"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Now this other girl...

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Okay boys, well first and foremost it has been a WHILE since I've dedicated my time to SS but I think I'm finally back here for GOOD (I definately need massive help on my game again).

Okay, well this girl, lets call her Jo, has kinda been driving me NUTS.

To give some background, I've known her for over 2 years (we met the first week I got to college; Going into our Junior year now).

Freshman year she was hooking up with one of my best friends for about 2months. Then they stopped and her and her friends ended up just hanging out with us for the whole year. They kinda became "our girls" if you know what I mean.

So then Sophmore year starts. One night were hanging out with them and her friend goes "Hey ToddC, Jo wants you tonight." So normally guys would be like HELL YEA BABY, but not me. I don't like being told that shyt so I didn't even pursue her.

A month later she has a BF. THEN I want her. So one night were both wasted at my apartment and we end up hooking up. I got her naked in my bed NO SEX THOUGH :( :( :(. But yea that was that. We never talked aobut it, NOTHING.

So she still had this BF fora while. They broke up. This is now 2nd semester. We start hooking up randomly on weekends. She also hooks up with this other guy. So later in the semester this guy asks her to his formal and she went NO BIGGIE.

But then her formal comes around, I'm thinking shes going to ask me but no, she asked him. Whatever still no biggie. BUT THAT NIGHT SHE BRINGS HIM TO MY APARTMENT. That pissed me off...

So then I was ready to next her. But she kept lingering around adn we ended up hooking up a few more tiems.

Summer session comes, we hook up once in 6 weeks and that was it.

NOW, shes living about an hour form me (shes from the opposite side of the country but shes living here for the summer witha friend).

So I texted her twice for us to chill. So Jo and her friend come to happy hour once with myself and my friends. It was fun but no action.

Then last week I was like ok lets pregame together before we go out. So my 1 friend and I pregame with Jo and her friend. We go to the bar together. Were holding hands, talking the whole night, laughing, etc etc. I was loving it, she was loving it BUT NO ACTION!!!

The next morning I text her because my dumb a$$ friend texted her at like 4 the night before pretty much saying that he wants some late night pu$$y form her friend (this was from my phone).

So I text her saying I'm glad they ignored that text yada yada I had a lot of fun. She texts me back saying she had SO much fun and we gotta do it again soon. Haven't talked to her since, it was exactly 1 week ago today.

So whats my next step. Do I still have a shot with this girl? Should I just get rid of her?

The only reason why I'm still around is because we get along great, and shes a dime piece.

Help me out of this here boys!!!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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yea i know, i reached the point at school where i was sick of putting time into this girl.

So one ngiht I ended up bangin this other chick...and guess who is in my apartmentw hen I walk out of my room...NONE OTHER THAN JO!!

She then went and told all ofher friends and what not...One of our mutual girl friends was like ToddC your such an idiot why would you do that yada yada yada...

But I agree with you if it hasn't happend yet she clearly doesn't view me as relationship material...but then why would she get angry and tell all of her friends that story/

See I'm in this for a relationship. I'm at a point right now where I want to settle down with soemone for a little. This girl would be great for me, I just know it. But if were on 2 different pages I guess Imma just take what I can from her and when I find someone better I'll get rid of the b*tch
 

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nono, i definately understood all of it...it definately made a lot of sense also...thanks a lot man.
 

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ha you would think, ive had her naked numerous times and each time i go in for the f close, she says no and i try a few more times no

only got a few bjs outta her...

another reason why i should kick her.
 
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