"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Oh lord... 0 for 2 so far this week. Will I be 0/3?

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First girl: Random from Facebook. Decided to hit her up because she's attractive. Chatted for a little while, got her number, set something up for Wednesday. Everything is going as planned Wednesday till I text her asking her to tell me when she's on her way (to my place--wine and netflix date). She says "ok I will," but I don't hear from her for an hour. Text her again asking if she's left and get no response. Eventually she gets back to me saying she's with her sick mom. Yeah f*cking right.

Second girl: PoF blonde. Seemed down to f*ck and we set up a date for drinks tonight. Everything is going according to plan until I ask if she's on her way. No response. Wait a little while and send another text asking--no response. Apparently she's friends with this other girl I f*cked about a month ago and they're playing a "prank" on me. Primarily the blonde cvnt, but the other girl was involved. I never left my house (thank God). Deleted the blondes number and texted the other one saying she's a f*cking idiot for being involved and that she won't be hearing from me.

Third girl: Girl from OkCupid. Sunday night date for wine and Netflix at my place. So what do you guys think? 0/3? At this point it's hard to be positive.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Pretty bold going for the wine/netflix date right off the hop.

I don't mind it if you're in total "I don't give a f---" mode, but clearly that's not the case (hence your post).

Not to suggest that the date idea in particular is scaring them off... but maybe that in addition to some other things you're not disclosing here are putting off a vibe that you're the type of guy who's going to move too fast.

It also demonstrates a lack of patience, which is a terribly unattractive quality to have and definitely not something you'd see in an "alpha" guy. Girl figures, "He can't even pretend to be interested in meeting me for a drink somewhere for like a freaking hour first? Then he could naturally segue into taking me home with him."
 

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Not trying to hate or start anything here, but how come you met all of them online? I used to be big with the whole facebook thing but now ever since i started boldly asking girls in cold approaches i felt a lot more confident even if i got rejected there or after.

Maybe thats a catalyst maybe not. Throw in some random real life approaches and see if theres any difference.
 

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Frayzer said:
Not trying to hate or start anything here, but how come you met all of them online? I used to be big with the whole facebook thing but now ever since i started boldly asking girls in cold approaches i felt a lot more confident even if i got rejected there or after.

Maybe thats a catalyst maybe not. Throw in some random real life approaches and see if theres any difference.
Busy as hell with school (online classes) and hardly ever go out. The only place I could meet girls is at the gym, and if it goes sour it's going to be seriously awkward. I primarily meet girls online and--if I can actually get them to hang out--have pretty good success. I deal with A LOT of bullsh!t, though. I would go as far to say that I get rejected and deal with more crap than ANYONE on this forum. It sometimes gets demoralizing (like being stood up twice in one week), but I keep trying.

Oh, and I have met girls "in real life." They're the same as the girls you meet online. Same bullsh!t.
 

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I'm pretty good looking and I get rejected online all the time. Usually one out of eight messages go somewhere. Hell, sometimes i even get blown out.

But..

In person I get the number always but half end up hanging out. I love to cold approach
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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XY. said:
I'm pretty good looking and I get rejected online all the time. Usually one out of eight messages go somewhere. Hell, sometimes i even get blown out.

But..

In person I get the number always but half end up hanging out. I love to cold approach
I should start trying to cold approach more often. If I can get the girl to hang in person I usually have success. It's just getting them to actually come/go out that's difficult.
 

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If one doesn't meet up then try the next

And the next..

And the next..

Until one does
 

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online dating can be more frustrating and more damaging for your confidence that a slap across the face after a cold approach. this is partly why relying solely upon online dating is not a good idea.
face to face interaction is rarely as confusing, when you do the face to face, you can pick up far more subtle clues to determine if she is genuinely interested or if you are wasting your time, you have more control over how the interaction ends, its more dignified and less likely to mess with your head
 

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One thing I've long noticed about the game is you may average 2/4 or whatever. But one week you'll can be 0/3 and another 3/3. You'll always have flaking with women, but sometimes you'll have string of flakes and another time you'll have few.

All that matters is the long term trend over a few weeks. Sometimes it seems like most of the women are all ovulating at the same time or something and are either hot and non-flakey or cold and flakey together lol.
 

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Not that anyone gives a SH~T, but the girl tonight actually didn't flake.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Don't ever be concerned if on some certain week you come up empty. Even the best Strike out with bases loaded or throw an interception in the end zone. The most important thing is dont think you won't have success because other girls flaked. Always know you can break that streak.
 

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Another f*cking piece of sh!t... Girl (who I "sort of" knew from a loooong time ago) and I set-up a wine and Netflix date at my place for tonight. I texted her earlier on to confirm, but when I ask if she's on her way I get no response. Wtf is wrong with these b!tches?
 
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