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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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J.kelly

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Last night, went to a club.. I started talking to this girl and we got to talking for awhile(C+F works wonders). She was their with her friend and her friend's boyfriend.. luckily her friend's boyfriend is a close friend of mine, whom i didn't expect.. After we started dancing for awhile, she left the dance floor to find her friends again. and something in my head said "don't follow this girl, you're going to look to needy." So i went my own way and attemped opening new sets. I didn't get to number close or anything...

my question is.. if i wanted to her see her again how would i go about doing it? (i probably could with our mutual friend), or i could look her up via facebook, but that **** seems too stalkerish.. or i could just drop it all together, but it would be nice if i could salvage this.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Obsidian

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not a bad idea, I guess

You probably did the right thing in not following the girl or #-closing (because you expected to see her again later that night). You just got kinda unlucky.

If you run into a girl like that again that you hit it off with, you oughta try to gain rapport for just a little while. Then you could tell her you need to bail, and go ahead and #-close. Then walk down the street to a different bar or something to get away from her. (after you #-close, you're supposed to leave)

Of course, if she left you and didn't come back, her IL might not have been as high as you imagined -- so it may be no big loss.
 

SamePendo

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Next time before leaving, say:

"Hey sexy, I'm leaving now, *hand over your mobile* write down your cellphone and I'll call you to . . ." Usually say "to do something" but you can say "to have horizontal aerobics, me on top of you" if you're in a place with loud music, she'll never notice, and if she does, whatever!
 

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Same has the basic point down. Let her know you want to see her again. Ask for her number.

Yes, it's that simple.

So next time you see her go for the jugular.
 

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I would ask your mate to organise something with his gf and her friend and take it from there or you could ask his GF for the girls number straight up.
 

TruthHurts

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at the point when she leaving dance floor to find her friends you say "Hey, you seem real cool, let me write down your number, i'll give u a call sometime and we can go hang out" then before she answer, pull out your phone, open it up so it lights up and put your ear next to her mouth/face....
DUHHH!!!!
 
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