HalfAddict
Master Don Juan
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There are plenty of other couple who would love to have a child and cannot, I suggest you two think about giving the child up adoption.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Oh My God Shes Pregnant
- Thread starter kingwilliam
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
kingwilliam
Senior Don Juan
I would NEVER give him up for adoption
HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA I wouldnt give him up for adoption for a TRILLION dollars.. He is my son you ****ing idiot.
As for the timeline, I posted about in March but I knew about since December... I was just getting perspective.. God damn, why do I have to explain every ****ing detail...
We live together, the baby is beautiful, the mom is gorgeous and Im happy... cant I just have that??? without all the ****ing doubt? I have no reason to come on here and lie. So for whoever said Im a "flame grilled liar", FVCK you buddy
HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA I wouldnt give him up for adoption for a TRILLION dollars.. He is my son you ****ing idiot.
As for the timeline, I posted about in March but I knew about since December... I was just getting perspective.. God damn, why do I have to explain every ****ing detail...
We live together, the baby is beautiful, the mom is gorgeous and Im happy... cant I just have that??? without all the ****ing doubt? I have no reason to come on here and lie. So for whoever said Im a "flame grilled liar", FVCK you buddy
so what's the mother f***ing problem then? the wh0re is georgeous, ya'll live together, and that poor little baby is going to grow up in a f*cked up household. i think the baby needs this forum more then you do so he can come here and complain about how stupid his parents are.:yes:kingwilliam said:
kingwilliam
Senior Don Juan
Ok, Let me explain one more time for the slow people.
When I found out she was pregnant, we had been dating for a couple of months. I am using the word "dating" very loosely here. Up until that point I have been living life like a ****ing rock star. I was single, a successful business owner, and I was having the time of my life......
When I found out she was pregnant, I was a little freaked out because obviously it was a big shock.... at first I didnt know what I was going to do. I knew that I certainly would provide everything the child needed, but I was uncertain about our relationship as I didnt know her all that well other than mabye 10 dates and hanging out a lot....
....after some deep thought about the situation, I told her I wanted her to move in with me and I would take care of her and child. After really getting to know someone for real (instead of just ****ing her), I actually began to like her and we grew very close. By the time my son was born, we were very happy together and excited about being together.
When I laid eyes on my son for the first time (in the delivery room by her side) I cant even begin to explain how I felt. I love that child with all my heart; he is my SON. He is beautiful.
Let me make it very clear that he will NOT grow up in a 'fvcked up home" as some on here have said. ... in fact, he is going to grow up in a wonderful home where he will be loved and taken care of his whole life.
I have nothing to complain about. So please people, I came on here to update you guys because I am happy and things worked out, not to here some ridiculous critisizm from a ****ing 20 year old..
I come in peace!!! :rock:
Isnt the whole point of this forum to find someone? Well this is my story. It ended well..... thanks to those of you who have something nice to say instead of just being a d1ckhead.
EDIT: Sorry, Im not putting pics up of my kid...
When I found out she was pregnant, we had been dating for a couple of months. I am using the word "dating" very loosely here. Up until that point I have been living life like a ****ing rock star. I was single, a successful business owner, and I was having the time of my life......
When I found out she was pregnant, I was a little freaked out because obviously it was a big shock.... at first I didnt know what I was going to do. I knew that I certainly would provide everything the child needed, but I was uncertain about our relationship as I didnt know her all that well other than mabye 10 dates and hanging out a lot....
....after some deep thought about the situation, I told her I wanted her to move in with me and I would take care of her and child. After really getting to know someone for real (instead of just ****ing her), I actually began to like her and we grew very close. By the time my son was born, we were very happy together and excited about being together.
When I laid eyes on my son for the first time (in the delivery room by her side) I cant even begin to explain how I felt. I love that child with all my heart; he is my SON. He is beautiful.
Let me make it very clear that he will NOT grow up in a 'fvcked up home" as some on here have said. ... in fact, he is going to grow up in a wonderful home where he will be loved and taken care of his whole life.
I have nothing to complain about. So please people, I came on here to update you guys because I am happy and things worked out, not to here some ridiculous critisizm from a ****ing 20 year old..
I come in peace!!! :rock:
Isnt the whole point of this forum to find someone? Well this is my story. It ended well..... thanks to those of you who have something nice to say instead of just being a d1ckhead.
EDIT: Sorry, Im not putting pics up of my kid...
Buddha_Mind
Master Don Juan
Jesus just let the guy be happy. You know, as cynical as some things can be, there are some people where this happens.
Like there is supposed to be some cookie-cutter formula for this sh!t. The man isn't grovelling at someone woman's feet and sacrificing his testes for her. He took in a woman who he impregnated, actually has grown to care about her and loves his son. Yes, let's chastise him so he can be miserable and cynical like everyone else!
Like there is supposed to be some cookie-cutter formula for this sh!t. The man isn't grovelling at someone woman's feet and sacrificing his testes for her. He took in a woman who he impregnated, actually has grown to care about her and loves his son. Yes, let's chastise him so he can be miserable and cynical like everyone else!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
i apologize for asking what i did, it's just that this forum has seen guys where the tables were turned. didn't mean to say anything mean in your direction at all.
glad to hear you are happy
glad to hear you are happy
CJ 101
Don Juan
Dude how sure are you that this kid's yours ?
