"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Off to a slow start w/ new HB9.0

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She's been out of 18 month relationship. They broke up before the summer. I'm the first guy she's started talking to since the break up. We've met a month ago, hung out 2-3 times, then she went away on vaca for 2 weeks. She texts me when she gets back and we start chilling again. I just got out of a relationship too myself and I know she's still in contact with her ex. I'm not in contact with my ex at all.

We kiss close after each hang out. We hung out at my house, had friends come over, then friends left and then we went to a party. Then back to my house kiss close good night. We hang out again, go to a show with friends, late night, kiss close goodnight again. We haven't really talked on the phone much. I texted her , "Hope you had fun tonight, call me later if you want".

No answer, then I called her next day at 1pm. No answer, i didn't leave a message, She hasn't called me back. It's been 1 whole day without contact and I find out she had hooked up with someone. Well i've hooked up with other girls while talking to her too so i can't be a hippocrite. She doesn't know what to do with me. Should i not care that she hooked up with someone, we weren't anything.

I'm not used to this. One of my friends says, don't call her again. My other says, call her.

What should I do?
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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omgwtfm8 said:
What should I do?
Read the bible for starters.

Call her in 3 days. No contact whatsoever. If she calls don't answer. Why? Because you will be busy those 3 days. Get some plates to spin. If she doesn't answer or whatever in those 3 days, you won't give a damn since you allready have other women to hit it off.

Oh! But I feel something special, she's not like other women I've met!

:nono:

How many million women are in your country alone? Do you think that out of millions, she is the only bytch worth your time? Come on, it's just a cvnt.
 

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How much do you believe that this woman is attainable for you?

I think that's the core of your problem. By texting her with gay stuff like, "Call me...if you want" and calling her immediately when she doesn't respond, the message you are sending her is, "I have acknowledged your value as being greater than my own. I consider you naturally unattainable because of your beauty, so I am going to exert extra effort to compensate."

You've got the goods, remember? If she goes anywhere, it'll be the biggest mistake SHE ever makes. She's a 9-girl...so you have to see yourself as a 9-GUY or better.

I'm going through the same thing right now...I met up with this girl on Thursday...she is SMOKIN' hot. First time I've ever really broken into the 9s. And all I can do is think about how ALL the rest of the guys must be hitting on her and how I've got to MOVE NOW to try to "lock her down" before someone else snatches her up.

The key, however, is to remind myself that I'm NOT one of "the rest of the guys". I am a MAN, a Don Juan, and I have more to offer HER than she has to offer me. Not that I'm not extremely interested, but to date exceptional women, you have to see yourself as an exceptional man. If she gets snatched up by some other guy, it's HER LOSS. What's she got going for her? LOOKS?

LOL I seriously need to start chasing the HOT women, because once you start getting close to them, all the NORMAL women pale in comparison. You've got one-itis. The difference is that there are women, and then there are WOMEN. And so far you've only been messing with women, and maybe you're immune to one-itis from women, but WOMEN are a whole 'nother level.
 

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Don't call her, maybe the "Hope you had fun tonight, call me later if you want" part was a mistake too.

Call in 2 days, say you were busy, and be busy.

Don't be desperate.

Good luck mate!
 

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Hahaha, always good to get unified advice from the brothers!
I had the window open so I hadn't seen the replies before me.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Update: she hooked up with someone that night. She doesn't know what to do or say to me. Now what?
 

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omgwtfm8 said:
Update: she hooked up with someone that night. She doesn't know what to do or say to me. Now what?
Did you expect that you wouldn't have competition?

If she was horny, why didn't she hook up with YOU? Did you miss a sign?
 
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