"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Number Closing Effectively

AbsolutBeirut

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So I am going to train myself to get better at this because I hate it when I go through an interaction without getting anything out of it. Sometimes I feel you got no choice but to number close because the girl in question is with her friends and you cannot isolate her from them. So your best bet is to get the number and hope that a Day 2 can be arranged in the future. Anyways I want to know when is the best time to go for it? I assume that you can go about it when the convo is starting to die down and she is moving to her friends. I use the excuse that I got to go find my friends because we might hit another venue. Is there any better excuse? then I say that "I'd love to hang out again, so can I get your number?". Is there a better way of saying that? Next I either get the number or not and move away. Do u stick around a while longer after the number close? I'd love to hear how u guys handle this.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Snow Plowman

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It really depends on the situation and how much time spent. Sometimes when playing around I'd add something which ends up her giving me her number.

Examples
"Give me your number I'm going to tell your moms what a bad girl you are."
Girl asks me what word that says and I respond "You're # here."

Usually it depends on the vibe. If the vibe is good and you had something that your both interested in or something she was curious about then you could use that as a reason to get her #.

Example
"...it was fun. I'll make you tag along next time. You can hold the equipment...What's your #."

Sometimes I would qualify first and then get the # so she has a reason why I wanted to get her #. This is also real good when your in a rush or she is in a rush.

One way that is pretty good that some guy told me about is to give them your # and tell them to call your cell because you don't answer #s that you don't know. So now she has your # and you have hers.

Best time to usually request for the # is when your having a great vibe, but sometimes you won't even have time for that. So its best to just ask whenever and usually after getting the # you should talk a bit more that way you don't look like you just came in to get the # and split.
 

ryannath

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One time I was at a basketball game and a girl came and sat beside me, but I really wasn't that attracted to her, but during the game, she kept getting closer and closer to me on the bleachers, so I knew that she was attracted to me. I made a few comments during the game to her like, "OMG, that ref must be blind", or something like that and she would always laugh. Then at the end of the game, I simply turned to her and said, "So, what is your name anyway?" She responds with, "Alyssa", while stroking her hair and a smile. I then say, "My name is ryannath. Want me to give you a call sometime?" She reponds with a shy voice of, "yes!" I then said, "so what is the number?" Then I had the digits. That simple. P.S. My real name is not ryannath.
 

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Want me to give you a call sometime?
Hmmm... I like that, I'll have to give that a try sometime. For some reason it doesn't sound as desperate as just asking for her number, and sounds like it might have better results than "telling" her to give you her number. Also, it kindof makes her admit that she wants you to call her.
 
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