"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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O.k so i ask this girl out, she's from work(i know is advised against it).But we are always flirting' so i decided to take my chances. I was kind of nervous but this it how it wen down:
me: hey, do you work today(i already knew don't know why i ask)
she: yeah, so what's up?
me: i'm going to the movies today will you join me?
she: actually I'm doing the laundry, and I'm alone with my child(she's raisin' the baby of a cousin)
me : oh!. o.k, but no one will get home later(i wanted to know if she will be able to make it)
she: how did you get my home number
me::confused: the same way you get mine from the clipboard
she:i dont have your number i only call you from work
me::nervous: oh i see. OK I'll see tomorrow
she: o.k thanks for asking me out anyway
me: bye and then i hung up

At least i gather my guts and ask her (even doe in a kind of pathetic way).I think is better than to keep on wondering.

that was it now i need to get ready i'm going to the movies anyway
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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dude dont take it hard..
her last thing "thanks for asking me out anyway"
that could be a good sign..

you really shouldnt be giving such short notice...on the first date.
short notice is acceptable when you've been out 3 or 4 times..

shes taking care of someones kid and all the work etc..it may have and most probably is a legit reason why she couldnt go..

next time just ask her casually like 3 days in advance...
 
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Short notice is to be avoided when possible. Even after the first few dates some girls just won't go for short notice. They like to get ready, and some girls take a looong time to get ready (especially if there are things that slow that down like the presence of kids and such).

You usually shouldn't ask for same day get-together until you know the girl well enough to know that there is a good chance she'd be up for that.
 
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slickaz said:
dude dont take it hard..
her last thing "thanks for asking me out anyway"
that could be a good sign..

you really shouldnt be giving such short notice...on the first date.
short notice is acceptable when you've been out 3 or 4 times..

shes taking care of someones kid and all the work etc..it may have and most probably is a legit reason why she couldnt go..

next time just ask her casually like 3 days in advance...
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ok ill do that in the future
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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