"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ok, making it a little less confused here..... first of all, i have a prob if i really call it a prob (since i got all my gfs in the same manner) that i dont approach (by which i mean, starting up a natural convo) any random HB that i see checking me out. in fact, i find it so very odd that i dont do it at all. its my ego i think that cant tolerate if someone would like to change that.

today itself i saw a girl checking me out and she was with one of her guyfriends or maybe, her bf. so, i fully ignored her and walked away.

now forget about this situation. what I am asking u all, is what would u do if u see any girl checking u out? would u make her come to u by not going over to her and simultaneously trying to increase your value in her eyes or just go over and start up a convo with her and go onto create attraction through the convo? what do u suggest?

because on ur suggestions, i would think if my ego is correct or not!
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i'm a little confused by your post(which i tend to do sometimes too) yet I think what your saying is a girl was eyeing you while she was with her man. I get the biggest kick when they do this. Unless shes with me lol. #1 In this situation shes obviously only good for a nail (at least most of the time). #2 its up to you whether you care or not about running game on this guy you don't knows girl. #3 you have to assess the situation carefuly, can you get her alone or comuniacte on the low some how? #4 Are you sure shes vibing you? cause if not you may wind up in a scuffle.
 
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yes, she was kinda giving mixed signals, so really confused about it. now, tell me something sosilky, u as a DJ, would u instantly start up a natural convo with a HB u see checking u out? or would u rather wait for her to come to you or try hard so taht u get to the point of starting it?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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schttrj said:
yes, she was kinda giving mixed signals, so really confused about it. now, tell me something sosilky, u as a DJ, would u instantly start up a natural convo with a HB u see checking u out? or would u rather wait for her to come to you or try hard so taht u get to the point of starting it?
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i think most guys in here would tell you the three second rule. if you see a girl your interested in from the time you see her it should take no more then three seconds to start your aproach to her. Lately I only do this if I'm realy feeling like a DJ but the goal is to be able to do this all the time no matter what. The theory is the more you force yourself to do it and take rejetions in stride the easier it gets and better you get at it. learn from each aproach.
 
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sosilky said:
i think ost guys in here would tell you the three second rule. if you see a girl your interested in from the time you see her it should take no more then three seconds to start your aproach to her. Lately I only do this if I'm realy feeling like a DJ but the goal is to be able to do this all the time no matter wat. The theor is the more you force yourself to do it and take rejetions in stride the easier gets and better you get at it. learn from each aproach.
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could u please explain me the 3-second rule? why 3-second and why not instantly?
 
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could u please explain me the 3-second rule? why 3-second and why not instantly?
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3 second rule is pretty self explanatory. 3 seconds practicaly is instantly. instantly is fine too.
 
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and guys, do any of you really struggle on approach, either warm or cold? how do u actually pull it off then?

and oh ya, do u guys recommend to go for the kill when its warm or should we also go for cold ones because we might build up the attraction from nil?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Approach the woman. Simple.

ALWAYS assume the woman is attracted to you unless proven otherwise. Any slight indication that she's attracted to you is a blinking green light with her voice yelling "Approach me you lazy fvck!"

If she actually is not attracted to you, she'll let you know.
 
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Desdinova said:
Approach the woman. Simple.

ALWAYS assume the woman is attracted to you unless proven otherwise. Any slight indication that she's attracted to you is a blinking green light with her voice yelling "Approach me you lazy fvck!"

If she actually is not attracted to you, she'll let you know.
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thats what i was wanting to hear! any different opinions here, guys? would like to second it? I am a sucker at approaching and really need some motivation lol
 
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