So it was my last weekend up in my college town before I graduate, but my usual wingman is on a cruise with his family so I decided to go out alone last night. Just enjoy my last night up here as an undergrad since I wont be back for a little while.
I hit up my usual spot, and its ok. I get a beer and talk with a dude I know whos a bartender there but off the clock and hanging out. I just chill for a little and then decide to walk the main road to see how the other bars look. I get up the block to this other bar and see two girls outside talking.
So I ask this one chick how it is in there, and shes like "its kinda lame but I dont think I can get in". So right there I knew she wasnt 21, but she looked 22 upon my first guess. So now I assumed she was like 20. She asks me how good the other bar I was at was...I told her it was pretty chill, so off we went after her friend passed her an ID to use.
Now normally the bouncers at the bar I was first at are very hard about IDs. But since I know them I just gave them a handshake, and they just looked hers really quick and let us in. Social Proof. We small talk and she tells me she goes to school north of the town we are in, towards the USA Canada border. I meet her friends in the other bar, she offers to buy me a shot, but I decline since I had to drive and already had drinks in me. I start giving her some kino, we are talky and flirty, but then she'll say how "im her wingman" or how shes "a great wingwoman" Plus she even would point girls out and ask me what I thought and I would reply with "eh Im picky" which I am.
So we go back and forth between the two bars, and she does end up getting me two drinks, because she just kept insisting on it and her goal was to get smashed lol So I say to her "this doesnt mean you can take advantage of me lol" Now as we continued to talk I outright ask her age since I knew she wasnt over 21. And she tells me shes 18, and then confesses that shes just about to start college in the fall at the school she mentioned. I mean hell she assumed I was 19 or 20 till I told her I was older. (Black dont crack plus good genes)
So mind you I am turning 25 ina few months, so that made me feel weird. And I kinda figured she was young due to her behavior during the night with her friends. They were pretty immature, and I dont like being lied to either, even if its a small one about her already being in school. Hell even one of her guy friends lied to try and seem older to me. I told him I was graduating soon and he mentions how he just graduating from florida state. Then she says hes actually an incoming freshman at Florida State and is only 18, but I swore he looked 22 or 23.
So yeah that crap had me feeling like I was around a bunch of kids. But I decided to just have fun for the night. I was not aiming to screw then and there. So I end up putting her name in my phone and handing it to her somewhere in the middle of the night. Digits received. Then at the end of the night we were standing near her friends mini van and they were getting ready to leave. So I say "why dont you give me a kiss" and she directs me behind the van, so her friends wouldnt see and we kiss for a bit.
All that said to me was that shes a young girl that really gives a damn what her friends think and I felt no accomplishment in my getting a number or kiss close. It also made me realize why I always prefer a girl to be over 21(sometimes 22 is a better number). Girls at that age are more mature and are over the "new" feeling over drinking and bars. Plus they have the life experience to make them seem more down to earth and interesting. They dont come off as kids.
I kept thinking how even if I had sex with her, I would feel no gain. Nothing. I kept thinking "meh this is too easy and it could be easy because I am older, but I am sure any dude their age could have an easy time with this stuff." My ego desires a challenge and to feel a woman is more on my level, and under 21 (or 22) chicks just come off differently to me. Last night made me realize more and more why I realistically want my dating range to be plus or minus 3 years of my age. 21/22 to 27/28. Anything more than that the difference in age really seems to show, not to say a few years doesnt in itself.
Alternatively, sometimes I think my standards are too high and that I cant be fulfilled by any woman. Because I was seeing a girl in late may/early june, who was 23 going on 24, yet like me, was a few years older than her class. But some of the things she did just really bothered me, and I couldnt look past them for the sake of having fun, which is what I want to do. My standards and ego really conflict with my dating aspirations sometimes. Oh wells.
What say you guys regarding this long post?
I hit up my usual spot, and its ok. I get a beer and talk with a dude I know whos a bartender there but off the clock and hanging out. I just chill for a little and then decide to walk the main road to see how the other bars look. I get up the block to this other bar and see two girls outside talking.
So I ask this one chick how it is in there, and shes like "its kinda lame but I dont think I can get in". So right there I knew she wasnt 21, but she looked 22 upon my first guess. So now I assumed she was like 20. She asks me how good the other bar I was at was...I told her it was pretty chill, so off we went after her friend passed her an ID to use.
Now normally the bouncers at the bar I was first at are very hard about IDs. But since I know them I just gave them a handshake, and they just looked hers really quick and let us in. Social Proof. We small talk and she tells me she goes to school north of the town we are in, towards the USA Canada border. I meet her friends in the other bar, she offers to buy me a shot, but I decline since I had to drive and already had drinks in me. I start giving her some kino, we are talky and flirty, but then she'll say how "im her wingman" or how shes "a great wingwoman" Plus she even would point girls out and ask me what I thought and I would reply with "eh Im picky" which I am.
So we go back and forth between the two bars, and she does end up getting me two drinks, because she just kept insisting on it and her goal was to get smashed lol So I say to her "this doesnt mean you can take advantage of me lol" Now as we continued to talk I outright ask her age since I knew she wasnt over 21. And she tells me shes 18, and then confesses that shes just about to start college in the fall at the school she mentioned. I mean hell she assumed I was 19 or 20 till I told her I was older. (Black dont crack plus good genes)
So mind you I am turning 25 ina few months, so that made me feel weird. And I kinda figured she was young due to her behavior during the night with her friends. They were pretty immature, and I dont like being lied to either, even if its a small one about her already being in school. Hell even one of her guy friends lied to try and seem older to me. I told him I was graduating soon and he mentions how he just graduating from florida state. Then she says hes actually an incoming freshman at Florida State and is only 18, but I swore he looked 22 or 23.
So yeah that crap had me feeling like I was around a bunch of kids. But I decided to just have fun for the night. I was not aiming to screw then and there. So I end up putting her name in my phone and handing it to her somewhere in the middle of the night. Digits received. Then at the end of the night we were standing near her friends mini van and they were getting ready to leave. So I say "why dont you give me a kiss" and she directs me behind the van, so her friends wouldnt see and we kiss for a bit.
All that said to me was that shes a young girl that really gives a damn what her friends think and I felt no accomplishment in my getting a number or kiss close. It also made me realize why I always prefer a girl to be over 21(sometimes 22 is a better number). Girls at that age are more mature and are over the "new" feeling over drinking and bars. Plus they have the life experience to make them seem more down to earth and interesting. They dont come off as kids.
I kept thinking how even if I had sex with her, I would feel no gain. Nothing. I kept thinking "meh this is too easy and it could be easy because I am older, but I am sure any dude their age could have an easy time with this stuff." My ego desires a challenge and to feel a woman is more on my level, and under 21 (or 22) chicks just come off differently to me. Last night made me realize more and more why I realistically want my dating range to be plus or minus 3 years of my age. 21/22 to 27/28. Anything more than that the difference in age really seems to show, not to say a few years doesnt in itself.
Alternatively, sometimes I think my standards are too high and that I cant be fulfilled by any woman. Because I was seeing a girl in late may/early june, who was 23 going on 24, yet like me, was a few years older than her class. But some of the things she did just really bothered me, and I couldnt look past them for the sake of having fun, which is what I want to do. My standards and ego really conflict with my dating aspirations sometimes. Oh wells.
What say you guys regarding this long post?