Ok... anxiety is freakin striking me...

[G Money]

So! I hit up some girl on OkCupid not too long ago, and everything is goin well and this whole week she was askin to meet me up, but me being the little bich I am said we'll wait for the weekend (prolly tomorrow Friday), plus I rather rest after work... but anyways...

I'm getting really freakin nervous guys! All of a sudden I "care" about what she's gonna think of me and if I'm gonna act properly or not... basically I wanna ask what the hell do I do, or any good advice, for the moment I meet her... conversation over text hasn't been too sexual or anything (only been talking since last weekend) but seems like she's digging me, and she's pretty cute too... Can I go in for the kiss upon meeting her or wait and hang out a little and somehow go in for the kill after?

Also, earlier this week, at night she told me she wanted to come over my house and possibly spend the night, so I think she definitely wants to fvck already lol... It's been quite a while since I hung out with a girl 1 on 1, so I'm freakin out!

Any advice or ideas for our 1 on 1 date would be great! Please

 

[flashpoint]

seems like she is anxious too. to meet you! so basically you can relax. not sure if you are able to, but you can. obviously there is nothing much you need to do, right? so why care? guess because it is a good thing to care. otherwise what is the point.

of course you are excited and that is a good thing, i mean who wouldnt? that shouldnt stop you from doing what feels right at that moment and what comes naturally. when i try to remember the times when i messed up in situations like this, it was because i didnt do what i should have done, not because i did do what i shouldnt have. does that make any sense to you?

 

[G Money]

seems like she is anxious too. to meet you! so basically you can relax. not sure if you are able to, but you can. obviously there is nothing much you need to do, right? so why care? guess because it is a good thing to care. otherwise what is the point.

of course you are excited and that is a good thing, i mean who wouldnt? that shouldnt stop you from doing what feels right at that moment and what comes naturally. when i try to remember the times when i messed up in situations like this, it was because i didnt do what i should have done, not because i did do what i shouldnt have. does that make any sense to you?

Yeah, thank you for the tip man, meet up hasn't happened yet, she lives kinda far gonna see what's happenin, but if it happens I'll keep this in mind

 

[alxrose04]

Sounds like she likes you already. In my eyes, half the battle is one. She's already sensed the awesomeness in you and wants to hang you with you in person. Best advice would be to stay in the moment. That helps a lot with the anxiety. What I mean by that is stop thinking of what to say next or what to do next. Instead listen to her words and react to them.

Listen to what she says and react to them!

Simple as that. All you're going to be doing is paying attention to what she's saying at that moment, not what she's saying 10 minutes from now. As for the kiss, don't worry about it. If the moment feels right, then do it. Whether it's at the beginning, middle, or end. But also remember that it's OK if there's no kiss at all. No pressure. It's all good. You're a stud.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Here's what you do, G Money:

Concentrate and focus on having fun. Make it a requirement for yourself that you are going to have fun wherever you are with her. This will take the pressure off, and it will turn your focus away from her and toward your own needs and desires.

YOU are the engineer of your own fun. If she wants to be a part of your world of fun, great. If she doesn't, good riddance to bad rubbish. You can't lose when you do this.