Observing and being

[Pozitron]

These are just things I observed about guys that get the girl, that have or had a girlfriend . It would be very interesting to debate on this topic.

1) They are never sad or depressed ( at least not for long anyway) in any way. They seem to have a positive mindset and have a good view on life. Spreading good vibes/ having a good energy.

2)They are never coming from a position of lack/ of needing something to be complete or whatever, but rather it seems that they are ok with who they are .

3) They aren't influenced that much about other people's opinions possibly because they are not putting so much importance on that. They come out as being natural and authentic( they are the same person on a basic lvl today and tomorrow and etc.)

4) They seem to have fun and a general good time everywhere. They are outside their head. NOT analyzing life, over thinking or concerning about what to do --- instead they JUST DO IT. They just LIVE and not PREPARE to live. --Life is damn short---.

5) They have their own thing going- not dependant on others to do something, but if given a chance they would have a great time with others. They are social beings and seem to be good interaction with people. They make people feel good around them.


6) Even though they don't come out as overconfident , they seem to be ok with their lives ---> Not needing any girl to be complete, but desiring her.

7) They are fearless and not ruled by limiting beliefs or concerns.

8)This is my own opinion--- They don't need this sh*it. They don't even know it... .We son't need all this( no offense to all this place- it helped me and maybe many of you) Look, I believe that neither of us need this stuff ( or maybe most of us-- some people really do have a problem) . It's about effort. We are staying here analyzing stuff, thinking that we need more information, when we actually don't. We are not living. We are existing. It's like: Student is facing a situation. What should I do? Student goes to the master and
asks him for a fish(technique). Master gives fish. Student is good for a while. then he hits a wall. He doesn't know what to do because he IS NOT USED TO THINK FOR HIMSELF AND JUST FU***** TRY . He goes to the master again asking for another fish. Master gives him another on. He faces a new situation . Guess what? He needs more fu***** fish... This will never end. What should he do instead? Mmmm.. good question.. let's see: Maybe LEARN HOW TO FISH. Do you see where I am going?
I think we all subconsciously know this stuff. Cause you go out there , are outside of your head, ok with who you are as a individual not think about how you should act or what you should do but just BE. You are just living you life, now existing like most people do cause you know what... life is pretty damn short and you should make the most of it.. You take control over yourself, over your own feelings, over your mood, over your thoughts, over your actions. You know why? BECAUSE YOU CAN IF YOU WANT TO. It's just that we don't allow ourself to be what we want. We think the problem is somewhere else when we are the proble. The only thing that is holding us back is ourself : out negative thoughts, out limiting beliefs, out own egos saying we are not good enough. You know what: Fu** all that. Give yourself permission to be great cause man, you are the only one holding you back. We tend to blame others for what we can't do just because it's easyer and we are afraid of taking responsibility. LIVE A LIFE OF YOUR OWN INTENTION. Don't ever worry (not don't care cause you must care since you are a part of the society) about what others think or say about you for the simple reason that you can't ever control it. Don't let that got to you and affect you , but rather live to your own standards. Have your own values.

It's all within ourselves -- can you honestly say that you haven't had 1 day- maybe just one - when you were confident and just living in the moment and you could do ANYTHING you wanted. You lived the life you loved. You saw a girl you want to talk to, you approached her ( no problem whatsoever) your eye contact was great, kino was suddenly just fine, the conversation flowed naturally and was awesome enethough you talked about whatsiever booring subject. She was in to you. She gave you her id or number... . It was what you have ever wanted happening... and you were feeling it. Then you observed that usually you were different and tried to find the reason or the cause for being that awesome. When you tries to rationalyze it , that feeling and atitude just sliped away. Gone.

We ( and when I say 'we' is just a way to say it ) are like robots. Trying to find the perfect technique, the magic pill for all our problems. Guess what, it doesn't exist. In life you aren't supposed to be something or to do something.
There isn'r any board ineaven where your destiny is written.
You give life a purpose. You define it. YOU are the focus. You really do that even though you are not doing that consciously , but by being in default mode.
Now THIS is what I believe.
And my advice is simple. LIVE. Live life to the fullest simply because you dint get a second shot and life is sooooo short. Take control. Man, this is your life... if not now, when? You can die tomorrow. It's unpredictable but in the end is right. Don't try to analyze it--- to figure it out .Go there , live and learn. Go and BE.

Sry, but I just needed to write this thing. I started something and the thoughts came all over in my head and I needed to express myself. Yea.. tell me what you think...
Have a great time, guys.

