"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'm not the most successful, but these are observations from personal experience and from observing others. Perhaps this is more for my benefit than anyone else's…

1. He who hesitates is lost, i.e. hesitation is masturbation.
2. Approach anxiety is easy to overcome. It is Close Anxiety which is harder to overcome.
3. Slut Theory: Most, if not all, women are as horny as us. If a woman can enjoy herself without looking like a slut, then she will.
4. More to come...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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You should update us all on how you're doing. From how I view you, you seem to be a great fvcking guy that I'd love to spend atleast a week with. But how's it going in all the various aspects of your life?
 
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@Norway: Work is giving me hell; I've become incapable of doing homework lately. Chick-wise: same old, same old. Interest is easy enough, now it's just the closing that always gets me. All my problems in life stem from my lack of willpower. Wheee.

1. He who hesitates is lost, i.e. hesitation is masturbation.
2. Approach anxiety is easy to overcome. It is Close Anxiety which is harder to overcome.
3. Slut Theory: Most, if not all, women are as horny as us. If a woman can enjoy herself without looking like a slut, then she will.
4. No fap does not hold true for everyone. But everyone should try it to see its effect on them.
5. Sharing is overrated. Keep things to yourself; share only when you really need to or if you're absolutely, 100% sure sharing will not affect you in any way.
6. Never take a woman's advice on women.
7. A female friend is just a woman who you won't or can't date.
8. There are only two ways to instill something into your subconscious: either read up like crazy on it and then completely forget about it for months OR practice, practice, practice.
9. Never be someone's first [anything].
10. More to come...
 
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2...So flippin true man, especially in the sexual phase for me. My friend lays regularly yet he can't approach to save his life, he depends on his social circles, cannot cold approach for s*it!

While, I approach in numbers but its the skill in closing that I'm having trouble wrapping my head around. It stems from performance anxiety issues that's for sure. As an aspiring Don though, I will work harder.
 
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Amen, Nino. For me, it hurts me everywhere. I'm too disconnected and too apathetic.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Approach anxiety can be more easily overcome with thoughts, but to try to do the same with closing presents three problems. You feel invested in the girl from the effort of approach, you can't feel kiss-vibes while in your head and your head is to crowded from thinking for so long. Clear your mind in her presence and you can really feel her, then she can really feel you. This state is how you bridge the sexual gap, how to communicate with women when we men are apparently logic to their emotion.

#5 is completely untrue. In recent times the joy of sharing has come to me. #9 sounds cool, but only if you have a reason. I have mine for refusing girls virginity, but I can't think of any to avoid a kiss, fingering, head, etc..
 
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DanZy said:
Weird, I've never really had close anxiety at all.
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Me neither, well I don't have kiss close and number close anxiety, but I do have a bit of a fvck close anxiety.
 
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