Odd flake tonight and my response

[zinc4]

Met thus girl from Mexico at the club last weekend went on a date two days later no sex just foreplay. We're set to meet at the club again thus Friday night for dancing....I have to go anyways... Long story. Usually I decline public dates.

So I get a text tonight with a smiley face saying hi, just letting you know won't be able to meet you at xxxx thus Friday night, we can meet eachother next week. Sorry, I have a lot of work. But maybe you will see my friends there, goodnight handsome (another smiley face)

So I reply: no thanks, good luck meeting other people (she's already requiring way too much effort even before the flake)

She immediately replies, great! Your welcome!

**** these hos. I ain't got time for flakes...should be lucky they are even getting public dates.

 

[Von]

You probably got in her ego... Funny, I went on a couple of dates with a mexican... she disrespected me... heck even kept my salad bowl and halloween mask and doesn't want to give it back after I let them there following her bday supper.

She asked me to the movies.... she's bitchy and doesn't want me to talk lol.... I was like.... what does she want... friends? sex? date or playing hard to get.

Anyway ditched her.... now saw her at the restaurant of the gym.... I waved, she was with a common friend. I got my smoothie and left without saying him to them.... she called me 5 minutes later.

Wondering to call her back or not.... and what to say.... but glad I got to her ego

 

[Maximus Rex]

Personally, I don't even see the purpose in responding to a flake. Maybe it's some passive aggressive sh*t, but I prefer to have a b*tch wondering if I even got the message. This is assuming she even cares enough to wonder if I got the message.

 

[dustmuffin]

I went out with a mexican that has 6 kids. What a *****. She really thought she was the prize. I just wanted to f ucjk her but I didn't meet muster. It was good game practice anyway.

 

[guru1000]

There is a distinction between being indifferent--and--pretending to be indifferent. If you have one date scheduled and she flakes, you are pretending to be indifferent (unless you have an equally rewarding backup plan). If you have two or three dates scheduled in one night and one flakes, you are truly indifferent.

Time is a precious commodity, which I don't negotiate. Rarely, do I schedule only one date. In fact, if a girl insists on a night that I have no dates, I will schedule her for a date night the following week when I do have dates.

Within this context, there is no need to "show" a flaker anything as you are truly don't give a fvck. You are no longer dependent on her word, which IMO, is a weak position to be in, in the context of an online-dating environment. We can pretend that we don't care because "women are not the center, yada, yada," but the truth is flakes sting and are a disrespect of our time.

Instead, double/triple book on the same night (same or different time slots, at your discretion) and if all show, enjoy the fireworks. Otherwise, if one or two cancel, state "np," and because you are truly indifferent, you can choose to NEXT or schedule her in the following week's rotation with the prize of last slot of the night. Either choice you make originates from a position of indifference, a place of genuine--not feigned--strength.

 

[zinc4]

There is a distinction between being indifferent--and--pretending to be indifferent. If you have one date scheduled and she flakes, you are pretending to be indifferent (unless you have an equally rewarding backup plan). If you have two or three dates scheduled in one night and one flakes, you are truly indifferent.

Time is a precious commodity, which I don't negotiate. Rarely, do I schedule only one date. In fact, if a girl insists on a night that I have no dates, I will schedule her for a date night the following week when I do have dates.

Within this context, there is no need to "show" a flaker anything as you are truly don't give a fvck. You are no longer dependent on her word, which IMO, is a weak position to be in, in the context of an online-dating environment. We can pretend that we don't care because "women are not the center, yada, yada," but the truth is flakes sting and are a disrespect of our time.

Instead, double/triple book on the same night (same or different time slots, at your discretion) and if all show, enjoy the fireworks. Otherwise, if one or two cancel, state "np," and because you are truly indifferent, you can choose to NEXT or schedule her in the following week's rotation with the prize of last slot of the night. Either choice you make originates from a position of indifference, a place of genuine--not feigned--strength.

True, but even if I'm banging three girls a day flakes still annoy me. It's probably karma from all the flaking that I've done in the past.

 

[Konada]

True, but even if I'm banging three girls a day flakes still annoy me. It's probably karma from all the flaking that I've done in the past.

Its gonna to annoy the hell out of everyone. We are not robots, we are humans. Even if its friends who flake I also get annoyed. Since when it was considered beta for a man to feel emotions?

 

[guru1000]

Speaking of ...

I scheduled a double header tonight: same place, same time. As I'm a busy guy, I had to move business appts around to free up my night.

An hour ago, I get a "sorry, can't make it ..." text.

I give no fvcks. My 8pm plan remains my 8pm plan, just with one less girl.

