"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hi guys

Just a quick one I thought I'd bring to your attention. Met a girl just after NYE, gained number and began some limited text conversation. At her initiation, much of the conversation rapidly became sexual, with her sending pics whilst in bath/underwear etc.

Arranged date last week, went out, both enjoyed, kissed/groped etc, but didn't feel like taking her home or pursueing that night. She initiates second date for next week, and also begins more heated sex conversations which I didn't rise to/spoil challenge etc.

I then get the following message one night;

''I know this is me doing a complete 180, but I want to stop talking about the whole sex thing and concentrate on dating, going out, getting to know eachother.....I don't want to look like a complete psycho, but I'm worth more than that and I want some romance! I know we only had our first date, and I'm leaving love until later on, but for now I need you to understand how I feel''

That was earlier on, mid text sex conversation, which again she had initiated...

Not really sure how or if I should respond to this lol

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hyper2010 said:
That was earlier on, mid text sex conversation, which again she had initiated...

Not really sure how or if I should respond to this lol

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I wouldn't respond to it. It's just a typical anti-s1ut defense.

She sees that Date#2 is building up towards sex. And she realizes that she's not putting up enough of a challenge.

So, I wouldn't directly respond to her comment. Don't apologize. Don't even acknowledge it. Just keep the conversation moving to a different topic, and then once you're on an actual date, go for the kill.

Her actions up until this point have indicated that she wants to bang. Don't let some stupid text change your mind.

Also...stop texting so much. You know the old saying..."Absence makes the heart grow fond." With all this texting, I can't imagine that you're absent enough to make her grow fond.
 

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I'm going to give you the silver linings, cause there will be enough guys on here telling you to NEXT, at least she knows she's being a flip flopper.

We're all pretty changeable, and this girl may have just changed her mind about what she wants. (Maybe because, after the first date, she realized she's really interested in you and wants to be more than just an f-buddy). In which case, kudos to her for actually communicating and using her big girl words.

Sure, of course, it could be a game. A power play of some kind to see if she can withhold sex to manipulate you into a relationship, but I personally feel like it's too early to say.

My vote would be to roll with it, go on some dates and figure out if she's on the level or if she's psycho. Just too early to tell.

Verdict: Proceed with caution?
 
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