Observation on Social Media...

[RangerMIke]

Not much of a social media guy...I mostly have accounts to watch and see what my kids are doing. I post something MAYBE 4 times a year. But I've noticed something over the last couple of years that is interesting and wondered if others noticed the same thing.

Women, who are looking to branch jump then to go over board with posting how much they "love" the guy they are with, pictures of them together... bragging on how good their man is.

I've seen this time and time again, married women and women in committed relationships, who go on and on about how good their man is are the same ones that given the opportunity will grab my @ss at a party. The ones that NEVER mention their significant others in social media or never mention them, are the ones tat seem to be pretty happen in their relationship.

Okay.... now why is this, I have a two part theory:

(1) They are trying to convince themselves that who they are with is the best they can do. Ultimately this fails because they are trying to use rationality against their emotions... Since women are emotional creatures, emotions eventually win. They want some better d!ck, but also know that doing that is going to be a pain in the you know what, she doesn't want to branch jump, but her instincts are pulling her to that conclusion.

(2) They are setting the stage for plausible deniability. If anything happens, it certainly wasn't her fault... "Just look at how much I loved him!!" He was great.... but things just didn't work out and her broke my heart (boo hoo), come on friends make me feel better about me having no choice but to dump him.

 

[Von]

I think the same, and the guys who put alot of girl pictures are probably not getting laid. (you know with a woman in each pic, different woman)

But the guys who are ''under radar'' are probably getting the most.

Social Media is a projection. You create an image.

Showing your partner, is like when you put the quotes.... convincing yourself

 

[fastlife]

Spot on with your pattern recognition--but my theory's a little different as to their motivation.

Primarily, I think women use the 'So in love' social media shtick to:

1.) Manipulate their boyfriend into a false sense of security. By being so demonstrative with her love & affection, she creates a degree of cognitive dissonance in her partner that will make him more likely to rationalize any underhand behavior on her part. How could you even accuse me of grabbing RangerMike's ass? Look at all the nice things I've posted about you on FB. I'm crazy about you, etc. Girls that appeal to your ego (think Cluster B-style Love Bombing) do so primarily to manipulate you.

2.) Present a sh*t test for other potential male suitors. What better way to assure that only alphas end up in your Inbox than overtly presenting male competition--the betas will write themselves off, especially if their assessment of her boyfriend is that he's high value. But less scrupulous alphas, or ones that are more ego-driven, will see her as more of a prize. They perceive pulling her away from the boyfriend she loves so much as higher affirmation to their own ability.

3.) Establish meta anti-slut defense. This ties into point 1, re: creating cognitive dissonance in her boyfriend, but often it's the girls with the slvttiest histories who prioritize parading their current relationship all over social media. This distracts her boyfriend from digging into her past--This chick is crazy about me. But it also allows her to rewrite the perception other people have about her as a person. See, I'm not some slvt who couldn't get anybody to commit--look how much I love my boyfriend. I was just trying to find the right guy. After enough years go by and as her primary social circle adjusts to more relationship-minded people, the primary impression others have of her when her relationship fails isn't the size queen, club slvt but of the sweet, committed girlfriend material. It's effectively a social reset (and, ironically, she'll have all her former slvt friends cheering her on every time she posts about her boyfriend).

Bottom line, it's a red flag. I'd be very weary of any girl that uses you as a prop for social media. On the other hand, it's equally bad if you're exclusive with a girl and she refuses to link herself to you on social media at all. Seems most 'healthy girls,' or ones less likely to cheat on their boyfriends, stick to a pattern of a couple photo every month or three and save the real lovey-dovey stuff about 'I don't know how I got so lucky' for anniversaries.

 

[JohnChops]

I always noticed this, it's really funny. Then a few months later they bream up and she is putting up pictures of another guy. Stay under the radar fellas, don't even bother with social media.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I noticed what you're talking about back in the days of Myspace. The image people portray on social media is typically the opposite of real life.

 

[Von]

Funny, i have dated this girl who "often" (maybe 1 every 10 days) post à pic of her (with the food) taken by someone else with à tag of the place she was at (and what she ate). Or she tag herself àt à bar/restaurant with à pick of 2 glasses and bottle.