 

[zinc4]

Even when I'm in prime beast mode, a flake will annoy me...just because I'm narcissistic like that...even if a three hundred pound whale flaked or a guy friend I don't care for too much, it would annoy me... Update: She texted me early this morning saying I shouldn't make a rash decision in the heat of the moment and that she has sessions (hypnotherapists) all day Friday, Saturday then has her kids on Sunday and that she really did want to see me next week week and asked if I was free Friday, I said I'm only available Wednesday and she gave me her address and asked me to pick her up Wednesday night. So it should be a lay. If I can even make the date or not that is. I'm going back overseas next Friday. Guess I could go smash her real quick.

 

[zinc4]

Even when I'm in prime beast mode, a flake will annoy me...just because I'm narcissistic like that...even if a three hundred pound whale flaked or a guy friend I don't care for too much, it would annoy me... Update: She texted me early this morning saying I shouldn't make a rash decision in the heat of the moment and that she has sessions (hypnotherapists) all day Friday, Saturday then has her kids on Sunday and that she really did want to see me next week week and asked if I was free Friday, I said I'm only available Wednesday and she gave me her address and asked me to pick her up Wednesday night. So it should be a lay. If I can even make the date or not that is. I'm going back overseas next Friday. Guess I could go smash her real quick.

 

[guru1000]

Even when I'm in prime beast mode, a flake will annoy me...just because I'm narcissistic like that...even if a three hundred pound whale flaked or a guy friend I don't care for too much, it would annoy me...

This means your ego is invested in all your interactions, regardless big or small. You are vulnerable to manipulation by the puppeteer who knows how to pull your strings. Now that I "know" Zinc, if I wanted to get to Zinc, all I would need to do is simply make plans with him, and then cancel them. Do you see how vulnerable you are?

The more you look outside of YOU for your happiness, the less control you possess. Ideally, one should seek to be in full control, by one's emotional state being impervious to external influence. Indifference is not binary (all or none); there are degrees. But, you my friend are wide open. Surrender the ego.

 

[Trump]

So I get a text tonight with a smiley face saying hi, just letting you know won't be able to meet you at xxxx thus Friday night, we can meet eachother next week. Sorry, I have a lot of work. But maybe you will see my friends there, goodnight handsome (another smiley face)

You: Yes maybe, depending on how busy I am during the week. Enjoy your night.

So I reply: no thanks, good luck meeting other people (she's already requiring way too much effort even before the flake)

She immediately replies, great! Your welcome!

**** these hos. I ain't got time for flakes...should be lucky they are even getting public dates.

Bro couple of things wrong, you got emotional and you left the power in her hands. Always reframe to leave the power in your hands.

All she said was Im not having sex with you Friday, we could probably have sex next week. Your response should be "maybe we can, depends on my time, if I'm not having sex with a movie star next week and improving the world."

You are a salesman, unless she puts you down, you be polite, unwit her, and move on.

 

[zinc4]

If you guys want to tolerate flakes that's up to you. I personally don't and let them know so. I either tell them good luck meeting other people or I just go ghost and meet new girls.

Since she came crawling back, though, which they usually do after my reply.... and explicitly gave me her address, I might give her a second chance.

You guys have to understand, I'm very lazy with women and will only do so much.

Flakes aren't cool and it sets a bad precedence. I know you can still bang with persistence, but it's not my style usually. Them coming back begging does go a long way, though.

 

[Yewki]

Met thus girl from Mexico at the club last weekend went on a date two days later no sex just foreplay. We're set to meet at the club again thus Friday night for dancing....I have to go anyways... Long story. Usually I decline public dates.

So I get a text tonight with a smiley face saying hi, just letting you know won't be able to meet you at xxxx thus Friday night, we can meet eachother next week. Sorry, I have a lot of work. But maybe you will see my friends there, goodnight handsome (another smiley face)

So I reply: no thanks, good luck meeting other people (she's already requiring way too much effort even before the flake)

She immediately replies, great! Your welcome!

**** these hos. I ain't got time for flakes...should be lucky they are even getting public dates.

It was a mistake to burn the bridge here like you did. She clearly had interest. And even if she didn't, still poor form on your part. She let you know 2 days in advance and wanted to meet next time.

 

[zinc4]

It was a mistake to burn the bridge here like you did. She clearly had interest. And even if she didn't, still poor form on your part. She let you know 2 days in advance and wanted to meet next time.

Dude read the entire thread, she ended up texting me the following morning asking me to pick her up next week at her place. I tried to burn the bridge but she wouldn't let me.

 

[Yewki]

Dude read the entire thread, she ended up texting me the following morning asking me to pick her up next week at her place. I tried to burn the bridge but she wouldn't let me.

Yeah, trying to burn the bridge was a mistake