"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Hey hey, Ive read many many posts and I can see just how good this stuff is! But what use is it if I haven't the confidence or conversation skills to initiate it? You can sit here being held back by the butterflies rampaging in your stomache or you can set off on a life changing quest to will them away, thats how I feel right now. I can see it being very hard and I know that I will falter many a time but you guys are a great motivation, thanks for that.

So recruiting time! Who's in to start this from the beginning? Essentially this is a novice bootcamp but if your already a DJ come in, join us and share your wisdom!

For those that don't know what im on about download this: http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/djbc.pdf

also check out these other bootcamps/approach journals for tips : http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=79186
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=79789
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=77857

OK so we'll start as soon as we have a few others joining in and/or my hangover has gone :p.

This is week one.

Ok im going to start reading those articles as suggested, lots of good reads here even after already reading them ! Don't skip them :).
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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OK Day 1 , week 1.

Not so good, I live way too far out of town to walk there and was unable to get a lift. Was at home all day but practiced getting my optimum frequency of my voice whilst I was hear and check out a few posts. No worries I guess, tommorow im going to an all day party/pubbage so im going to go for it! Come on someone join!
 

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Good man, ill post a report of sunday since Ive got a whole day of partying tommorow for a friend's 18th
 

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I'm in...but going to skip all the Hi's and what not that first weeks usually consist of. I work at Home Depot and i say Hi to everyone i walk by, heh...and it just comes naturually in real life as well usually.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ok guys, im in too.

Did this start today? We should all start on Sunday so we can do it at the beginning of the week.
 

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Hey hey, im happy to start today. Went to that party but I already knew everyone there so overall I couldn't do any "offical hellos". So haven't got anything done yet unfortunately, in context to the bootcamp that is...

Im not sure whats going to happen today personally it's already two in the afternoon and it seems that a "family activity" is being arranged so I can't see how I could go out and do this thing... I'll have to find a way of getting round this problem.

specialised maybe you should just do the hellos anyway but increase the quota by a lot, up to you.

edit- It seems my family is intent in keeping me at home to take part in their activities it sounds sort of fun but it means I fall behind on the bootcamp, I don't know how to deal with it. Tommorow im going to the nearby city to clothes shop so ill get a chance then. Im thinking of decreasing my quota and doing it for 2 weeks instead because of my situation.
 

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well i tried to start today.....got rear ended and ****in spent all day in the cop shop dealing with it. 0 convos. tommorrow is a new day.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Ok I think...we should all start today monday 8th. Alrighty, today im going to make eye contact with everyone I can in the shops and say hi 10 times, 5 times minimum. Ok guys lets brainstorm places to go say "Hi" :
> Any shops, big supermarkets are best
> On the street of the town/city
> Parks
 

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Thanks for the wisdom Shezzler.
I forgot about the 3 second rule today, that might had helped. Unfortunately, too many moving targets when shopping so it was hard to establish eye contact so, I didn't get ANY "hi"s, disappointing to say the least. But well at least im getting into the mood, ill keep trying whatever happens.
 

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I don't know if this counts but i'll say it anyways.

I've always talked kind of dirty with this one girl at my work. Tonight i felt like doing something about it.

I called her up and we set up for me to come to her place after i was done, that i did. I made a lot of EC and kino, that alone got me where i wanted. We "cuddled" and touchy feely and left with a kiss, which she is ****ing awsome at. Left with a, "call me" and just went to my car.

Hope that made sense, sort of vague but you get the idea i think.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Week 1, Day 1

Probably got 15+ "Hi"s in today. I've been making it a point to make ec with everyone at work and say hi if they seem receptive. Also for lunch i had a decent conversation with the lady who made me my sandwich.

The EC and saying hi part is easy now, i just gotta start the approaches.
 

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I got one really crap hi today at the end of the day, was out cycling with the family and I just said hey there to some guy but I didn't show any eye contact so was really crap tbh. But it doesn't matter, im getting into this now and I feel improvements already, im just going to keep up this until I get 50 hi! s, If I got over a week ill keep trying anyway. No rush.
 

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Week 1, Day 2

So far i've only gotten about 5 smiles/hi's today, but its ok because its only 3:20p over here. I still got some time, gonna go to the gym and whatnot.

So who all is still part of this bootcamp?
All i see right now is nougat, myself and specialed.

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You guys still doing it? Post your reports so we all can actually learn something from this.

If we're going by the DJBC this week's goal is 50+ hi's. Post your progress!

Hi's: 20
 

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Count me in, too. But hey I have a head start already got 23 his ;-) - in 3-4 weeks..............................................
 

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Week 1, Day 2 (cont.)
Said hi to a few people at the gym and when i went to get food. But i got a call from a friend who told me of a party for a friend's bday tonight. So i rolled over there after eating and getting ready.

By the way soory if this doesn't make too much sence it's because im high and drunk.... god danm.

Anyways, not really any girls i didn't already know but i did chop it up with a few of my hoes and practiced some C&F.
HB7:Gosh you're so cute.
Me: Ya i know.
HB7: Lets go inside bla bla bla"
Me: You go, ill come find you when im done talking to these other girls *grin*.

So it went like that for a little while talked to some of my other girls but i didn't realy stay for too long. Not a bad tuesday night.

His: 24
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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