Oh Dear God Why ???

[Craig_87]

My mate is a complete loser...

First year of uni, when we first met, he was this confident guy who could get "any women he wanted"...apparently...

This year..hes had no luck....hes chasing significantly uglier girls than normal...not getting anywhere near any of them.....hes currently obsessed with this one girl who has told me that shes not interested in him in the slightest.....

i dont think hes had sex since last semester.....he ****s off on a night out to try and chase these ugly girls...then lies that he got with them...

Hes turned into an absolute ****......This everyone, is a perfect example of how not to act around women...ACT LIKE THIS AND YOU WONT EVEN PULL GIRLS 3 OR BELOW !!!


(still...i dont think ill show him this site...its a lot more fun to watch him crash and burn for some reason.....)

 

[KontrollerX]

"This year..hes had no luck....hes chasing significantly uglier girls than normal..."

One man's trash is another man's treasure lol.

"not getting anywhere near any of them.....hes currently obsessed with this one girl who has told me that shes not interested in him in the slightest....."

Oneitis even mild= no good.

"i dont think hes had sex since last semester.....he ****s off on a night out to try and chase these ugly girls...then lies that he got with them...

Hes turned into an absolute ****......This everyone, is a perfect example of how not to act around women...ACT LIKE THIS AND YOU WONT EVEN PULL GIRLS 3 OR BELOW !!!"

Anything terrible happen in his life other than all this that you know of?

Kind of sounds like he's self destructing if its all as bad as you are making it out to be and self destructing usually doesn't just happen.

Either something bad happened to the guy, he just got lazy and lost his mojo or something else but yeah its gotta be something if he went from hero to zero all of a sudden.

"(still...i dont think ill show him this site...its a lot more fun to watch him crash and burn for some reason.....)"

I'm all for a good laugh but not at a buddy's expense when he's down on his luck.

You should give him a hand up and link him to this site.

Once he learns the ways of the DJ you could have a valueable wingman on your side.

 

[Craig_87]

i see your points here...and theyre all pretty good

Firstly..he had a long term relationship in first year of uni....and he became obsessed with her over a matter of months..when she broke it up, he became this weedy fella..obsessed with revenge etc.....but that cant be the main cause, as he was crap with her to start with..why she stayed with him that long..i dont know..


When he was with his ex...i kept giving him hints nd tips...gained form this site....im sure ive told him about it before..but hes not interested...he didnt listen to a word i said...so i think thats one reaosn they broke up...he thinks hes gods gift to women......only problem is any girls ive spoken to say hes probably a 4...which is probably his downfall...not having any confidence now is destroying him slowly..with his lack of looks....

Im all up for the wingman idea...but if that happened...that could be looked upon as me using his lack of confidence and problems as a way to get more girls....which isnt very mate-ish....


All in all.. i think it probably does have a lot to do with his ex...but its amazing to see the transformation of a man with severe oneitis from as you say...hero to zero...

 

[KontrollerX]

"Firstly..he had a long term relationship in first year of uni....and he became obsessed with her over a matter of months..when she broke it up, he became this weedy fella..obsessed with revenge etc.....but that cant be the main cause, as he was crap with her to start with..why she stayed with him that long..i dont know.."

She probably had no other options or at one point he connected with her emotions strongly somehow and she hung on as long as she could to see if she could get her emotional drug fix out of him again but no dice.

Once she secured a new dealer it was out with the old in with the new lol.

"When he was with his ex...i kept giving him hints nd tips...gained form this site....im sure ive told him about it before..but hes not interested...he didnt listen to a word i said..."

Overconfidence can be a weakness too as you have seen it from him. Your advice could've saved him in this situation. Oh well he'll have to live and learn like anyone else thats stubborn or too overconfident about things to see their faults and make changes accordingly.

"so i think thats one reaosn they broke up...he thinks hes gods gift to women......only problem is any girls ive spoken to say hes probably a 4...which is probably his downfall...not having any confidence now is destroying him slowly..with his lack of looks...."

Yeah unlike us chicks don't care about looks if the guy can get to her emotions and exudes manliness, confidence and dominance over her without being overbearing with any of it. So I'm gonna go with his lack of confidence being the killer here.

"Im all up for the wingman idea...but if that happened...that could be looked upon as me using his lack of confidence and problems as a way to get more girls....which isnt very mate-ish...."

Oh I think you misinterpreted what I meant.

See I meant you'd give him the link to the site and if he took it seriously he could become a DJ then he'd be a valueable wingman to you as he'd have his confidence back and any other improvements he could get for himself with the knowledge on this site.

I'd agree if he's AFC and you guys are going out trying to pick up together he's not gonna help you much at all.

Chicks don't like pity cases.

"All in all.. i think it probably does have a lot to do with his ex...but its amazing to see the transformation of a man with severe oneitis from as you say...hero to zero..."

Yeah he simply made her his life and when she was gone he is now lost and doesn't know who he is anymore.

Mistake of many AFC's (myself included at one point) to make a woman their life.

A woman is to be a nice addition to a man's life not its main focus.

Anyway man I guess just link him to the site and if he ignores you its his loss.

As the saying goes you can lead a horse to water but you can't make the dumb sumb!tch drink it.

 

[Craig_87]

k..cheers for the advice...ill let him know bout the site AGAIN...and if it doesnt work..then theres nothin more i can do....

BTW..Kontroller...im likin the way u analyse posts and actually reply properly ...so cheers again