to reflect on who she is. Critical: The space will let you honestly reflect on if she's the right person, and you will be better in control of your feelings to say this is/isn't right. You can date others, she can too.

 

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alright, thanks thomas !