Sometimes she will write "great spot in great company"

The only time à guy is tagged, he looks gay(from fb ànd pic comments)

Went we dated she had me do it (before we kissed)

Its probably her "dating online marketing to other girl" saying "she's on a date"

Maybe the style/frame of pic and comment state if the guy will score or not. Or the Lucky ones dont get pic

 

[om1xr]

You guys are complicating this. It's basic example of having a partner as a provider and fvck a lover on the side and in many cases let the lover be the father of a child or more and the provider the one who raise them.

You may say they know exactly what they are doing and you may blame revolutionary selection or whatever but women do this subconsciously and the core of all these facades and manipulations and illusionary reputations either on social media or real life they present has nothing to do with the reality that subconsciously their bodies are looking for the best mate to bear their children to be a success in life and maybe the provider can be the father or not. And consciously their mind try to rationalize their instinctively behaviours and they do it many ways and one way is Ranger is social media example.

The conclusion is we are still a bunch of primates who engage subconsciously on Sperm warfares and our brains try to rationalize our instinctive actions and make sure to cover our pure nature.

 

[Von]

Its a way to make suspicious orbiter men jealous without outright scaring them away, as well as let other girls know, like you said.

I know right ? Being woman is hard.... having to show that you are ''sought''.....

However, yes social media helps you projects an image of something you are not always but a part of you. So the person make people believe stuff that are not always what it seems.

It's like writing in this forum, you can get alot of useful information, no guarantee the story behind it is real

 

[Solomon]

I seldom check my facebook a bunch of people begging for validation....****'em

 

[Von]

A recent pic of a girl of a girl who always tag herself with 2 glass of ones (reason of this post)

Today:
She posted a pic of 2 glass, one home made pie and a salad bowl ... .her description ''home made food'' (basically, she's home, with a food clearly for 1 person or one lightweight eater + her, 2 glass of wine)

 

[raider87]

I notice when a girl is newly single or looking, she'll update her profile pic weekly or a few times a week and post a lot more status updates.

 

[expos]

I see no correlation between social media updates and happiness to be honest. I have an Aunt who is always posting photos of her and my husband out and about. They've been married for 45 years. I have friend who is 25 who is dating a 22 year old and both of them post pics on Instagram weekly.

Then there are people like me who haven't posted a single picture since last summer and I'm perfectly content in my relationship. People know what I look like and frankly don't care what I'm up to - otherwise they'd ask.

Some people show their appreciation in different ways and you never really know what's going on in person's head.

To be honest, I HATE social media. I want to delete my FB profile so badly. I only keep my FB/Instagram because it is the only way I can keep track of what my friends + family and my favorite bands are doing.

 

[Von]

I see no correlation between social media updates and happiness to be honest. I have an Aunt who is always posting photos of her and my husband out and about. They've been married for 45 years. I have friend who is 25 who is dating a 22 year old and both of them post pics on Instagram weekly.

Then there are people like me who haven't posted a single picture since last summer and I'm perfectly content in my relationship. People know what I look like and frankly don't care what I'm up to - otherwise they'd ask.

Some people show their appreciation in different ways and you never really know what's going on in person's head.

To be honest, I HATE social media. I want to delete my FB profile so badly. I only keep my FB/Instagram because it is the only way I can keep track of what my friends + family and my favorite bands are doing.

Fellow mtl

 

[jaymbrs]

I’m going to test out these theories. I know a girl who broadcasts her relationship on social media all the time however sends me these cute selfies on Snapchat.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Not much of a social media guy...I mostly have accounts to watch and see what my kids are doing. I post something MAYBE 4 times a year. But I've noticed something over the last couple of years that is interesting and wondered if others noticed the same thing.

Women, who are looking to branch jump then to go over board with posting how much they "love" the guy they are with, pictures of them together... bragging on how good their man is.

I've seen this time and time again, married women and women in committed relationships, who go on and on about how good their man is are the same ones that given the opportunity will grab my @ss at a party. The ones that NEVER mention their significant others in social media or never mention them, are the ones tat seem to be pretty happen in their relationship.

Okay.... now why is this, I have a two part theory:

(1) They are trying to convince themselves that who they are with is the best they can do. Ultimately this fails because they are trying to use rationality against their emotions... Since women are emotional creatures, emotions eventually win. They want some better d!ck, but also know that doing that is going to be a pain in the you know what, she doesn't want to branch jump, but her instincts are pulling her to that conclusion.

(2) They are setting the stage for plausible deniability. If anything happens, it certainly wasn't her fault... "Just look at how much I loved him!!" He was great.... but things just didn't work out and her broke my heart (boo hoo), come on friends make me feel better about me having no choice but to dump him.

