"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ok so, I got this girls number, but now i have no idea wtf to do, firstly, i am not interested in just having sex with her then ****ing off, thats at the bottom of my priorities list at the moment, so how do I come across as someone that is not a typical nice guy, but someone who is interested in a relationship more than just having sex?

all the advice on here seems to be focused on helping guys have sex with as many women as possible, which is not really what im looking for, can anyone help me?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why would you want to be in a relationship with a girl you have just met?

Do you not have any expectations in a woman before making her your girlfriend?

If you don't want to come off as a nice guy, then you should bang her.

Continue to bang her until she suggests having a relationship with you.
 
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awesomepizza said:
Ok so, I got this girls number, but now i have no idea wtf to do, firstly, i am not interested in just having sex with her then ****ing off, thats at the bottom of my priorities list at the moment, so how do I come across as someone that is not a typical nice guy, but someone who is interested in a relationship more than just having sex?

all the advice on here seems to be focused on helping guys have sex with as many women as possible, which is not really what im looking for, can anyone help me?
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Don't worry. You won't be getting sex from this one or any other woman anytime soon, even if it was at the top of your priorities list. The nature of your question suggests you have very little experience to actually pull off sexing her anytime soon. So just do your thing and stay away from the friend zone.

Go try it your way. Whatever that might be. Then when you are tired of women not seeing you as a sexual being, you might be more open to learning how to sex her, sooner rather than later, and make her ask for that elusive relationship you're after.
 
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Put a bit more gently: In order for a romantic connection to happen, a physical one usually needs established first.

It doesn't have to be a one night stand, but you don't even really know this girl. How do you just know you want an exclusive relationship with her? If your honest with yourself, you'll see that thinking this way is kind of silly.

The right answer is to date her, and when the opportunity arrives sex her. If you can stimulate her sensually, she will push a more commited relationship on her own. While you're waiting for all of this, consider that shes at least mildly interested in you - she wouldnt have given you her number if she wasnt. Have fun, and evaluate her along the way. That way, by the time she wants to take it further, you'll be able to give her a decision that is honest to both of you instead of winding up obsessing over how to keep her.

Good luck.

P.S. Put a little more crudely: Beat them cheeks real good, and you wont have to bring up having a relationship, shell beg you for one.

I have a feeling that how you view the process of human relationships is a bit warped. Check this out: On a biological level, we were designed to have sex. We were never designed for monogamy. Its a practice, not an instinct.

Right now, I think your seeing relationships as: Get number -> Go on dates -> "Serious"/"In Love" -> Sex -> Marriage/Have kids/Whatever

The truth is that as a species we aren't wired that way. The simple reality is: Meet girl-> attract girl -> sex girl. And thats where the natural process stops, and the artificial one begins. If you feel like shes worth your time, continue sexing her. If she is interested, she will provide signs for you to make a move all the way up to marriage should you choose to stay invested that long.
 
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SchoolBoy said:
Why would you want to be in a relationship with a girl you have just met?
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I didn't say that, I just meant I'm tired of ****ing about and I want to be in something more meaningful rather than shallow and superficial.

It might just be me turning asexual or something but I find sex becoming more and more mundane every day, I really am losing interest in it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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i'd say focus on sex first or getting it on physically before so you can an opportunity to get into something deep. it's not really 'focusing' on sex...i don't know how to explain it, it's just the way things work.

but there's nothing wrong with just staying friends with woman and having a connection with her. she can prove to be a valuable asset.
 
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awesomepizza said:
I didn't say that, I just meant I'm tired of ****ing about and I want to be in something more meaningful rather than shallow and superficial.

It might just be me turning asexual or something but I find sex becoming more and more mundane every day, I really am losing interest in it.
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I'd really recommend to get to know her first before you lead her, or learn about how to lead her, into a relationship. She might be a crazy ho. So yea, just because you want a relationship doesn't mean you must start one with the first bit.ch thats willing to hand you her #.
 
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