slitherjef
Senior Don Juan
Hey guys, I will likely get flamed for this post, but thats okay. I am posting this to learn.
There has been something on my mind for the past few weeks, though I am not sure what. Something I have not felt before probably because of my social ineptitude. I happen to work directly with a very pretty girl, I like working with her because, well she works. But there is something else going on, at least for me. Both of us are pretty shy, I have chatted with her, made her laugh, smile and possibly turned red after I said I had no idea she was so romantic, to which she turned back to me while walking away and give me a smile/laugh in a way I have not heard her do before. I never really made a move toward her because well, we work together (no sticking your pen in the company ink, I know, I know), she is taken (but I wonder just how "taken") and has other pursuers (not that I care about those other two factors).
But anyway...
While working out in the open with her its work, every so often she will come up to me and say something, engage in small chatter like everyone else does and I will chat with her. But in close quarters when the two of us find we have to be in say the back room together, things change. It starts to feel awkward and it has been like this for the past couple months even before I "chatted her up" last week. When chatting with her, being nervous as hell, I tried to at least look at her face instead of "other" places, though she did give me an unobstructed view of her chest, not her tits, mind you.
Almost every time we work together, I usually have to initiate things by saying, whats up or something to that effect. But it can take a couple hours before we break the ice for the day. Often its, "hey, I am going to take a break" that I say to her, then I come back and mostly work related banter when I get back. Often when in the back room, we both (are shy) don't maintain eye contact, though if I am talking to her in a different context, I will try to at least look at her face. We both look at the floor, look around etc. It feels awkward, at least for me. I often try to avoid her to avoid the awkwardness, I also find myself talking to a lot more people while out working, especially other females. Also notice I tend to work harder, once again trying to avoid that awkwardness at least I feel. I also notice I tend to have a slightly more elevated mood. I say something, she giggles or something, I smile more I feel better. Hell, I think I even turn a bit red. When another person is in the room with us, I feel almost relieved, like as if cuts the tension.
It feels like there is a damn pink elephant in the room or something. The best analogy I can come up with would be two neutron stars orbiting each other (binary system) getting closer before being flung away and swing back toward each other getting closer and closer. Now two things are going to happen. The two stars are going to crash into each other in a fantastic manner OR one os going to get flung out of the system. I am not sure how to explain it as I have not felt like this with anyone else before. I do know I like her, she likely knows this too even though I have not made a move which could explain the awkwardness. Why make a move? I work with her. She is "Taken"
Perhaps she knows I'm attracted to her, but uncomfortable knowing this fact
Perhaps she knows I'm attracted to her and she's attracted to me
Perhaps this feeling in my gut is a fabrication of my mind.
Perhaps it is sexual tension, at least for me. Pretty sure its with me.
Perhaps our "chemistry" is clicking?
I don't know and thats what I am trying to figure out.
Now I am sure I am going to get the standard, "spin more plates, man up or shut up, don't stick your pen in the company ink, your thinking too much" etcetera. Which is why I posted this in the mature area, hoping to get a bit more mature answers.
I basically want to know if this is sexual tension or am I just some over rationalizing AFC. I do know the only thing that is going to stop this is to either hook up, (crash into each other in the neutron star analogy) one of us leaves either the department or store (flung out of the system).
I have heard attraction is not a choice. I should not be ashamed I am attracted to this girl and even if I do find someone else, at least my mind will be a bit more pre-occupied but still, I do feel that attraction I have toward her will remain.
Binary neutron stars have to options:
Crash into each other, or one gets flung out of the system. This process takes a long time. Kind of explains what I have read about sexual tension.
Feels like I am walking around on ice. I just wonder how long before someone picks up on things. If it starts to become obvious around other co-workers (though most have their heads up their asses). Then again, I am not even sure if she is attracted to me.
This is all new to me
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If you missed the question because its a long post:
Is this sexual tension?
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Care to share your experiences with sexual tension?
There has been something on my mind for the past few weeks, though I am not sure what. Something I have not felt before probably because of my social ineptitude. I happen to work directly with a very pretty girl, I like working with her because, well she works. But there is something else going on, at least for me. Both of us are pretty shy, I have chatted with her, made her laugh, smile and possibly turned red after I said I had no idea she was so romantic, to which she turned back to me while walking away and give me a smile/laugh in a way I have not heard her do before. I never really made a move toward her because well, we work together (no sticking your pen in the company ink, I know, I know), she is taken (but I wonder just how "taken") and has other pursuers (not that I care about those other two factors).
But anyway...
While working out in the open with her its work, every so often she will come up to me and say something, engage in small chatter like everyone else does and I will chat with her. But in close quarters when the two of us find we have to be in say the back room together, things change. It starts to feel awkward and it has been like this for the past couple months even before I "chatted her up" last week. When chatting with her, being nervous as hell, I tried to at least look at her face instead of "other" places, though she did give me an unobstructed view of her chest, not her tits, mind you.
Almost every time we work together, I usually have to initiate things by saying, whats up or something to that effect. But it can take a couple hours before we break the ice for the day. Often its, "hey, I am going to take a break" that I say to her, then I come back and mostly work related banter when I get back. Often when in the back room, we both (are shy) don't maintain eye contact, though if I am talking to her in a different context, I will try to at least look at her face. We both look at the floor, look around etc. It feels awkward, at least for me. I often try to avoid her to avoid the awkwardness, I also find myself talking to a lot more people while out working, especially other females. Also notice I tend to work harder, once again trying to avoid that awkwardness at least I feel. I also notice I tend to have a slightly more elevated mood. I say something, she giggles or something, I smile more I feel better. Hell, I think I even turn a bit red. When another person is in the room with us, I feel almost relieved, like as if cuts the tension.
It feels like there is a damn pink elephant in the room or something. The best analogy I can come up with would be two neutron stars orbiting each other (binary system) getting closer before being flung away and swing back toward each other getting closer and closer. Now two things are going to happen. The two stars are going to crash into each other in a fantastic manner OR one os going to get flung out of the system. I am not sure how to explain it as I have not felt like this with anyone else before. I do know I like her, she likely knows this too even though I have not made a move which could explain the awkwardness. Why make a move? I work with her. She is "Taken"
Perhaps she knows I'm attracted to her, but uncomfortable knowing this fact
Perhaps she knows I'm attracted to her and she's attracted to me
Perhaps this feeling in my gut is a fabrication of my mind.
Perhaps it is sexual tension, at least for me. Pretty sure its with me.
Perhaps our "chemistry" is clicking?
I don't know and thats what I am trying to figure out.
Now I am sure I am going to get the standard, "spin more plates, man up or shut up, don't stick your pen in the company ink, your thinking too much" etcetera. Which is why I posted this in the mature area, hoping to get a bit more mature answers.
I basically want to know if this is sexual tension or am I just some over rationalizing AFC. I do know the only thing that is going to stop this is to either hook up, (crash into each other in the neutron star analogy) one of us leaves either the department or store (flung out of the system).
I have heard attraction is not a choice. I should not be ashamed I am attracted to this girl and even if I do find someone else, at least my mind will be a bit more pre-occupied but still, I do feel that attraction I have toward her will remain.
Binary neutron stars have to options:
Crash into each other, or one gets flung out of the system. This process takes a long time. Kind of explains what I have read about sexual tension.
Feels like I am walking around on ice. I just wonder how long before someone picks up on things. If it starts to become obvious around other co-workers (though most have their heads up their asses). Then again, I am not even sure if she is attracted to me.
This is all new to me
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If you missed the question because its a long post:
Is this sexual tension?
-
Care to share your experiences with sexual tension?
