If you've been single for a while, what would your office colleagues make off you? When I used to work in an office the chat would invariably be centered around their wives and girlfriends. In computer programming world you get a bit of a pass because half the office is single too. And what are you suppose to do for office parties such as christmas when you are expected to turn up with partner and you don't have one?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Office Chat, Office Parties And Singledom
- Thread starter yun-j
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Play up the benefits ' hey last weekend I went skeet shooting' or whatever and make sure u r living room hat life. Do the whole Hollywood romance thing. U can't push these things ..when the time is right... BS chicks love that.
And don't ever ask anyone at work to set u up..believe me its safer to cold approach 100 fem Nazis.
And NEVER let them think your a player. Most workplaces r controlled by the sisterhood these days at least in the west..it won't go well for u.
And don't ever ask anyone at work to set u up..believe me its safer to cold approach 100 fem Nazis.
And NEVER let them think your a player. Most workplaces r controlled by the sisterhood these days at least in the west..it won't go well for u.
Everything is about spouses and kids.
Avoid eating with them just eat at your desk and realize that their life isn't so rosy ... They have to put up with a lot of crap you have complete freedom
But I agree that if you're single the office will ostracize you
Avoid eating with them just eat at your desk and realize that their life isn't so rosy ... They have to put up with a lot of crap you have complete freedom
But I agree that if you're single the office will ostracize you
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yeah u do survive longer in rat race being a beta bytch but it does eat your soul. Start studying/positioning yourself as a software architect/dev lead. People don't put you down when you're a manager.