OK can this go to far !?

[heater528]

OK....let me be the first to admit when i do something i do it balls to the wall. I wanted to change who i was and i did it... ive always been the leader of the group but when it came to woman i always ended up being an AFC... for the past 2-3 years ive changed, i dont rely on woman, i really take the i dont give a **** attitude, and i always get dates or have woman approach me ! However when i go on these dates i continue to exude confidence, if we go out to eat i make them pay, i neg hit on them, i play around with them and i let them know they are a dime a dozen... But usually after the first date i never hear from them again... And i refuse to call them... i heard from one of my friends the last girl i went out with thought i was ****y and arrogant.... i didnt think i was.. i never even boasted about myself ! So i pretty much went from a Nice guy to a complete Jerk... either way deep down i feel alone... how can you find the happy medium ???

 

[Disco]

""However when i go on these dates i continue to exude confidence, if we go out to eat i make them pay, i neg hit on them, i play around with them and i let them know they are a dime a dozen."

are you kidding me?

 

[squirrels]

Heh...you don't make the girl feel like she's dime-a-dozen. You make her feel like you're worth a million dollars.

If you deride and insult a girl and make her feel like sh!t, of COURSE she's not going to call you.

It's one thing if you're splitting the check or making her pay for her own movie ticket or something, but making her pay for you?? That's just unnecessary. And on a DATE date, as long as the bill doesn't get too high, you should just get it. And if the bill DOES get too high, it's your own fault for letting the date get out of control.

As far as "neg-hitting and playing around," there's a line between "neg-hitting" and just being offensive. A neg-hit, as it's called, is more just commenting on the quirky things she does or making fun of the goofy stuff she does in a way that makes HER laugh as well. The effect of "bringing her down from the pedestal" will be there.

Example, I'm in a bar and this girl walks up next to me wearing this cordurouy (sp?) jacket. I said hi to her and told her, "Nice jacket! I had pants like that when I was five years old!" See, it wasn't insulting, but it was "making fun."

 

[Knicknack]

squirrels got it right. it's good that you no longer feel threatened by women, but try to always make them laugh.

just go into every situation with the idea of making them have fun too.

let's she she hits your arm playfully. you can say, "whoa whoa there! no touching until at least the 3rd date!"

then if she touches you again you can say, "hey this aint a petting zoo!!"

it's little things like this that communicate to her on another level. it shows her that you "get it" and it AMPLIFIES attraction.

always reverse the game them. accuse them of trying to get in your pants. if she compliments you, say "hey thanks, but complimenting me won't get you in my pants any faster."

i'm not going to give you all the tricks i've learned. you now have some ground to stand on though.

 

[Dude]

Real neg hits only need to be used when the chick think's her **** don't stink. When she's put herself on a pedestal.