 

[Nino-Tk]

Dude, you get it! Hallelujah this is brilliant! Thats basically how I roll, just have fun with this and stop trying to attain flawless game.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Great to see that you're getting new beliefs, expressing yourself and adding value to the forum. Spotted some snippets of the blueprint in there, good stuff. I always get philosophical n stuff when I open my mind to new material, like the blueprint.

I'm looking forward to hearing how you take control of your life man.

 

[888]

I admire your enthusiasm. What I don't like is that it sounds way too much like the kind of "just be yourself! act natural!" dating advice I got from people before I got into pickup.

This stuff exists for the same reason that training wheels exist. When I was learning to ride a bike, I looked at the bigger kids who were riding without them, and I thought to myself "Pffft. Training wheels? F that. They're for babies. I don't need them." So I took the training wheels off my bike. I fell. A lot (I was a really stubborn 6 year old). Eventually, I swallowed my pride, and put them back on until I actually became comfortable enough to ride without them.

Same idea goes for pickup. Whether you like it or not, being able to talk to women is a skill, not a character trait. It's not a matter of "being yourself," it's a matter of being able to examine yourself honestly and say "wow, I am not very good at this. I need to learn how to get better."

EDIT: Depending too heavily on rigid, planned out routines is akin to giving a kid the answers to a test. He'll ace the test, but he won't learn anything about the subject. No good. On the other hand, saying that people don't need to learn pickup at all is like asking a kid to take a test without teaching him the subject at all.

 

[Pozitron]

I was just making a point. I'm not saying Just LIVE as in just be yourself. Cause if you just be yourself ( how most people get this phrase) you go into DEFAULT mode. If you are in that state ( most people are) you are reacting, existing and not taking control( which I call "to LIve"). DO you know why most of the people we see are that way? Because it's easyer, not painfull. They don't have to crash and burn..
What I'm trying to say is NOT BE CONTAINED BY FORM. So you shouldn't be limited by techniques---> GO there and try for yourself! By this I'm not mentioning the fact that all this stuff isn't good. It's good but till an extent. From there... it's Your jurney. WHy it's good? CAuse life is too short for you to get all your refference from 1st hand experiences.

Saying " Go and BE" I'm reffering to the fact that you should live a life of your own intention and take control. Do what you want and give yourself permision.

For ex: in martial arts there are newbies too, right? The master teaches them a technique and then another one and so on... So most of them, in the begining, they are doing it all wrong. Why? Becaused they are so focused on doing it to meet the master's specifications, on doing it right that they FORGET HOW IT FEELS.

I'm saying that one shouldn't be dependant on this stuff. That one should ask himself some questions..

Thanks for pointing that out, 888. I think I made its more clear for myself now.

Spotted some snippets of the blueprint in there

You've noticed well . I am watching the blueprint lately ( now I'm at "rsdbd 09" -- It makes more sense later? )

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Yeah, n more complex. Pozitron, you'll probably look back at this in two months thinking different thoughts. You're making good points, but the words and ideas aren't entierly yours yet. You'll get me in a while. I've been there.

I disagree with your metaphor 888. You do not get all the answers just cause you got 100s of techniques, covering up for a real personality. It does work, but you're working harder for less, and walking around not being yourself must take a toll on your confidence.

Being yourself is good advice if understood correctly. Be your best self.

You learn getting girls the same way as any other skill.

You don't say "I can't play football, its not me" you learn it, and evolve along the way.

I believe that one of the great things about this, is that it peels of layer by layer of your mask, insecurity and filters. You become yourself.

 

[Pozitron]

You're making good points, but the words and ideas aren't entirely yours yet.

Yea.. it would be foolish to deny it. Of course there are not part of me yet because I hadn't had time to assimilate them. I will, but for now there are just concepts I agree with. You're right on this one .

So I'm sure you've been at a point where I am --- watching the blueprint, generally having new concepts introduced in your life... . What's the next good step to take? What's the right action now, from your experience?

 

[NorwegianDJ]

From my experience, it just sinks into your head after a little while. Doing something new is a consistent answer I give to that question. But what to do after the blueprint in this context? Take it with a pinch of salt. it can stop making sense out of context. Use common sense. Strive to learn, strive for improvement.

Someone once said "I will do what you won't today, so I can do what you can't tomorrow."

 

[Pozitron]

So you basically figure what works for you through experience? You hear all that stuff but find answers within yourself?
Because if you just take a concept it won't stick until you have reached that conclusion. That's the reason nobody can change you, only yourself. Others can guide you or help you , but you Do it , ultimately...

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Change comes from within, external forces can only act as activation energy.

Check out "awaken the giant within" by anthony robbins. Great stuff.

Just take any advice and use common sense. Don't believe something just cause someone (or I) told you. Although, having 100% belief is important (hence why I don't normally say this)