It's so easy to find a woman that wants to get pregnant by you and marry you (and be financially supported by you). That is woman's agenda. If that was what I was looking for I sure as hell wouldn't visit this forum. I want to get laid with the minimum amount of commitment. That's man's agenda.kingwilliam said:
If you're happy you're happy but seems like you're going on a bit too much about how wonderful and gorgeous mother and child are. I suppose if I found myself in prison for life after a while I'd probably start to try to focus on the positive to avoid spiralling into depression, 'Hey I have all this free time to read and lift weights!'.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
macagent
Don Juan
A child is the greatest gift you will ever receive. The woman, and situation, are secondary to the experience of being a father.
While I have doubts as to the longevity of a relationship that starts like this, most LTRs are not lasting much past 10yrs anyway, so who really cares. If it's working, he's maintaining his frame, and he's happy, all I can say is 'Gratz!, enjoy the experience :-D
While I have doubts as to the longevity of a relationship that starts like this, most LTRs are not lasting much past 10yrs anyway, so who really cares. If it's working, he's maintaining his frame, and he's happy, all I can say is 'Gratz!, enjoy the experience :-D
It's about your son now, not you. Do the right thing for him and be the best father you can be. Don't let him be raised by women and teach him how to be a man. That's the best gift you can give your son. Congrats on the beauty of creating life and I hope you and yours stay healthy and happy.
CuriousGirl
Senior Don Juan
You're going to have to have this conversation with her at some point, if you think you wanna break up with her now just wait til you have the stress of a kid. They're ****ing tiring. (I'm not actually a mother myself but I'm the eldest of a big family so I know what I'm talking about).
You can still support her through the pregnancy and be there for your child if you break up with her before the birth. Ring her or see her each week to see how she's getting on...it'll be easier for both of you if things are kept civil. There is the other option of breaking up with her after the pregnancy, you would get to see more of your child in it's early months because they are pretty dependent on their mother at a young age (sure they can survive without her but it's generally thought to be in the baby's best interests) ....so really, maybe see how it goes. You never know, things might all change and you end up falling in love with her. ....DO NOT get married for the sake of the child. Better the child grows up only knowing their parents apart rather than going through a divorce at a young age, it's amazing how much they soak up when they are young, a hell of a lot more than you'd ever think.
Edit:
Only just realised the latest post, congrats op.
You can still support her through the pregnancy and be there for your child if you break up with her before the birth. Ring her or see her each week to see how she's getting on...it'll be easier for both of you if things are kept civil. There is the other option of breaking up with her after the pregnancy, you would get to see more of your child in it's early months because they are pretty dependent on their mother at a young age (sure they can survive without her but it's generally thought to be in the baby's best interests) ....so really, maybe see how it goes. You never know, things might all change and you end up falling in love with her. ....DO NOT get married for the sake of the child. Better the child grows up only knowing their parents apart rather than going through a divorce at a young age, it's amazing how much they soak up when they are young, a hell of a lot more than you'd ever think.
Edit:
Only just realised the latest post, congrats op.
3countriesPlan
Master Don Juan
Ya guys, don't trash on OP. I have had way too many times where I've bagged a dime (ha, ok some hb7's in there too) and was like FVK DIS I GOTTA HIT IT RAW
Anyways, definitely don't marry her. Offer to be there and then go ahead and go your seperate ways in the future when the kid is old enough. Then you can go ahead and think about getting custody or just paying support later on. Sure you WILL be a little poorer after all of this but losing money is alot smarter than losing your happiness or even worse your freedom.
Anyways, definitely don't marry her. Offer to be there and then go ahead and go your seperate ways in the future when the kid is old enough. Then you can go ahead and think about getting custody or just paying support later on. Sure you WILL be a little poorer after all of this but losing money is alot smarter than losing your happiness or even worse your freedom.
To the OP: all the best to you, your son, and your woman. Hopefully you'll marry her and have a great marriage, and in turn, give your child a great family life. It's not just about providing financially; it's also about being there.
As someone whose first child is to be born in 2 weeks, I ask that you don't let cynics (who usually tend to be immature and clueless anyway) bring you down with crap about "losing your freedom," being "afc," etc. You will find that you'll still be doing the things you want to do...but more than likely (and fortunately, at that) you will begin to see some natural change in terms of the things you will want to do. This is a change in your life that you'll forever cherish. This will also be your biggest challenge in being a man; FAR bigger than neg hits, c+f, banging HB9s, and all that other crap will EVER be.
Congrats, mate.
As someone whose first child is to be born in 2 weeks, I ask that you don't let cynics (who usually tend to be immature and clueless anyway) bring you down with crap about "losing your freedom," being "afc," etc. You will find that you'll still be doing the things you want to do...but more than likely (and fortunately, at that) you will begin to see some natural change in terms of the things you will want to do. This is a change in your life that you'll forever cherish. This will also be your biggest challenge in being a man; FAR bigger than neg hits, c+f, banging HB9s, and all that other crap will EVER be.
Congrats, mate.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.