"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Observation on not fapping

Sneevox

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It's been so long since I masturbated that my instinct, when I feel sexual desire, is no longer to touch myself, but to find a girl to rail.
It's... It's... WORKING!

Jesus Christ, the horniness is making me insane, but it gives me a reason to talk to girls. lol.
Before, I just felt.. almost indifferent to girls.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Quitting masturbation for a short-term motivation and experience - APPROVED.
Not fapping as a challenge or an achievement - DENIED.
 

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Agree on that.

I stopped it and just let it come the natural way. Yes I do get crazy and beasty but what I do is workout and let that energy go out till I'm dead beat tired and hit the bed.
 

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Not that I don't still feel indifferent, but now I don't feel like jerking off, and now I know that I can easily get a girl to fvck, so I go and do that.

Jesus christ, guys, seriously... do this.

It's crazy.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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its facts that when you dont fap, your thinking gets better,your focus gets better, your desire to socialize gets stronger, you confidence increases, you desire to get real women and not watch porn gets stronger

I went 68 days without fapping,and i wish i would have continued cause i swear i felt like a stronger man

fapping is actually unnatural

you think back in ancient times,powerful men where in their huts fapping?

or when their desire was at it peak for women,they went out and dominated?
 

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There has to be some placebo to it but then again science prevails. I stopped fapping for 30 days once and during that whole period I felt like an animal and had the need to find a FWB thing and DID! Then I went back to fapping for some reason and now im just so unenergietic. I stopped again though, for the past week . When you ejaculate your body relases hormones such as estrogen, progesterone, and cortisol to asist in the relaxation you feel after you fap. By not doing that you let your bodys test levels stay higher than that of your estrogen, progsterone, and cortisol .

Agreed again with the no fapping fora challenge f that, that would mean you could start fapping again so id say just not masterbait at all. Its not eve that fun anyway
 

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when you guys feel that stronge animal urge from not fapping

thats when your suppose to be creative

write music,make money, create art

why you think old men in their fifties on up become millionaires

because instead of sex and fapping they use their energies for something beneficial
 

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Yep I stopped a month ago and it helps alot. Sex is 10x better, I last longer, appreciate her body more and just enjoy the touch much more. And I feel much better and more motivated in general.

Porn really saps your energy and makes you more anxious around real girls.
 

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Dominance said:
Yep I stopped a month ago and it helps alot. Sex is 10x better, I last longer, appreciate her body more and just enjoy the touch much more. And I feel much better and more motivated in general.

Porn really saps your energy and makes you more anxious around real girls.
Really? You last longer? See I always had the impression that if im about to **** a broad and I havent cranked one out earlier that I will bust quicker and the sex wont be as long lasting.

You all seem to be pretty pro stop cranking it. I am debating trying this lol....I can see were it builds the urge to go and **** a broad..

Really interesting haha
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I must say I do take pride in being the only man on this forum who can spank as many times and as often as he wants and still live a healthy sex life with a fruitful and interesting social life as well. Maybe I have a magic dong.
 

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Really? You last longer? See I always had the impression that if im about to **** a broad and I havent cranked one out earlier that I will bust quicker and the sex wont be as long lasting.

You all seem to be pretty pro stop cranking it. I am debating trying this lol....I can see were it builds the urge to go and **** a broad..

Really interesting haha
Yeah but I will have to explain a bit more, it went in phases. At first I didn't last long at all after just giving it up because I was used to looking at porn. But I noticed after 3-4 weeks sex was better and I was lasting longer. It could be attributed to kegels but I haven't really done that many of them.

I find because of porn I was overstimulated and much too sensetive and giving it up has helped that. But it may take longer for other people as I am also using an audio to program my subconscious to overcome porn addiction and to instead focus on real sexual relationships.

So both of those things could be making the difference.
 

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I definitely subscribe to no fap.
I've become a lot more social with chicks in clubs and feel far more on my "game".
I think the constant horniness - while definitely frustrating - is a great motivator to actually talk and pursue women.
Say "no" to fap!
 

