"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Official Year End report thread!

SamTheHobit

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So 2012 has been a pretty successful year with women for me.. I've made out with 15 + - girls this year the most of any year.. and none of them ugly b!tches.

Anyway I did meet a girl the beginning of this year who I actually had a connection with but alas she wasn't interested which kinda sucked because it's very rare that I meet a girl that I'm attracted to on a non physical level as well as physical. I think I may have messed up when I made my intentions clear early on.

I've also learned that I'm not really into random hookups in anyway. The most I was happy was when I was in a relationship even though she was a b!tch.

I think that intimacy begins far beyond a physical level but more on an emotional and psychological level. That could probably be why I'm not attracted to girls that give it up to quickly.

Anyway next year I'd like to meet a decent girl that I can share experiences with. I'm tired of making out with sluts lol.

Post your year end report!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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badboyjmm

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My report for 2012 is pretty sh!tty. The beginning of the year was I guess a reflection of the whole year. I was out with three buddies of mine for new year eve. Countdown and yeah ! The year 2012. Turn out it was not what I excepted.

On that New Year's Eve, I was ditched by my three friends that were hooking up with chicks. Now I don't care about the fact thy were hooking up, but they just disappeared and I was looking for them everywhere until I got a text from one of them saying that he's at home with a chick...

Anyways the rest of the year was pretty sad in turn of girls, a few make out, a bunch of numbers that turn out to be flakes (even if on two occasion, the girls did approach me) i got laid on may and was expecting to turn this girl into a fwb but I never heard back from her ( I was pretty lazy when it started being sexual, I lack practice for sure)

After that, I became friends with a girl that was willing to wing me at bars, turns out, she started liking me and one night we were making out. Again I want it this girl to be a fwb, but a few days later, she was all like: "omg, I'm so embarrassed ! It's because of the alcohol and blablabla" so I decided to stop talking to her, once she felt that, she want it to hang out some more. So I told her to come to my place in two separate occasions. She was like :" well I don't see you that was, you are nice and all, but I just see you as a friend, if you wanna hang out that's good but otherwise forget it" ( she then expected me to accept that WOW)

Meanwhile a girl friend that I've known couple years prior, was back in the picture. She lives 1h30 away from me but since she was dealing with a break up, I didn't try to get with her. She did say that she had a crush on me and all that crap.

Turns out, I told her we could make it work since I have family where she lives and that we know eachother very well, we acted like a couple whenever we are out. Well she would always have some excuses to why she didn't call, apologize, say she going to call the next day and still not to it. I haven't heard back from her and I'm pissed because, well, I like her and I saw her a ltr material....

So in terms of women, there's a bunch that I've approach and that they give me the ljbf or "you are my best friend " although I was just talking to them and on some cases, not even trying to get with them ( a co-worker at work gave me that line and she has a bf, plus I never tried to flirt or anything like that)

So in terms of woman, 2012 was the absolute worst and I basically ended a nasty dry spell of a 1 and some months to fall right back into one ( 9 months and counting) I guess I just gotta really get in shape. I don't think I'm that ugly to begin with but getting the "OMG you are like my best friend" before even saying a few sentences is killing my confidence that took me time to build.

So with that said, happy Christmas, happy holidays and wish that 2013, will be a year of success, money, getting super ripped, and getting women in abundance
 

Mike32ct

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Part I: Get a hobby

For years, I never really had a particular hobby to mention to women. Sure I like read, do home improvement projects, garden, etc. But I would always cringe when women would say, "What do you do for fun?" I got tired of saying, "umm work and umm go out to dinner sometimes and umm watch a movie" lol.

So I started ballroom dance in August. I like it a lot and am improving. The teacher is especially thrilled with my perfect attendance. (Like anything else, plenty of people go to a few classes and then disappear.) We're doing salsa right now. I'm gonna learn Hustle early next year. That should be even more fun. Picture the disco version of Mike32ct :up:.


Pros:

Great conversation topic when the hobby thing comes up.
Ok cardio exercise.
You get practice being comfortable with women and leading leading them while sober.
They actually dance with men.
They don't tell you to F off when you ask them to dance lol.

Cons:

In the short term, I think my freestyle (bar/club/party) dancing has gotten WORSE because, despite having more tricks up my sleeve, I'm more analytical (i.e. in my head) and focusing on dancing the "RIGHT" way rather than just having fun. But I think this is a temporary thing. Once my skill level gets to where it needs to be, I think I'll be better than before.


Part II: Break the dry spell

2010 to 2012 was the longest and worst dry spell ever. Mike32ct fought an epic David vs Goliath battle to get his mojo back and get some 'tang.

The field report link is below. Most of you guys have already read it. I won't re-hash it.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=199716&highlight=elevator

Part III: Do I want a girlfriend?

I briefly dated this chick recently. I met her in this field report...

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=200171&highlight=dance+class

We went out for about a month. I liked her but we really didn't "click." I gotta have the right connection with somebody. Plus I have little LTR experience, so saying I'm afraid of commitment is an understatement lol. I do hope to meet the right person though. Somebody that "gets" me would be great.

Conclusion:

2012 was a decent year.
 

LukeWhatever

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decent year. feel sexually comfortable and gained tons of confidence. deciding to limit / stop alcohol was a great decision for me.

next year goal: develop more relationships with girls i get with. emotional connections etc. not a big fan of one night stands unless girl is really cool / really hot. prefer to actually care about a girl
 
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