I recall a ***** after post secondary, posting "after X amt of years, I still love my bf."

Meanwhile, my mate had gone balls deep. His proteins were doing this backstroke in her digestive tract and anal cavity.

A lot of women are ****ed and absolutely disgusting barbarians. Her sex appeal is the biggest **** test.

Top form SMV is great. Its my target. Find one who seeks self knowledge and isn't a *****? Good luck.

 

[wifehunter]

fakebook

 

[Dingo]

BS life on Fakebook...

Not much different than all those guys that come here bragging of all the 9/10's they are so cleverly gaming and bedding when in reality they can't get a fat girl and live in the basement at their parents house.

 

[Spaz]

BS life on Fakebook...

Not much different than all those guys that come here bragging of all the 9/10's they are so cleverly gaming and bedding when in reality they can't get a fat girl and live in the basement at their parents house.

Hahaha

 

[Spaz]

Not much of a social media guy...I mostly have accounts to watch and see what my kids are doing. I post something MAYBE 4 times a year. But I've noticed something over the last couple of years that is interesting and wondered if others noticed the same thing.

Women, who are looking to branch jump then to go over board with posting how much they "love" the guy they are with, pictures of them together... bragging on how good their man is.

I've seen this time and time again, married women and women in committed relationships, who go on and on about how good their man is are the same ones that given the opportunity will grab my @ss at a party. The ones that NEVER mention their significant others in social media or never mention them, are the ones tat seem to be pretty happen in their relationship.

Okay.... now why is this, I have a two part theory:

(1) They are trying to convince themselves that who they are with is the best they can do. Ultimately this fails because they are trying to use rationality against their emotions... Since women are emotional creatures, emotions eventually win. They want some better d!ck, but also know that doing that is going to be a pain in the you know what, she doesn't want to branch jump, but her instincts are pulling her to that conclusion.

(2) They are setting the stage for plausible deniability. If anything happens, it certainly wasn't her fault... "Just look at how much I loved him!!" He was great.... but things just didn't work out and her broke my heart (boo hoo), come on friends make me feel better about me having no choice but to dump him.

It's both and more then likely No.2

 

[Spaz]

Spot on with your pattern recognition--but my theory's a little different as to their motivation.

Primarily, I think women use the 'So in love' social media shtick to:

1.) Manipulate their boyfriend into a false sense of security. By being so demonstrative with her love & affection, she creates a degree of cognitive dissonance in her partner that will make him more likely to rationalize any underhand behavior on her part. How could you even accuse me of grabbing RangerMike's ass? Look at all the nice things I've posted about you on FB. I'm crazy about you, etc. Girls that appeal to your ego (think Cluster B-style Love Bombing) do so primarily to manipulate you.

2.) Present a sh*t test for other potential male suitors. What better way to assure that only alphas end up in your Inbox than overtly presenting male competition--the betas will write themselves off, especially if their assessment of her boyfriend is that he's high value. But less scrupulous alphas, or ones that are more ego-driven, will see her as more of a prize. They perceive pulling her away from the boyfriend she loves so much as higher affirmation to their own ability.

3.) Establish meta anti-slut defense. This ties into point 1, re: creating cognitive dissonance in her boyfriend, but often it's the girls with the slvttiest histories who prioritize parading their current relationship all over social media. This distracts her boyfriend from digging into her past--This chick is crazy about me. But it also allows her to rewrite the perception other people have about her as a person. See, I'm not some slvt who couldn't get anybody to commit--look how much I love my boyfriend. I was just trying to find the right guy. After enough years go by and as her primary social circle adjusts to more relationship-minded people, the primary impression others have of her when her relationship fails isn't the size queen, club slvt but of the sweet, committed girlfriend material. It's effectively a social reset (and, ironically, she'll have all her former slvt friends cheering her on every time she posts about her boyfriend).

Bottom line, it's a red flag. I'd be very weary of any girl that uses you as a prop for social media. On the other hand, it's equally bad if you're exclusive with a girl and she refuses to link herself to you on social media at all. Seems most 'healthy girls,' or ones less likely to cheat on their boyfriends, stick to a pattern of a couple photo every month or three and save the real lovey-dovey stuff about 'I don't know how I got so lucky' for anniversaries.

Haha very clever !