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MisterD said:
I must say I do take pride in being the only man on this forum who can spank as many times and as often as he wants and still live a healthy sex life with a fruitful and interesting social life as well. Maybe I have a magic dong.
You're not the only one. I don't get this whole No fap thing either. I turn into a monk if I don't release some tension very once and while. Libido drops through the floor.
I can hardly imagine that not fapping would turn me into an animal after a few weeks.

I think it's a form of escapism for most guys. The mindset is that if you don't fap, you will suddenly receive magical powers and girls will be suddenly attracted to you.
Just go out and game whether you fapped that day or not.

Neil Skywalker - Author of the book: Around the world in 80 Girls - The epic 3 year trip of backpacking Casanova
 

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You send your energy through your partner's body when you fvck a girl.
It's almost as if you use their body as an ankh.
You both share the energy, and sometimes you can feel like **** after you fvck someone mean because the energy they send you when they orgasm is simply so negative that it's ridiculous.
When you fap, you just sort of release all of that energy and you have to build it up again.

That's just my view.
Of course, a lot of that energy manifests in the physical as hormones and other things, but I also lose control of my spiritual ability and what-not when I fap.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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MisterD

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Neil Skywalker said:
I think it's a form of escapism for most guys. The mindset is that if you don't fap, you will suddenly receive magical powers and girls will be suddenly attracted to you.
Just go out and game whether you fapped that day or not
Oh it totally is escapism and mental masturbation. Because a lot of men are coming here looking for a one size fits all, magic pill solution to their female problems. They really do think it makes a difference.
 

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Oh it totally is escapism and mental masturbation. Because a lot of men are coming here looking for a one size fits all, magic pill solution to their female problems. They really do think it makes a difference.
Yep. There is no "one answer". That seems to be what everybody looks for in life. They end up giving up on this search when they don't even realize that life isn't about finding the "single truth", but finding lots of truth and light in everything, and also recognizing the dark side of things.

I do feel a lot hornier as of lately, and I also feel more awake and able to think clearly. I have a firmer grasp on my prana, as well.

Let's just say that controlling sexual urges is only a tiny piece of the equation, but it's definitely a jump-starter for your engine if you don't know where to start with improving your game... and even your life over-all.
 

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That old "No fap challenge" thread that's somewhere around here literally changed my life. For the past ten years or so, and especially when I wasn't in a relationship, I had become accustomed to to getting off with my hand and porn. Pretty much once daily, for the majority of ten years. My brain had become so used to the hyper-stimulation of porn that a live girl in my bed wasn't doing much. It seems weird, I know. I had trouble finishing, and often had trouble keeping it up. I was even having trouble getting myself off! My sex drive was flatlined, and forget it if I had been drinking, or was using a condom...I was devastated to think I might have ED at 35.

I followed a link on this site regarding Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction and was stunned to realize that that was me. I immediately went cold-turkey - 90 days with no porn and no fapping...It was a roller-coaster of no sex drive, insane horniness, and weird-ass dreams for the first month. Amazingly I've done a complete 180, and my bedroom performance lately has put my old 20 year-old self to shame. I wore out a girl ten years younger than me who described herself as "insatiable" when we were on our first date. At 35 my skills have and abilities have never been sharper.

If any of you guys have been having unexplained "difficulties" in the bedroom analyze your fapping/porn habits and adjust accordingly. This is serious business for a DJ, and totally real. Thanks for reading, and good luck to you all!

Edit: Feel free to PM me with questions.
 

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Oh it totally is escapism and mental masturbation. Because a lot of men are coming here looking for a one size fits all, magic pill solution to their female problems. They really do think it makes a difference.
No.. who is saying it is a magical thing?

It is making me feel alot more confident and better about myself and more comfortable around girls since stopping. But it's not magical.

But it will definately help alot. Porn ****s you up and makes you unable to relate to girls and makes you more anxious around them.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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