NYC: Looking for a wingman/friend - NOT a pickup artist

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Not-a-pickup-artist

New Member

Aug 27, 2016

Hey All,

I just got out of a 4.5 year relationship a month ago and I am back in the dating game. So far, I've had 1 date from meeting a girl in a coffee shop and 1 from online dating -- both didn't work out but I learned a thing or two.

I am looking for a wingman that is from the five boroughs or NYC. I am 41, normal, extraverted, very confident, an established business owner and have a very good outlook for life and myself. Ideally, I'd like someone who is also normal to accompany me on my outings and isn't going to try the latest tactic he learned in a book in order to meet Woman.

Let me know if that is you and let's rock!

Last edited: Aug 27, 2016

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.