Oh, so frustrating... and a bit vexing

[alec11]

OK, so here's my little New Year's story, which I'm sure is a popular topic these days.

I had a small "pre-party" at my apartment with just a few friends and then went with two of them to the real party at thier friend's apartment. I did not know anyone at the party.

So a little while after getting there I was feeling pretty comfortable and relaxed, not really worrying too much about what the eventual outcome was going to be. Then, this really pretty girl approaches me in (what seemed like) a really obvious way. She just opens me out of blue with the question, "Do you know how to Square Dance?" I say, "no", blah, blah, blah... "where did you learn how" etc.

So we talk for 1/2 hour or so. At one point she gets a call from her someone and specifically tells me not to go anywhere, and she gets off the phone real fast. I don't give her my undivided attention, I make comments to my friends from time to time, but she always keeps getting my attention focused back on her.

Ok, so I've a had a bit to drink and at one point I knock of an empty beer bottle. I think, well that might have blown it, but no biggie. I handle it smoothly and it gets cleaned up fast. THEN, she suggests we go sit on the bed to continue talking. We're never really left alone 'cause its a small apartment w/ a lot of people around, but I figure things are going really well and my place is only three blocks away...

Now for the twist ending. I leave her to go talk to my friend and he informs me that, "she has a boyfriend AND he's at the party". Well, clearly this throws me quite a bit... no indication, never saw it coming, never saw the two of them speak to each other at all. At this point I have entirely no clue what to do, but somehow I end up back with her on the couch, and then finally he comes over and gives her a kiss.

So, that's it. I go home alone not really feeling all that great. I guess this is just a vent.

But I do have a question as well. Is it common for attached attractive girls to approach guys and keep them interested in such an obvious way just for kicks. Does it at least mean she found me attractive/interesting?

Sorry to make this so long, thanks for reading.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...But I do have a question as well. Is it common for attached attractive girls to approach guys and keep them interested in such an obvious way just for kicks. Does it at least mean she found me attractive/interesting?...

Absolutely, some women are actually friendly and to some it's an ego boost for them. You were interesting enough to her for that moment in time, eventually the moment ends.

 

[realsmoothie]

Second that!

In the future maybe you can use this to your advantage. Girls are attracted to guys whom other girls find attractive... so if a particular girl is talking to you at a party it's sure that the other ones there are noticing.

Don't let yourself get locked into one "target" at a party or a club. It's a problem I have been dealing with for years.

 

[Jay Jay]

Halfway thru that post I thought "she's trying to piss off her bf"

I've seen that **** before.

Okay, its NOT common for girls to do that for kicks.

They do it strategically. And yes they do it all the time.

Basically girls know the power of value and jealousy.

When a chick is not getting the attention from a guy she is after she will often pull the kind of stunt you just described.

Don't take it in a bad way. They will usually pick a dude that is pretty decent. They are trying to make themselves look like a prize. They will choose a guy who looks like he would be a challenge for the man in their lives. So take heart.

Learn to identify this kind of thing and you can turn it to your advantage. Hot chicks usually have hot friends...

JJ