"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Now what! Must click!

S.Y.L

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Ok. Short story.
1. I Sorta know this girl in english.
2. I talk to her a few times
3. I'm 95% sure she likes me, and I like her pretty much
4. Shes talking to me more often and always smiles at me, and laughs. Good Stuff.

So I started talking to her like a week ago if that, out of random. Since its High School, should I keep talking to her for a while longer, or should I ask her out right away, or should I ask her to hang out a few times first, then ask her out, so shes comfortable.

So, I got everything down, now what. With DJ techniques, was actually really easy. I want her to be my GF, and have a LTR, so How should I ask her out, theres a halloween dance in a week or two, Ask her to go to that with me???

The town we live in sucks, so what should I do? Movie, I know you guys say something fun, but honestly, I can't think of something fun here.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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It is very strange. I could think of a few ways to solve your problem, however if I were in the same situation, I cannot think at all. Weird eh? I'd have someone else answer you, to be honest you would be better off at the moment.
 

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hm same thing with me..i thought about just asking her out of nowhere.cause i'm sure she's interested..BUT..i didnt know if she had a bf or not..my friend's gf is in her grade..but she's not sure...SO instead of asking her to hang without having spoken to her...NOW my plan is to talk to her for about a week or two and then taking her out somewhere..OR until i find out she's single whichever comes first..

Hm movies is ok if you're good with kino at the movies..and make sure you do more than just movies such as dinner..cause you need some talking in there...
minigolf, zoo, botanical gardens, nature trails, golfing range, park, picnic, fishing, beach

hope that helps
 

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Yeah, well I know shes single for sure, shes in my grade as well.
 

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dude this is weak.


ask her out to do something cheap.

got a starbucks around? everyone has those! go get some coffee and if you're lucky and your local bookstore is connected to the coffee shop, you can grab a coffee and browse some books. dont spend so much on a first date.

and if there's no bookstore, go for a walk! first date isnt to teach her to be a gold digger. it's to learn about if the two of you might be compatible!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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1. I cannot stand coffee
2. Bookstore....thats one of the most boring things I could think of...

She hates schoolwork, and isnt a smart kid, I doubt she likes books.

What about, inviting her to walk to a place with me down the street a bit, and like buy her ice cream or somthing? then hang out for a bit
 

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take her to go see "Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist" its a good date movie and its pretty funny too. you dont need to be the greatest of pals to go see a movie together, plus itl probs get her thinking of you as more of BF material than friend material

just my thoughts, do what u want
 

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S.Y.L said:
1. I cannot stand coffee
2. Bookstore....thats one of the most boring things I could think of...

She hates schoolwork, and isnt a smart kid, I doubt she likes books.

What about, inviting her to walk to a place with me down the street a bit, and like buy her ice cream or somthing? then hang out for a bit

lol alright. i love the bookstore and coffee. im kinda a nerd and sometimes go for smart girls
 

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TheCommonreactor said:
take her to go see "Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist" its a good date movie and its pretty funny too. you dont need to be the greatest of pals to go see a movie together, plus itl probs get her thinking of you as more of BF material than friend material

just my thoughts, do what u want
If I was going to do the movie thing, thats what I was thinking of haha.

If I do end up doing this, should I do the cliche arm around her thing, and then on the way out of the theatre, hold her hand?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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(JJ) said:
lol alright. i love the bookstore and coffee. im kinda a nerd and sometimes go for smart girls
Its not even about being a nerd or anything of the sort, you want someone you can communicate with not an object who will be as smart as a plank and there like one.
 

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We are in high school, the bookstore thing may work when your older, I just cannot see that working at all.
 

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Then you must be an idiot, because i have done it multiple times to great effect.... maybe you should up the ante by at least attempting to be more intellectual.
 

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thus, we all have different preferences here on sosuave.... Tekniq i agree wholeheartedly with you. i consider myself an extremely intelligent individual, and i look for that in my women. occasionally, i'll even meet someone at a bookstore that ends up being cool. thats where women my type like to hang out. (yes, even in high school op) i love taking girls there cuz its cheap and fun for us. thats what i was thinking you were wanting out of this thread. BUT if your priorities are different, you adjust accordingly. (*cough* wolf and op *cough*) no need to bash tho :)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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S.Y.L

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I dunno, I might just do the cliche movie thing.

She likes me, she wont care that much if I do somthing typical.
 
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