Off-shoot from Loner thread

[knglerxt]

How do you meet women if you're naturally not a social person?

Let me explain. I only want female companionship. I have no interest in developing a circle of friends. I know this goes against rules in the "Bible", but that's just the way I am. I'm pretty much alone all the time. If I go anywhere or do anything, I'm alone. The only exception is visiting family sometimes. The only problem I have with it is that it makes it almost impossible to meet women in today's society. I like my solitude, but I also have a sex drive like everyone else. So going the rest of my life without a woman is not an option. I'm not paying for sex, either.

Is walking up to random women in stores and on the street the only chance I have? Granted, most people don't meet like this, but I don't really see any other way. My personality and lifestyle don't give me many options.

 

[Nexus Polaris]

You have to modify it, man. If you don't learn to adapt, you won't get what you want. Adaptability is an alpha trait anyway.

I'm the same way. I spend a lot of time alone because I enjoy my own company. But I also have a circle of friends that I hang out with when I want to be social. I can still do both. I just had to strike a balance.

But realistically, if you don't enjoy being social with people, you won't enjoy being social with women either. Since women are people. Instead, you'll sit there bored and annoyed and waiting for sex which you won't get.

 

[steve38]

I'm pretty much the same way, a solitary creature. The whole 'group dynamics' thing baffles me. And I'm no stud, but I have picked up more girls when alone than when with friends. Your attitude means SO much more than who you are with. If your DJ game is on, you are gonna do well no matter what. But the best thing is that being alone, you are gonna attract girls like you and repel the social butterflies. And that's a good thing.

 

[Mr Autobahn]

I don't think you need to be an extrovert to get the women but you need to have a life. I certainly hope you are doing stuff other than sitting in front of the TV or computer screen...

Like me for instance replying to your post!

 

[DogFashionDisco]

You have to modify it, man. If you don't learn to adapt, you won't get what you want. Adaptability is an alpha trait anyway.

I'm the same way. I spend a lot of time alone because I enjoy my own company. But I also have a circle of friends that I hang out with when I want to be social. I can still do both. I just had to strike a balance.

But realistically, if you don't enjoy being social with people, you won't enjoy being social with women either. Since women are people. Instead, you'll sit there bored and annoyed and waiting for sex which you won't get.

Not every woman is a carbon copy of Sarah Jessica Parker in Sex in the City.



There are hermit girls out there, you just have to look.

But not online...

 

[young_gun]

Don't you have friends from college / high school you can go out with?

 

[NickSCFC2000]

Think that's what I'm after DogFashionDisco, a girl who doesn't have many friends. They're alot more interesting than girls who have nothing in life but their job and getting drunk with the girls every night/

 

[JackBauer24]

Maybe I'm generalizing, but to most women, at least in the 18-30 range, their social life is their identity, even UGs and fatties. I suppose you could eventually find an UG or fattie that isn't social, but I can't think of an attractive girl I've known that accepted the fact that I'm a homebody, let alone lived a lifestyle similar to mine.

 

[knglerxt]

Don't you have friends from college / high school you can go out with?

I was a loner in high school, too. Plus, I graduated 8 years ago. I don't even live in the same town I went to school in.

 

[knglerxt]

I suppose you could eventually find an UG or fattie that isn't social,

That's not going to work. I like attractive women. I'd rather be alone than to be with someone I'm not attracted to. Not to sound arrogant, but I'm not an ugly guy by any means. If some of the guys I see can get with attractive women, I shouldn't have to settle for a girl I don't really like. Of course, it's not all about looks, but you see what I'm getting at.

 

[knglerxt]

But realistically, if you don't enjoy being social with people, you won't enjoy being social with women either. Since women are people. Instead, you'll sit there bored and annoyed and waiting for sex which you won't get.

I think I could make an exception for a woman. Sex isn't the only reason, but it's definitely the main reason. I think that's the case for most guys, though. Why else would guys pursue women if not for sex? That's the main motivating factor. If you take sex out of the equation, you're just friends. Nothing more. You could just have a bunch of guy friends and be done with it. Of course, that's not going to fly for most guys for the aforementioned reason.

 

[JackBauer24]

That's not going to work. I like attractive women. I'd rather be alone than to be with someone I'm not attracted to. Not to sound arrogant, but I'm not an ugly guy by any means. If some of the guys I see can get with attractive women, I shouldn't have to settle for a girl I don't really like. Of course, it's not all about looks, but you see what I'm getting at.

Yeah, you sound just like me man.

 

[Nygard]

I completly get you. I used to be a loner, and I enjoyed it. However, you'll see you'll enjoy the most of your time if you're with somebody else, or a group. Give it a try. And i'm not one of those "Ha, I get laid every 15 minutes" guy, i barely meet any woman because i'm like the anthitesis of what a woman is looking for in a relationship. But as i've seen,. the best you can do right now is try to be more sociable.

 

[young_gun]

I used to go out to dance clubs by myself. It forced me to get to know other people there. It pushed my comfort zone TO THE MAX.

If you have a hobby (an actual cool hobby) join a group. You'll get to know a lot of people like yourself that have the same interests. I know you don't want the whole "circle of friends", but I really don't see why not. Your friends will introduce you to new girls, and it's so much more fun to go out with friends to meet women. Plus, I guarantee at least one of them will teach you a thing or two about picking up girls. Personally, I've made friends with guys who are DAMN GOOD with girls, and they have taught me A LOT.