"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Offer your girlfriend a date with someone else.

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If she talks about a guy being attractive/er

You have 2 roads to take.

One is to take the NEXT road, and next her immediately.

The other one is to take it as it comes, and move on trying to have fun with this girl. If she continues to show signs of disinterest, you NEXT her.

Why was she talking about a guy being attractive/er?

1) Unfortunately, your DJing needs further growth.

or

2) She isn't worth you.


DO NOT go and ask a guy to go out with your chick.

Why my tip was wrong.

First of all, it isn't the way Brad Pitt did it.. it was Aston(sp?) who went talking about Jen... whatever.

Second of all. Ok, maybe, it works. But on what kind of women is it working on? Would you, like a woman... being DJed by yourself... take this kind of stuff? Would you be talking about other guys being sexy/er than your date (you?). It's working on women who are most likely not interested in you in the first place, or simply it's working on women you don't want to be hanging out with.

Why not just find another one that makes you laugh instead of using some loony, unusual techniques?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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