Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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J.kelly

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Last night, went to a club.. I started talking to this girl and we got to talking for awhile(C+F works wonders). She was their with her friend and her friend's boyfriend.. luckily her friend's boyfriend is a close friend of mine, whom i didn't expect.. After we started dancing for awhile, she left the dance floor to find her friends again. and something in my head said "don't follow this girl, you're going to look to needy." So i went my own way and attemped opening new sets. I didn't get to number close or anything...

my question is.. if i wanted to her see her again how would i go about doing it? (i probably could with our mutual friend), or i could look her up via facebook, but that **** seems too stalkerish.. or i could just drop it all together, but it would be nice if i could salvage this.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Obsidian

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not a bad idea, I guess

You probably did the right thing in not following the girl or #-closing (because you expected to see her again later that night). You just got kinda unlucky.

If you run into a girl like that again that you hit it off with, you oughta try to gain rapport for just a little while. Then you could tell her you need to bail, and go ahead and #-close. Then walk down the street to a different bar or something to get away from her. (after you #-close, you're supposed to leave)

Of course, if she left you and didn't come back, her IL might not have been as high as you imagined -- so it may be no big loss.
 

SamePendo

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Next time before leaving, say:

"Hey sexy, I'm leaving now, *hand over your mobile* write down your cellphone and I'll call you to . . ." Usually say "to do something" but you can say "to have horizontal aerobics, me on top of you" if you're in a place with loud music, she'll never notice, and if she does, whatever!
 

Alkali

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Same has the basic point down. Let her know you want to see her again. Ask for her number.

Yes, it's that simple.

So next time you see her go for the jugular.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Mr_Aries

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I would ask your mate to organise something with his gf and her friend and take it from there or you could ask his GF for the girls number straight up.
 

TruthHurts

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at the point when she leaving dance floor to find her friends you say "Hey, you seem real cool, let me write down your number, i'll give u a call sometime and we can go hang out" then before she answer, pull out your phone, open it up so it lights up and put your ear next to her mouth/face....
DUHHH!!!!
 
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