Now I need your advice......Making a big move....

[Falcon25]

I live in a state that is one of the highest unemployed in the country. As you can imagine, being unemployed or underemployed means ZERO social life and dating. I'm in my early thirties, and each day that goes by, I feel like I am wasting my life. I am well educated but I'm in the wrong town. My question to you is; Should I move without locating a job in another area? Should I wait till I find a job? At least I have family here. It's scary going from somewhere you have grown up from to somewhere where you have never been. I have no one outside of this state. How did any of you deal with this? I want to be out by end of the summer. Some people say, sell your car, clothes, whatever to move. Others say, get a part time job, save some money and then move. Some say, borrow cheat lie or steal and then move. I want to start dating again, but in a place where women are plenty and single. Any ideas? Any cities you would recommend? I guess in a way I need some inspiration. Is this the right time to make a move without having a job lined up? I can go on and on. But it would be nice to have my life back. How did you move? What did you take with you? Been sending out resumes like crazy but employers have been unwilling to hire out of state so far. And I don't have the money to travel the US and interview everywhere. Just stuck. Need some advice.

 

[runner83]

Falcon,

I think it very much depends on how confident you are that you can get a new job where you go to. Something sort of similar happened to me last year.

I left a stable government job (as a civil engineer) living in the place in Australia with the hottest women to go work in the private sector.

The company I went to work for had a bad rep so I went knowing that it may not work out.

Also, the job was located in a remote area, they screwed me with regards to the fly-in / fly-out arrangements (2 weeks turned out to be 6 weeks in between) and there was safety violations on the job which the project manager was ignoring in pursuit of building the job faster.

So, one day, without having another job lined up or knowing where I was going to go, I made the decision that I didn't want to do that with my life (not to mention likely legal consequences if something went wrong) and simply walked out.

Luckily, I had plenty of money saved up and I was confident I could find another job. Also, since i've lived in about 8 different places in my 27 years, I am sort of used to moving around.

Within 3 months (after a bit of a holiday) I was back with my original employer (I actually got invited for interviews in 3 places with them) in a new part of the state and enjoying it very much.

For me, it was a good learning experience and with plenty of money previously saved it wasn't a big issue.

Remember, you only get one shot and if you feel like every day you're wasting your life, how will you feel in 5 years time if you don't take the chance.

Make it happen. Good luck!

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Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.

So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sails.

Explore. Dream. Discover.

 

[sharkbeat]

I am in a situation very similar to yours. I am assuming you live in California?

My advice to you is to focus on your career (money) first, then dating. Don't worry so much about trying to get chicks right now. Not saying that you can't, but your biggest concern at this point should be you and money. I don't know what you do, but while you are looking for the real job, try getting a temporary job -- the kind that typically pays minimum wage, even at McDonald's.

Having something to do (a job) and that constant flow of money is important for your physical and emotional health, and I am not kidding about this. Living below your means and having nothing to do are stressful, and stress can affect your game. Just find something.

 

[Falcon25]

Thanks fellas, you two proud souls were the only ones. Sharky, you are very correct, you're saying just take anything, to take your thoughts away from this right now.

 

[Kailex]

I made a big move and a blind jump two years ago.

Best decision I EVER have made.
I would have regretted it had I not made it.